8 TEACHER APPRECIATION GIFTS PARENTS SHOULD CONSIDER FOR THEIR KIDS TEACHERS

THE REWARD OF THE TEACHER IS NO MORE IN HEAVEN

The table above shows 10 worst paid countries and 10 best paid countries for teachers salaries worldwide

“ It takes a big heart to shape little minds”-Unknown

When I was in high school some two decades ago, our English teacher asked the class a question that took more than 5 minutes for an answer to be given. The question goes like this: Which of you would like to become a teacher after his or her university education? Two students, a boy and a girl broke the silence by raising their hands. When he called the first one to tell the class why he wants to become a teacher, he said “I want to become a teacher so that when I get a good job, I can easily quit.

The second person, a lady, said I want to become a teacher so that I can get a good husband and quit teaching. The teacher asked the second question: why do you want to quit teaching and switch to something else as soon as another opportunity come your way? The answer they two gave was obvious amidst laughter from the class “teachers are poorly paid and they don’t want to become poor.

The teacher trains so many professionals and the society must appreciate the contributions of teachers to encourage them to do what is best for our society.  “IF YOU CAN READ THIS POST THANK THE TEACHER

There’s this ancient saying we all have heard about “the reward of the teacher is in heaven” Gone were the days when the teacher serves as the pivot that rallies the society behind for the good of the society. But, you don’t need a soothsayer to tell you that teachers are poorly remunerated worldwide apart from a few countries that are doing well by paying attention to their teachers through the pay the teachers receive in terms of salary paid to their elementary school teachers. The reward of the teacher is no more in heaven but here on earth

As society “develops” things have changed and the very society whose children the teacher trains, mold and nurture for prosperous future must reciprocate in similar manner by showing appreciation to all hardworking teachers worldwide.  Even though society can’t compensate teachers enough for what they are doing and continue to do, it’s lovely to show appreciation for your children’s teachers to serve as motivation for them to do more.

8 APPRECIATION GIFTS TO CONSIDER FOR YOUR KIDS TEACHER

1. BUY MOTIVATION BOOKS OR AUDIO CD TO APPRECIATE YOUR KIDS TEACHER

As a professional teacher for several years with two awards to my credit, I can say authoritatively that the classroom teacher can be demotivated sometimes especially when the working environment and condition of service for the teacher serves as disincentive for him or her.

In the light of this it will be a wise decision to present a motivational book or CD to your kid’s teacher to motivate him or her to continue to do the best for the kids placed under their care. The demand placed on teachers made most of them not been able to read any other books apart from their areas they are trained for. It takes teachers with guts to go the extra mile.

Popular and inspirational motivational books include:

  1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effectively People by John C. Maxwell
  2. The Power of Positive Thinking by Normal Vincent Peale
  3. Awaken the Giant Within
  4. The Magic Power of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz
  5. The Power of Now in Hindi by Echhart Tolle
  6. The One Thing by Gary W. Keller and Jay Papagan
  7. The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
  8. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

2. BUY CELL PHONE FOR KIDS TEACHER AS APPRECIATION GIFT

Presenting a cell phone to your wards teacher is a sexy thing to do especially at the time that the cell or mobile phone occupies the greater part of our lives. The presentation of a phone will be welcoming and charming.

If you know that your child teacher deserves the best as your child, then it will not be out of place to hand him or her a good smart phone. He or she would be more than happy to receive a smart phone from you.

3. BUY QUALITY SHIRT FOR MALE TEACHERS AS APPRECIATION GIFT

Men value quality designer shirt or polo shirt especially office workers as well as teachers. Since society expects our teachers to be role model, they are obliged to dress neatly at all times before their students. Your presentation of a shirt to him will urge him to continue to dress neatly.

Let your kid tell you the type of shirt he likes wearing to school and the color of shirt he usually wear. This will give you an idea of his favorite colors.

4. BUY ANY HOME ACCESSORIES FOR THE TEACHER AS HIS OR HER APPRECIATION GIFT

You can buy stuff for his or her home décor. Table lamps, floor lamps, chandeliers and more may be ideal for his or her home decor. Home decorating does not just include the interior of the home. It should also extend outdoors as this is the part of your property seen first by your guests. A smartly decorated outdoor space will give the right impression to your guests.

