Your negative attitude can make him go cold


1.Failure to Pamper Him Once In A While

Who tells you men do not like to be pampered once in a while. Men were once boys before they became men. Decide to prepare his delicious food and feed him like a child. Put on top of him when having sex that special day you’ve set aside to pamper him. Instead of him being on top, climb him and be in charge of the process. Clean him nicely after the process and serve him with his favourite wine. Take him out and drive the car. You are the one in charge of everything that special day you set aside. Make him feel like a small boy.

Men love it when women take charge sometimes. Remember if you sow this type of seed into the relationship, you will get a double portion from the man. Unless you are living with an “ungrateful human being” who calls himself a man. About 99% of all men would reciprocate the things I have asked you to practice. I am a man and I know it works magic on men. Practice them and gauge the attitude of your partner towards you.

2.Failure to Respect His Families

Your husband is coming from a family. He wasn’t living on an island before you married him. Take note of his mother and father. Periodically visit them and give them some gifts. They will appreciate it. Remember you will not remain the way you are forever. Your child will also grow and get married one day. When that happens, you also become an in law. Do not forget his siblings and call them to find out how they are doing. It is very important to build your relationship around these people who matter to him. When problems come up between you and your husband, the in-laws come handy to provide assistance.

They serve as counsellors because they command so much influence in his life. Don’t view your in-laws as intruders. They are part and parcel of the relationship. They make the whole marriage union complete. In some cultures, the in-laws play significant role in the marriage arrangement. When in-laws are heavily involved in constituting the marriage, divorces in such marriages are rare. The man will think twice before taking any decision. Modernity in the 21st century has gradually throw this cherished value away. It is nice to recognize the parents. After all, your husband did not come out of the blue. Someone might be responsible for his growing up.

3.Failure to Encourage Him

We all have ups and downs at certain periods in our journey to success. It can be a very difficult road to travel. Discouragement can set in, leading to frustration and disappointment. This period in a man’s journey can be very challenging. Some men can easily throw in the towel if they lack self-tenacity to continue pressing on. This is the moment you need to encourage him to continue all the good things he has started. Your encouragement will serve as a morale booster for him. Men need the catalyst from their partners to press on. Even if he fails by not taking your special advice, don’t discourage him in his new adventure. No one knows which of his exploits will succeed.

Successful people are not without failures, but they are people who continue to learn from their mistakes until they arrive at their final destination. Words are powerful. God formed the earth by his spoken words. Learn to choose your words carefully. Encourage him with positive words as much as possible. Know that you will be part of his success story. When he fails the whole family has failed and so is when he succeeds the whole family will rejoice.

4.Failure to Respond to His Call Promptly

Taking very important things for granted can create problem in the relationship. Don’t tell yourself “after all, it is Sammy who is calling”. The mere fact that he is your husband does not mean you should take him for granted. Some women develop strange behaviours after the marriage. Your inability to pick his call can lead to huge financial loss to him.

If genuinely you’ve missed his call, be courteous to call him back.  It shows how serious you have taken your partner. Taking him for granted is a recipe for disaster in your relationship. We value how much attention you pay to our calls. Do unto others what you want them do to you. These are little but important things we take for granted that finally destroy the spark in the marriage. Bottom line; never take his calls for granted.

5.Failure to Stop Physical Fight With Him

What distinguishes us from animals is our ability to control our anger. You are human and can be angry because we dislike certain behaviours of our partners. You are not alone. I do get mad about certain things that did not go well in the house. But in the midst of all these things, it never crosses my mind to lay my hand on her or push her.

Some women physically assault their husbands, a big shame to these women, because men do not have any right to assault women. Men are not supposed to beat their wives. So are women. Do not allow your anger to lead you into physical assault of your partner. Learn to control your anger and emotions. You are more rational than animals. Do not lower yourself to their level. Don’t give the opportunity for your husband to retaliate by hitting you back.

6.Failure to Make Him Comfortable

Do not create problems at home. Some women have made the home uncomfortable for their husbands to an extent that the man doesn’t even feel like coming home after work. Their attitudes at home makes the men take solace elsewhere than their own homes. If you belong to these groups of women, you have to reflect on your behaviour towards your own husband. Have you created a lovely atmosphere in the home for him to miss home anytime he is out of the house? Something about you might be chasing him out of the house.

Do you call him to find out when he will be closing from work? Do you call to tell him you have prepared his favourite meal and want him soon at home? Do you call to tell him you are waiting for his French kiss? The questions could go on and on. But these questions draw the men home after work. It makes them connect to their partners anytime they are out of the house. Create something unique that will make your husband want to come home after he closes from work. Don’t allow alcohol or other things to be his second partner after work.

Reflect on these 6 failures and you can walk your way back to the arms of your partner

Scout Linsky

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