IS YOUR ATTITUDE DRIVING HIM AWAY FROM YOU?
No one says relationship should be a bed of roses neither should it be problem free in any sense of imagination. And so far as we live and interact with our partners on daily basis, we are likely to do one thing or the other that can upset them.
But, my focus for discussion is some of the things we do deliberately and purposefully with the intention of making our partners angry and unhappy in our relationship while we go complaining of the negative attitude of our partners
1. FAILURE TO CREATE A HAPPY HOME ENVIRONMENT
I hope you do not want your husband or partner to die and leave you and your children behind so early. That is the reason why you need to make him happy by creating a happy home environment that will compel him to come home as soon as he closes from work.
Learn how to massage him at least once in the mouth, preferably during the weekend. Treat him with new freaky sexual styles you are comfortable with and which will also make him go ballistic on you.
Sex is an antidote which calm the nerves of men and makes them sleep well as well as become sober and reflective. Do not deny him sex if he requested for it. As a matter of fact you’ve what it takes to “control” your man to do your wish at all time if you know what to do as a woman.
Create the enabling condition in the home to make him happy at all times by avoiding attitude that will drive him crazy away from home.
2. FAILURE TO CONTINUE TO SHOW HIM AFFECTION
Do men also need affection you asked? Yes, they do need affection just as women need it but the ego of men makes them shield theirs unlike women.
It is important to bring back some of the things that made you want to see him passionately each day. You’ve stop sending him romantic text messages. He has come to the conclusion that you no longer care about him.
You stopped hugging and kissing him affectionately as you use to do. Let him feel the fondness in every area of your life towards him. Oh! Men also want affection just like women.
Don’t hide your affection towards him. Demonstrate it and let him know about it. It will not make him slip out of your hand into other women. Because he gets all the satisfaction a man may desire from a woman at home.
A pastor of a well-established church went off his way and fell into the arms of a flirt. Even though the woman was said to be flirtatious in all her ways, the pastor may be getting something the wife was not giving him, hence his drifting to the other woman.
I am not justifying the wrong act of the pastor in question but I want to encourage our ladies to do their best not to drive their men to take romantic refuge in other women’s home instead of their own homes.
3. FAILURE TO BE TRUTHFUL AND LOYAL TO HIM
Truth be told that Lies destroy any type of relationship and friendship. Don’t allow the situation you find yourself forced you to cover up any vital issues from him. Be truthful because your personal integrity before your partner will always come to the fore.
Let your husband stand by you for what you stand for. Admit your mistake by telling the truth. It is in your own interest to remain truthful all the time. Your relationship needs that ingredient for happy coexistence. If telling your husband the truth could cause the marriage to break up, I always say, tell the truth and set your conscience free.
Remain loyal to your partner no matter the difficulty you are facing in the marriage. I am not talking about remaining in abusive relationship because you want to be loyal to him but when it’s in your power to be truthful do just that.
4. YOU FAILED THESE DAYS TO CONNECT WITH HIM INTIMATELY
If the chemistry in the relationship is no longer existing or put on hold, most men unlike women, who may endure the discomfort for some time, may go looking for the fulfillment of that need from other women.
I know your husband or partner could have wrong you in one way or the other but settle issues quickly and resume normal intimacy with him. Don’t go overboard to drive your partner out of the house.
You have the power to tame your man by the way treat him. Be smart and intelligence to get your way right with men and get what you want from him.
5. FAILURE TO DRESS ROMANTIC AND LOOK SEXY FOR HIM
Men are visually sensitive when they see certain things of women. Men easily give up when they see beautifully shaped women with sexy breasts, smooth and attractive faces, sexy legs, hips etc. At that moment, most men would allow their sexual emotions to appeal to them irrespective of their marital status. I think God made men like that, so that, they can get attracted to the opposite sex and have a relationship with them.
Make your dressing appeal to him as if you are still dating him. Whether you like it or not you will not be the most attractive woman in the area you live. There are girls and women who are more beautiful and dress better than you. So don’t dress any how and think your husband is a saint.
Every man turns to look at a beautiful woman once or twice when he sees one. So, be the beautiful girl for your husband by your appearance both in and outside the house.
Dress to tell your story and let your appearance send a message to him.
6. FAILURE TO RECOGNIZE THAT YOU CAN BE WRONG AND SAY I AM SORRY
‘I didn’t get it right’ is a sign of deep maturity and demonstrate your readiness to establish peace and draw you closer to your partner.
Many problems in relationships could be solved if we summon the courage to say I am sorry, forgive me. If your partner fails to forgive you, you have played your part before man and God.
Even, when you are right; for the sake of peace, just go ahead to say sorry in order not to prolong the conflict between the two of you. It appears we allow pride to rule over our conscience. It does not take anything from you as a person when you apologize. Your refusal to say it may suggest you are not respectful to him.
You should understand the thinking of men. Don’t destroy your relationship for your refusal to use this 2 letter words, I am sorry. Be humble enough to tell your partner you are sorry. Do it from a sincere heart and don’t continue to repeat what triggers the offense in the first place.
7. YOU ARE NO MORE LOVELY
Once upon the time your partner sees you as a lovely and caring partner. But what has changed in the way you approach and handle him.
If you treat him anyhow, it will not be long before he will start avoiding you. Do you know that if your partner is not happy you can’t pretend to be happy either in the relationship? You must be the lovely lady that he knows you to be so that you can continue to be dear to his heart.
Take a second look at these 7 awful things that women do; which can drive men away from them and revise your relationship note with your partner.