You can also consider the following home accessories for him or her

  1. A tray. A tray is such a useful accessory and can look great in many places
  2. Sculpture. Sculpture offers an opportunity to really personalize his or her room
  3. Candlesticks- Do you have a collection of candlesticks shoved in a cabinet somewhere?
  4. A decorative box. Who can resist a small box for stashing jewelry, eyeglasses or the remote control
  5. Glazed pottery. Balance a collection of like-colored pottery pieces on a mantel or a shelf.
  6. An art grouping. If you have one great print, think of how great it could look if there were six. Branches offer a touch of nature on the inside of a home.
  7. Faux antlers. A classic accessory for walls. Available in a multitude of materials, from iron to felt, faux antlers add a touch of whimsy to a room.
  8. A bar cart. Great looking and practical. This versatile piece does double duty as furniture and bar annex in a living room, a den, a dining room … really anywhere you would like to serve a drink
  9. A starburst mirror. Over a large-scale piece like a bed, a sofa or a fireplace, a starburst mirror creates a great focal point
  10. A splash of zebra. Whether on a footstool or a pillow, a zebra pattern looks great everywhere.
  11. Flower power. Let’s start with the most basic accessorizing item: fresh flower

When a parent recognizes the contribution of the teacher through teacher appreciation, it will not only motivate the teacher but it would form lasting impression in the minds of the teacher. The quality of item presented is necessary but not as important as the rationale behind it.

Your demonstration of your gift will show that you care and value their contributions toward the training of your child. Make teacher appreciation truly special for your child’s teacher

5. BUY QUALITY LADIES HAND BAG AS TEACHER APPRECIATION GIFT FOR YOUR KIDS TEACHER

There’s something amazing about our hardworking ladies that you can’t just explain. They are never satisfied with buying any cool stuff they consider worth possessing. If only they set their eyes on it, it’s worth having. Ladies bag is not an exception.

Enter a ladies room and the number of bags in the room is more than the number of shoes. My wife, despite the number of bags she has, can’t set her eyes off from buying new bags

Buying a beautiful ladies bag for your ward teacher will be a nice thing to do. You will never know how long she has been praying for a new bag.

Buy a bag that you will be proud of if you should be the recipient of the gift.

6. BUY LADIES SHOE FOR KID’S TEACHER AS TEACHER APPRECIATION GIFT

I asked a lady friend why ladies change their shoes as often as they change their dress. She tells me when it comes to shoes and clothing, its women’s world and added that without women the shoe industry would collapse.

Just like bags, shoes are also another important gift to present as a gift for her appreciation.

When I was in high school, we’ve a lady teacher we affectionately called Lady T because of the way she changes her shoes. Interestingly most of her shoes are color yellow, red and pick. This character of her, makes her unique among the lady teachers.

So, if you are considering a gift for your kid’s teacher, think of a nice color that can comfortably match most her dresses.

7. PRESENT A VACATION COUPLE TO YOUR KID’S TEACHER AS APPRECIATION GIFT

All work and no play makes jack a dull boy indeed. As a matter of fact most teachers don’t go on vacation or holiday for one reason or the other.

It’s public knowledge that the salary of majority of teachers will not be enough to take good care of them and their families. So getting a coupon for him or her to go on summer vacation would serve as a dream come true. If you plan for it, it can be possible to give that surprise to him or her.

Make the world a beautiful place by creating a fondling memory in the minds of your son or daughter’s teacher.  

8. PRESENT A CHOCOLATE BOX TO YOUR KIDS TEACHER AS APPRECIATION GIFT

My daughter Chisty never stops from eating any sweet after meal. In the light of this, I have decided to replace the sweet with chocolate because of the health benefit of the product. Chocolate box is a good gift to present to your ward teacher especially the lady teachers this season.  

We have been able to look at various teacher appreciation gifts to consider. Take a look at them and make teacher appreciation truly memorable for your kid’s teacher.

God bless you!

Scout Linsky

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5 RATIONALE FOR ASKING FOR MORE HELP THIS YEAR

THE FOOL SAYS IN HIS HEART THERE’S NO HELP IN THE WORLD

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“The only mistake you can make is not asking for help”-(Sandeep Jauhar) it’s disheartening to see people go through life failing to seek help to enable them achieve their goals in life. Don’t be an island in this big world where there are many people ready to support your effort.

Whatever you want to do and become people have already become and are ready to provide you with all the assistance you need. The bible says “ask and it shall be giving to you, seek and ye shall find and knock and it shall be opened to you” (Matthew 7:7) “No man really becomes a fool until he stops asking questions”-Charles Steinmetz

Let’s find below 5 rationale for asking for more help this year

1. ASKING FOR HELP ENABLE US TO LEARN MORE

There’s an old saying that goes like this “ the stranger who asks for direction never get missing on his way to a destination” In this day and age where information is splashed all over the place, we’ve people who refused to seek for help on their way to get whatever they are seeking to achieve.

The truth is that there’s nothing new under the sun say the good book the bible. And the interesting thing is that there are people who are ready to offer expertise free of charge if only we seek to learn more about the path to get to where we want to go.

