IS THE SACRIFICES YOU MAKE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Happy family gives birth to a happy home. Which family doesn’t want to live in happy home where there’s less conflict between the couples as well as the kids. Happy and long lasting harmonious home don’t happen as an event but continuous process in the marriage institution.
A retired police officer ever asked this rhetoric and hypothetical question sometimes ago-the question is: “is it possible to have happiness in marriage”? “Why did you asked”? I responded.
After two failed marriages, I came to the conclusion that there can’t be happiness in marriage.
If you also think like the police officer described above, then take the opportunity to read these 10 secrets to creating a happy family home..
SECRETS TO A HAPPY HOME 1
Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So, if you focus solely on your partners’ weaknesses all the time, there will not be space TIME for both of you to create a happy marriage home for you and your spouse as well as the kids.
My wife has a problem of organizing things in the home but she is friendlier than me. You marry your spouse to complement her and not to disperse her
SECRETS TO A HAPPY HOME 2
Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get marry, stop digging into his or her past life. May be she has changed or about changing. A onetime UN general secretary from Egypt, Brutros Brutros Ghali “said it is only a fool who doesn’t changed his mind” this was the time he was contesting for the second term in office, having denied going for a second term.
What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.
SECRETS TO A HAPPY HOME 3
Every marriage has its own challenge. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow. “For better for worse. In sickness and in health”.
Don’t take the vows you made before man and God lightly. The framers of the marriage vows had very good insight for coming out with the vows. It’s for a good reason. The God who institutes marriage will help you to overcome all the challenges that come your way in the marriage.
SECRETS TO A HAPPY HOME 4
Every marriage has different levels of success. Don’t compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will achieve success in a relatively short time while others may take years to achieve the same feat.
To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true. Be positive in your marriage and always pray and wish the best for the marriage.
SECRETS TO A HAPPY HOME 5
To get married is like declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
- Third party influence
- Lack of love
- Lack of trust
- Taking your partner for granted
- Lack of entertainment
- Lack of money
- Stop nagging and whining
- Avoid selfishness & greed
- Poor or no sexual life
Be ready to work on the above items as much as possible to create the kind of home you envisage before going into the marriage. It’s possible to have a happy home when you work at it every day.
SECRETS TO A HAPPY HOME 6
There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready-made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages and live it unattended to while wishing to live in a happy marriage hope.
SECRETS TO A HAPPY HOME 7
God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mold the person that you desire to meet your taste. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience. If you desire a complete and happy marriage home you must first and foremost learn to accommodate your partner’s differences. Don’t expect perfection from him or her- there’s no perfection in marriage
SECRETS TO A HAPPY HOME 8
Getting married is taking a huge risk. You cannot predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change, so, leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce for lack of a child.
If you desire a happy marriage life then learn to adjust according to the situation you find yourself
SECRETS TO A HAPPY HOME 9
Marriage is not a contract. It is permanent. It needs total commitments. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce. The great marriages you see today are the marriages that went through the most challenges sometimes ago but the couples resolved to remain in it and make it successful in order to encourage others like you to do same. Once they have been able to overcome the challenges in their marriages- you too can do same
SECRETS TO A HAPPY HOME 10
Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don’t deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful marriage home.
Ask yourself this question- what sacrifices am I making in order to secure my marriage in the future. Am I playing my role effectively as expected of me? Do I take my partner seriously etc.?
So, today, pray for your marriage and ask God to help you where you are lacking in the marriage. Believe that things will change for the better and always feed your thoughts in your marriage with positive thoughts. Desire a happy marriage home and it shall be possible for you.