5 NEGATIVE ATTITUDES PARENTS EXHIBIT THAT MAKE THEIR KIDS AVOID THEM

Kids Hate Parents Who Do this thing

Your kid is giving to you to nurture and train so that he or she can become a responsible person in society when he or she grows up to join the adult community. I know this period can with so many challenges and frustrations; that can sometimes make us take decisions that will adversely affect the child.

Parenting is a complex process that parents must learn through patient, dedication, commitment, love, forgiveness and encouragement. Because, during this process, kids exhibit all kids of behaviors as part of their learning process. Be observant and allow them to play around without becoming too restrictive.

Below are the 5 things parents do that make their kids very unhappy

Many children I interviewed when I was about to write this post identified these five things they wish their parents avoid in bring them up.

1. BEATING OF YOUR KIDS

The first thing they hate about their parent was about the way and manner their parents beat them with the least mistakes they make at home. Subjecting your own child as well as other children to beating is a clear violation to their fundamental human rights. You can discipline your child to live up to an acceptable behavior but do not subject them to beatings. This bad childhood treatment could affect the child to adult life.

 Some children pick these negative behaviors and become bullies and subsequently maltreat their own spouses and children in like manner. Beating could also hinder the child to unearth his or her potential in life. I am not by this post suggesting to you that don’t discipline your child, but don’t beat your child as a way of correcting him or her.

2. FAILURE TO FULFIL WHAT YOU PROMISED YOUR KIDS

I know many of us are guilty in this regard. Children are very intelligent when it comes to promises we made to them. They will make sure that they hold you accountable to the promise you made to them. What I normally do if I made a promise to my children is to find an alternative gift to replace what I originally promised them if I can’t meet the exact promise I made to them.

Sometimes, our children may make demand outside your planned budget, but you have to explain to them why they can’t get what they want for now. We need to make our communication with our kids very effective, so that they would know what is important and what is essential but not very important. Once a promise is made we have to find a way to fulfill it. I know we can’t give them everything they demanded but let try to find a way to handle this issue with your kids?

3. FAILURE TO TAKE YOUR KIDS OUT ONCE IN A WHILE

‘Protective love’ can sometimes be detrimental to the growth of your child. Children must be made to go out to explore the natural environment outside the home as much as possible. When they are in the company of their parents outside the home, they may discover many new things to add to what they already know. Keeping your children indoors after school always, may take away their creativity that they may need for their total development.

Many children discover themselves when interacting with their physical environment and in the company with other kids. In my case, every school holiday, I managed to take my three grown up kids out to a place outside the city because the last one is too young to join us. Many of the places we visit are not expensive but it exposes the children to the ‘outside world’. You can plan and take your kids outside the home to the nearby park, museum or cultural center etc. There will be definitely a place in your neighborhood or city where you can send your child.

4. WHEN WE REFUSED TO LISTEN TO THEM BEFORE DISCIPLINING THEM

The common English law states that an accused person is deemed innocent until proven in a competent court of jurisdiction. Kids should be given the opportunity to express their views or opinions on any issue, we, adults deemed inappropriate or wrong. A lot of the time, parents are quick to give punishment without taking the time to listen to their side of the story. It is very appropriate to listen to them first, no matter the wrongs they have committed before taking any action against them. I one day disciplined my first son without listening to the side of his story only to be told by the sister that he wasn’t the one responsible for the offence I have accused him of.  We sometimes become judgmental especially when the child is already a ‘naughty child’. Do you sometimes feel guilty of such bladder? We must avoid this negative parental attitudes

5. WHEN WE FREQUENTLY INSULT THEM WITH THE LEAST PROVOCATION

       My wife, Lizzy, is guilty of this. She is quick to insult the the if they provoked her. There are many parents out there who also behave in similar manner. Shouting on our kids when they provoked us is a negative behavior that parents must avoid. I know we are human and tempers can sometimes fly through the rooftop but we should endeavor to manage our anger.

I know we are raising children in a challenging times but we need to apply patience and wisdom in nurturing them. Our children learn very fast, but unfortunately, they are also quick to learn about all the negative stuff from their parents. If you want to influence the positive behavior of your kids, try to adopt healthy behaviors that are positive. In this case you can influence them to pick positive behaviors that will not only make them fit into society, but help them contribute meaningfully to society. Share your views about this post and what you think should be added to the list.

Cheers

Scout Linsky

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