Whatever you want to do or achieve in life, it’s absolutely possible someone has travel that path before, hence they know the in and out of the field very well. If you care to know, they will tell you their failures and successes. You must tap from this experience so that you don’t repeat the mistakes they have made; giving you a leverage to achieve more in a relatively shorter time. Be courageous to ask for help this very moment. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. If the answer to your first request is no, move on to ask the second, third, fourth person until you get a yes response.

2. ASKING FOR HELP ENABLES US TO MINIMIZE OR VOID MISTAKES

Remember no one becomes a fool until he stops asking questions-Charles Steinmet

Even though we can’t shy away from mistakes if we want to become successful, there are avoidable mistakes we should not make. Why? Because people in similar field made all the mistakes already and develop strategies to overcome them

In the olden days it’s difficult if not in possible to get information about anything. But today, we are in information age where all you need is by a chick of a button. Today there are good number of successful people out there who are ready to assist you succeed.

Don’t be naive by stopping to ask question. Go a heard and ask the relevant question that will enable you to avoid making unnecessary and costly mistakes

3. ASKING FOR HELP SPEED UP YOUR SUCCESS

Successful people know their weaknesses and ask for help if that will enable them achieve their goals on time. When Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul wants ways to market their book to many more people, he sought the assistance from the friend, whose help make him make several hundred thousands of copies. According to Jack, the help he sought from the friend saved him so many time and money. Their partnership led to more sales than he imagined possible.

“If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want and copy what they do and you’ll achieve the same result” Tony Robbins( Personal Development Guru

I believe you are not trying to reinvent the wheel when so much of the hard work has been done for you already. If you can humble yourself and leave your comfort zone, you can easily get the information that will empower you to achieve your dreams in a short time what has taken some several years to get to where they are today.

4. ASKING FOR HELP ENABLE US TO AVOID TRY AND ERROR

Even though I must admit try and error is fundamental to our guest to discover something new or perhaps solve a bigger problem, it will be suicidal on your part when what you are looking to achieve has been done a hundred of times if not a million times. Unless you want to come out with something entirely new, which the world has not witnessed before.

The world has gone through so many transformation and innovations several hundreds of years ago. If your idea is not something that can get the world talking about it, then someone has done similar thing else.

What industry do want to explore? Is it fashion, real estate, technology, gaming app, blogging, robot technology, online or affiliate marketing etc,  people have already choked successes in these areas and are willing to share their knowledge and experience with you.

You don’t need to waste the time to start anything new. You can learn from these people who are experts in their respective fields. See what they are doing and modify what is already existing in the market to add value to people than they are doing now. Be smart and create your own unique brand from the existing products in the markets. The age of try and error is gradually been done away with due to the fact that there’s virtually no space in any field that has not been tested and ventured into. Remembe, seek and you shall find, what are you waiting?

5. ASKING FOR HELP SERVES AS MOTIVATION TO PRESS ON

Are you discouraged or frustrated to press on in order to achieve your dream of a better life or assist many people come out of poverty?

Don’t worry at all. Many successful people have been there before. It’s very common to give up when your stretched goal seem to be far from it been achieved. The famous Thomas Edison is a good example whose story is well known. If he had given up from trying we won’t have electrical bulbs in our homes.

The good news is that you have thousands of people who have walk down the same road and come out to achieve their desires.

Seek their advice and professional counselling to learn how they deal with discouragement on their way to achieving success. Buy CDs of expert in the area you want to explore. Don’t allow your past disappointments stop you from asking for help again.

Successful people still ask for help in order to provide enough goods and services for the world. I want you to know that saying no is part the things you must accept when seeking for help from people.

Zig Ziglar made us a way that all successful people modelled their businesses along original successful business. He coined a term called follow the follower.

If you do what successful people do, you would learn about their mistakes and how to overcome them.  When you need motivation to keep going, head to your stores and get some copies to listen to.

It’s abundantly clear that we all need help in one or the other on our path to achieving financial freedom

Nothing in this world should stop you from asking for more help.

Until our post,

Stay blessed

Emmanuel                                                                                                                                                               

20 WAYS PARENTS CONTRIBUTE TO MAKING THEIR KIDS MORALLY CORRUPT

DON’T ENCOURAGE CORRUPT BEHAVIORS OF YOUR KID

The sign of great parenting is not the child’s behavior. The sign of truly great parenting is the parent’s behavior-Andy Smithson. The reality is that your kids watch what you do more than what we say. They know whether we approve of a negative behavior or disapprove of it.

Your child can’t in anyway be different from you. Your action and inaction contribute significantly in molding and shaping the personality that would emerge as adult individual some days to come. The question is: do we show improper upbringing of our kids, yes, some parents do and most of the time they do it without knowing.

Take a look at the under listed scenarios and see ways you might not be aware you are contributing negatively to the moral upbringing of your child. If you identify any such behaviors, be quick to correct them in a lovely manner.

1. VISITING YOUR KIDS IN SCHOOL IN SHABILY DRESSED MANNER  

 Don’t go to your child school inappropriately dressed. Your kid’s and the friends have so much respect for you so reflect on this anytime you want to go visit them. The impression you create may last forever in their minds whether negatively or positively.

2. TALKING HARSHLY TO YOUR CHILD’S TEACHER

Don’t talk to your kid’s teacher in front of them with harsh words. The teacher may offend your kid, but follow the school guidelines by reporting any misconduct to the school management without becoming rude to the teacher. The teacher is placed there to mold and train your kids so that the best may come out of them.

3. CURSING OR USING INAPPROPRIATE LANGUAGE IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD

Your child is smarter than you think he or she is. They observe anything you do and pick these negative habits from you each and every day.

Even if you are offended by your spouse or the kids, never go overboard by the kind of bad language you use on them. Ask yourself, what kind of children do I want my kids to be in the future? (Think about this)

4. USING MAKE UP ON CHILDREN

There is a current trend that may not apply in all geographical locations across the globe. However, it is increasingly becoming common to see make-up being applied to very young girls in the name of making them look beautiful. Do you know the impression you are creating in her mind and what that can lead her to? (Do a sober reflection as a mother)

5. DRESSING YOUR LITTLE KIDS INDECENTLY

If you don’t want your kids to lose their sense of “princesshood”, then reconsider how you dress them when they are going out to the public. Do you know the way you dress her tells the kind of image she may carry in her mind?

6. PUTTING EAR RINGS ON YOUR SON’S EARS

It’s not everything that’s worth emulating. Let your child knows what is expected of him as a son. Inculcate the high moral value in him and the kind of life society expected of him. If he grows up and pick his own lifestyle, you have play your part as a responsible parent.

7. TEACH YOUR CHILD TO GREET VISITORS

Don’t think he or she is a child and may grow up to do what’s right. Your visitors may carry a negative impression about the kind of training you are giving them. It will be difficult to correct this bad impression about you and it will be difficult to make a second impression on your visitors.

8. BAD EATING HABIT

Don’t allow your kids to eat with their mouth opened and the food scattered on the table mat. Teach them good table manners. Let them pick this right behavior from the onset.

9. BRINGING ITEM YOU HAVE NOT BOUGHT FOR THEM HOME

Do you check regularly your child’s bag? If you do regularly you will know whether he or she has brought something foreign to the house. Your kid may pick something that don’t belong to him or her. Let them return it immediately.

Let them know you don’t approve this type of behavior. It amounts to thievery.

10. TEACH YOUR CHILD TO TALK POLITELY TO PEOPLE

Don’t allow the age of modernity blind you from teaching your child how to talk to people with respect. Don’t encourage them to talk back to you when you are correcting them because you are modern mum or dad.

11. TEACH THEM NOT TO INTERRUPT WHEN TALKING WITH ANOTHER ADULT

Teach your child this basic manners. They should know when to give you privacy when you have visitors. Don’t assumed they are bold and clever. It’s really bad manners.

12. TEACH THEM TO RESPECT THE NANNY AND THE DOMESTIC STAFF

Don’t forget your child will grow up and treat people badly when you encourage this negative type of behavior. Don’t be a bad parent by allowing this type of behavior.

13. TEACH THEM TO SAY THANK YOU IF THEY ARE HELPED

Teach your children to say thank you anytime somebody helped them. They will learn to show appreciation to people when they grow up

14. TEACH THEM TO RESPECT THE LESS PRIVILEGED

All the figures are not equal. There will always be those who are less fortunate than us and such people must be respected. Let them learn to show compassion to people who are less privileged than them.

15. TEACH THEM TO WASH THEIR HAND AFTER SCHOOL BEFORE PICKING THINGS TO EAT

Your child touches so many things before coming home. Teach them to adopt proper hygienic practices by washing their hands with soup before picking things around to eat when they return from school.

16. TEACH THEM TO ASK PERMISSION BEFORE TALKING SOMETHING OUT

I know you love your kids but teach them to seek permission before taking things from the house to the school or outside. You will never know what they are likely to send out. Asking permission for basic thing is the value to inculcate to young children. I disagree with people who say people should not be taught to ask for permission.

17. TEACH THEM TO KNOCK BEFORE ENTERING YOUR ROOM

Teach your children to knock and get a response before opening the door. When he or she acquires this positive behavior it will carry them on throughout life.

18. TEACH THEM TO COLLECT ITEM YOU BRING HOME

Don’t allow your kids to watch you as a visitor when you are coming home carrying something. Let them practice this value anytime you coming back home by collecting it from you to demonstrate respect to you.

19. TEACH THEM NOT TO TELL LIES

Teach your young kids to learn how to tell the truth when they are confronted with the reality to do so. Don’t encourage them when they tell lies at home, when this behavior is not discouraged it will affect them in their adult life

20. TEACH THEM TO GREET WHEN COMING BACK FROM SCHOOL

Don’t look on when your child comes home without greeting you. Be a responsible parent by teaching them to do this each other day.

We’ve been able to look at 20 morally negative behaviors that parents should not ignored when you want your kids to become a responsible adult in the future.

Stay blessed

Emmanuel

7 WEIRD REASONS EVERY WOMAN NEEDS A HUSBAND OF HER OWN

EVERY WOMAN DESERVES A RESPONSIBLE AND LOVELY HUSBAND

Take it or leave it, every woman secretly admire the married woman life at one point in time or the other and for that matter wish she is married just like the colleagues not to talk of some lovely families with their intelligence kids. Lucky them some say in their heart. Even though we are living in an age where everything can be done by yourself-we still need to go back to the basic. How did you come to this world in the first place? Do a sober reflection and tell me your parent were wrong giving birth to you.

Your dad and mum gave birth to as a wonderful person and the whole world rejoice over your birth because you are like none other. Don’t disappoint your parents by your pretense, “you don’t need a husband”.

Be 100% frank with the following questions before proceeding to read the articles.

  1. Have you ever thought of having your own child or adopting one?
  2. Who gave birth to you?
  3. Do you have a mother and a father-dead or alive?
  4. Are you sure you are emotionally satisfied?
  5. Are you sure you are satisfied dealing with all your problems alone?
  6. Have you ever sought assistance from a man before?
  7. Have you ever attended a wedding event before? What was the feeling?
  8. Have you ever thought of being wedded?
  9. Who are you? Do you really know yourself as a woman?
  10. If you should come back to this earth again, would you still maintain your gender?

If you agree to any three of the questions above, you are just pretending you don’t need a man and for that matter a husband. As a matter of fact many women in the world are living false life, pretending all is well while their heart, soul, spirit and mind tell them something different.

Don’t be offended reading this post with a feminine lenses but I am thinking a loud and answers seem to be far from me.

 Now let look at the reasons why every woman needs a husband.

1. FOR EMOTIONAL SUPPORT

Let face if squarely, we all need to share part of our emotions with the opposite sex as designed by nature. I know some of you may not agree with me because some of you have already prog[e1] rammed your mind not to share that emotions with someone with the opposite sex but with the same sex like you. I am not talking about sharing emotions with your daughters, sisters, and female cousins.

 I’m talking about emotions shared by the opposite sex. We all have that need that can be meant by your husband. Yes, your husband. The creator predisposes men to provide that support for their wives. If you don’t believe my story get marry and learn how couples share emotional bonding. You can’t get that kinds of emotions outside marriage

2. SEXUAL FULFILLMENT

You can pretend to be fulfilled by artificial means as some women adopt as lifestyle-but that type of fulfillment is not lasting because it’s not natural. As a matter of fact some women, respectfully are living “empty life” by pretending to the outside world they are enjoying themselves and influencing others along that line.

The reality is that a substitute product can’t replace the original product. True True True. You can’t substitute water for soft drinks. The semen a man discharge during sexual encounter has its own benefit to the woman. Numerous studies have revealed the benefits of sex to the woman. The artificial method of sexual encounter can’t provide the natural satisfaction you truly want. We’ve to face it. The creator has a purpose of creating them men and men. The fluid of the man is beneficial to you as a woman.

3. PHYSICAL SUPPORT

Who doesn’t need support in life? We all do need support whether in business, career, buying a new car, relocating to a new residence, buying a house etc. Because all the genders have their shortcomings and strengths, you shouldn’t be jack of all trade master of none. There should be wisdom behind natures’ creation of all living things male and female, at least for the strong one to support the weak ones.

Don’t undermine the intelligence of nature because man’s canal mind has a limitation. Do you know the number of women who are soldiers at the war front, pilot in the war plane, farmers in the jungle etc.? It’s not by mistakes that men are involved in these activities even though the female population worldwide outnumber the male population.

The occupations are physical nature and not ideal for the average woman who are designed to relax, enjoy good health, be pampered, be given a shoulder to cry on etc. The man in your life is to provide the comfort you need. Why deny yourself what should be yours. You need a man sometimes to undertake the physical part. That’s also the reasons why your soft part must complete his hard physical party.

One day, my wife got annoyed with me and refused to talk to me. Unfortunately, she got very ill the following morning at the time I was preparing to go to work. I’ve to stop going to work and send her to the hospital immediately. The illness was so sudden that she could either talk or move any part of the body.

I didn’t know what would have happened if I was not around to call the ambulance service. Re-examine” I don’t need anybody mentality”. Even if you are a millionaire you can’t do everything as a woman, true be told. Sometimes you need the human interface such as a man in your life to see things in a different perspective.

At times we failed to recognize the fact that we are all living under the laws of the universe; which want us to have the best of life and live abundant life. Our failure to recognize this and fight our life battle alone has been the cause of disharmony and chaos in our life sometimes.

4. PSYCHOLOGICAL AND FINANCIAL SUPPORT

The current economic activities in the modern world can psychologically and emotionally drained you to your elastic limit and when this happens you need someone to give you support that can encourage and lift you up.

The reality is that you need that manly warm touch to assure you, darling, you are great-you can make things happen irrespective of the challenges.

A lot of women became who they are today because of the support they receive from responsible men. I know there are wicked and evil men-who don’t wish women to succeed. Don’t reinvent the wheel when you are to enjoy the support of men. There are good men out there looking for good women like you. Stop hiding yourself and get discovered

It’s not by mistakes that economic power largely drifted towards men since the time of  creation. This is nature’s design to enable men to provide the needed financial assistance as much as they can to women. This is not to mean women can’t live financial independent life. No! Some women are doing better financially than men, but my point is that women should benefit from the financial dominance of men in the commerce of life.

5. OBEDIENCE TO THE LAW OF NATURE

In the begging the creator of the universe made them man and woman at least from the historical book, the bible.

 Why kick against the laws of nature when you are supposed to take advantage of it. It looks like some women are easily influenced by what others decide “to be the ideal way of living or way of life” Why should allow your fellow mortal being decides what’s good for your life. Don’t waste your beautiful life given to you by your creator. You may never know you are carrying the next president of your country

What do you want in life, beautiful children or lonely life? Think about these things.

6. FOR LOVE AND INTIMACY

Life is not all about me, me, me but the ability to share yourself with each other through relationship with the opposite sex. Why do you want to share your life alone when someone is praying to have somebody like you as a partner or wife? Don’t be so hard on yourself but open up- for there’s more for you and remember there’s no love or marriage under the grave.

All our beautiful bodies would one day been devoured by termites and ants. So if you have any meaningful enjoyment in life, this is the time and not the life after this earth.

7. TO COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER

My late mother told me a story about my aunt Monica who refused to marry any man that comes her way because she thought she didn’t need a man in her life. She was a very successful business woman and has everything money can buy.

When the realization dawned on her to have a child it became too late. She got a boyfriend with the intention of getting pregnant and have a child but none came at her advance age of 45. She died without a child and left behind all the things she worked so hard for.

No man or woman can pretend to be truly satisfied without the involvement of the opposite partner.  You need somebody to appreciate your beautiful look, designer dress, shoes, necklace etc. This appreciation is so deep if it comes from a man.

The world was created several hundreds of years ago and none of us, human, can change the order of nature. We all need companionship in life. Some people are crying in their rooms alone because of lack of a companion. Others need somebody to talk to or give them basic support to assist them do basic stuff but there was nobody around to answer them.

Don’t be deceived-you aren’t going to be young forever. You will need somebody to care and appreciate you. Nobody can do that better for you than your husband or partner.

This post look at 7 reasons why every woman need a partner or husband. If you have something more to add don’t hesitate to share, please pin and read later.

Stay blessed

Emmanuel


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14 TRENDING GIFTS TO PRESENT TO YOUR BOY FRIEND

IF YOU LOVE YOUR BOYFRIEND SHOW IT THROUGH YOUR GIFTS

14 TRENDING GIFTS TO PRESENT TO YOUR BOY FRIEND

Have you heard the old expression before: If you love me show it? This expression is really true, because the only way you can convince me about your love is to show it. The only way I would way I would be convinced by her deeper love for me is through the demonstration of what she does for me to see.

I know many young girls find it extremely difficult to find the right gifts to present to their boyfriends in order to exhibit how much they love and care. I had a niece who came to me a month ago very confused and seems to be frustrated.  After calming her down, I asked the obvious question: Do you have problems with your boyfriend. She nodded in disagreement. So, what’s the problem, young woman?

I was surprised by the answer she gave. She didn’t know the right gift to present to the boyfriend for his birthday. Is that all I asked smiling. She nodded the head in agreement. I told her what to buy and that gift seems to fit perfectly into what the guy was planning to buy for his 22nd birthday.

 A lot of girls may have problem selecting the right gifts to present to the one they truly love especially when it appears as if there’s a “competition” of another girl around the boyfriend who’s equally seeking for attention.

I wrote this post to assist many young ladies like my niece to choose the perfect gifts to present to their loved ones by selecting any of the item listed below when they are contemplating about what to buy and present as a gift to their boyfriends.

1. PRESENT A DESIGNER SHIRT FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

There are different designer shirt in the market. The high quality brands include

  1. Anna Matuozzo
  2. Battistoni
  3. Ralph
  4. Barba Napoli,
  5. Brioni
  6. Charles Tyrwhitt
  7. Hilditch and Key
  8. Brooks Brothers
  9. Gitman
  10. Lorenzini etc.

 You can visit https://www.nextluxury.com and https://www.fashionbeans.com

Before you buy any shirt, try and find out about his favorite color combination so that you can buy the right stuff for him. If you have enough money, you can buy two different designer shirts for him at the same time. You would never know which of the two shirts would fit in perfectly.  If you don’t have money for two stuff, please settle on one and let it be something he will cherish so much.

2. PRESENT GUY’S UNDERWEAR FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

Do you know that young guys find it difficult to change their underpants very often as ladies do? Yes, they can wear the same thing for days before thinking of changing them. Buying a set of underpants will be ideal to the heart of your guy when they receive them. I don’t know why but it appears buying the under stuff is difficult for the guys; so help your guys to change their pants regularly. Your guy would be grateful any time he wears it.

There’re varieties of men’s underwear in the market. But the popularly ones which are cool with guys include:

  1. silk Smooth boxer Briefs,
  2. Trunk
  3. Slim Fit Boxer
  4. Nice Laundry
  5. Cotton Stretch Trunk Briefs, Polo Ralph
  6. Second Skin Trunk, Tommy John
  7. Rocky 11 Boxer Briefs- Amazon Stores
  8. Low-Rise Trucks, Calvin Klein
  9. Solid Flex Trunk, America Eagle etc

Visit them at https://www.menshealth.com

3. PRESENT ANY DIOR TIE FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

If your boyfriend loves to wear tie to match his shirt, then getting the right tie for him is the best gift to present. Of course, you’ve got to find out from other guys the best trending tie or silk tie that people of his type are wearing. You can go to the mall or fashion shop that deals with men’s clothes and accessories to find out the best tie for guys. You can also google “trending tie” to get the best tie for your darling boy. Shop around these ties for your boyfriend: The popular ones are listed below:

  1. “Christian Dior Atelier” tribal tie by Dior-dior.com
  2. Knitted by Hugo Boss-hugoboss.com
  3. Monogram row tie by Louis Vuitton-louisvuitton.com
  4. Merino Wool tie by Margaret Howell-margarethowell.co.uk
  5. Herringbone tie by Gieves & Hawkes- https://www. gievesandhawkes.com

4. PRESENT A ROMANTIC NOVEL FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

Getting a romantic story book or novel that talks about love and romance in a relationship is a great thing to present to your guy but unfortunately most ladies ignore it. There are many books he may come across but the mere fact that it’s coming from you, would make it more exciting for him and this will compel him to read it even if he’s not the reading type.

You can get him a hard copy or a softcopy. You may find your hard copy in the local bookshop near you. The hardcopy can be branded, for instance from me to you. Or from Nancy to Scot, whichever way you want it done for you. Visit amazon book stores for different romantic novels in eBook format and make your choice.

You can visit the following books. The just examples. The choice as to which book to buy is entirely yours to make.

Romance by Kate, Javeria, Eszter,Julian

 Jane Eye (1947): One particular of the greatest novel-https://www.slideshare.net. You can visit amazon bookstore for a variety of romantic novels. https://www.amazon.com/Best-Sellers-Books-Romance/zgbs/books/23

5. PRESENT A POLO SHIRT OR LACOSTE FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

I know guys like their favorite branded t-shirt from a popular brand or company they like. Having observed him for some time, it should be easy for you to know the kind of TSHIRT that will resonate with him. There are beautiful branded Lacoste too. Get any of them and parcel it nicely for him. He will appreciate it as having come from the girlfriend.

You have no idea how proud your guy will feel to show to the peers that you are the one behind the attractive polo shirt or the Lacoste. You can choose between any of the shirt below:

  1. Polo Ralph Lauren Slim-Fit Button Down Short Sleeve Polo in Light Blue Stripes – Buy It Here for $85
  2.  Rag & Bone ‘Standard Issue’ Navy Blue Cotton Polo – Buy It Here For $125
  3.  Alex Mill Cotton Jersey Polo Shirt in Purple – Buy It Here For $85
  4.   Classic Polo Ralph Lauren Cotton-Pique Slim Fitting Polo Shirt in Navy – Buy It Here For $85
  5. Maison Kitsune Grey Cotton Polo – Buy It Here For $150
  6. Ralph Lauren Purple Label Black & White Striped Polo – Buy It Here For $395
  7. Classic Lacoste Short Sleeve Polo in Black – Buy It Here For $90
  8. Hartford Printed Cotton-Linen Blend Polo Shirt for Men – Buy It Here For $145
  9. Onia ‘Shaun’ Slim-Fit Striped Polo in Grey – Buy It Here For $85

Visit them at https://www.brostrick.com/mens-fashion/best-polo-shirts-for-men/

6. PRESENT A NICE PAIR OF JEANS FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

What about getting a beautiful popular wriggler jeans or any other popular type but quality jeans for him. When it comes to jeans, there’s no guy that will say no. Guys love jeans because they don’t like washing their stuff often like trousers which are made of soft fabric. Popular jeans among guys include:

  1. WRANGLER AUTHENTICS 5-POCKET REGULAR FIT JEANS-Stylish and functional, Comfortable, Durable
  2. LEVI’S MEN’S 511 SLIM FIT JEAN-Stylish slim fit style, Not too tight or too loose, Made from 99% cotton
  3. CALVIN KLEIN MEN’S STRAIGHT FIT DENIM JEANS-Skinny fit style that many men like, Edgy, Tasteful enough for a variety of occasions
  4. NUDIE JEANS LEAN DEAN JEAN IN DRY COLD BLACK-Slim, comfortable fit, Distress-free finish, Age wells (especially once they look worn-in) Check them on https://www.baldingbeards.com/best-jeans/ or visit them on https://www.amazon.com/Best-Sellers-Mens-Jeans/zgbs/fashion/1045564

7. PRESENT OR MAKE A BRANDED GIFT CARD FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

Don’t be mistaken to think technology has made the presentation of gift cards absolute. Not really! There are still unique gift cards which are still relevant because of the powerful words printed on them. That’s why the thought of a gift card alone to your boyfriend makes it useful because they are not common these days. He will know that you really thought of him very much to take that step.

I received a card from my fiancée now a wife which I still keep in my wardrobe.  Your boyfriend will not stop looking at it once in a while. Let the words on the card communicate your feelings to him. Get attractive gifts cards at Amazon on https://www.amazon.com/gift-cards/b?ie=UTF8&node=2238192011

8. PRESENT ATTRACTIVE QUALITY LEATHER BELT FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

Another gift guys want to receive from their ladies is quality leather belt and not just any kind of belt. Most of the synthetic belt are attractive but it doesn’t take long for it to wear and tear. And so far as he wears the belt around the waist, he can’t afford to forget about your special gifts. Check out these belts

TOMMY HILFIGER MEN’S REVERSIBLE BELT

DANTE MEN’S LEATHER RATCHET DRESS BELT WITH AUTOMATIC BUCKLE

MARINO RATCHET GENUINE LEATHER DRESS BELT

BS-40 100% FULL GRAIN LEATHER BELT WITH SNAPS

VERSACE COLLECTION MEN’S BLACK LEATHER ADJUSTABLE BELT

SYNTHIC APPAREL GENUINE LEATHER DRESS BELT

XHTANG MEN’S SOLID BUCKLE WITH AUTOMATIC RATCHET LEATHER BELT

Visit them at https://www.baldingbeards.com/best-belt/

9. PRESENT A PAIR OF SHOES FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

Get to know the right size of shoe for your boyfriend and get the right shoe that will fit him. Check the color of shoes he will like to wear. Some boys are fond of brown shoes but the majority may prefer black shoes because it appears to match any other color. The best thing is to do your own observation on the quite. And surprise him with his favorite shoe. Check the following shoes:

  1. Cole Haan ‘Warren’ Cap Toe Derby. …
  2. Magnanni Marco Monk Strap Loafer. …
  3. Gucci Donnie Bit Loafer. …
  4. Allen Edmonds ‘Dalton’ Water Resistant Wingtip Boot. …
  5. Ted Baker London Daiinos Chukka Boot. …
  6. Magnanni for Neiman Marcus Woven Leather Penny Loafer. …
  7. Hugo Boss Highline Patent Leather Loafers. …
  8. Aquatalia Roberto Weatherproof Suede Oxfords.

10. PRESENT A CAP FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

If your guy is the sporting kind of person, then getting him a branded cup popular with guys would be the right thing to do. When it comes to cap brands, there are different kinds but find out the one that will make him easy going. It’s advisable to find out from him what he likes.

However you can check this out:

  1. Baseball caps
  2. Skullies & Beanies
  3. Fedoras
  4. Visors
  5. Islanders etc.

(https://www.amazon.com/Mens-Hats/b?ie=UTF8&node=2474954011)

11. PRESENT A WRIST WATCH FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS GIFT

We can’t be grateful enough to technology. There are variety of good quality wrist watches for different purposes and functions. Getting an elegant branded watch will be an amazing gift to present to your boyfriend.

Visit the shop and ask the shop attendant to assist select the best male watch for your boyfriend. However you can visit https://improb.com/best-watches-for-men-under-100/ for best watches for your guy. The have the following watch brands

  1. Timex Original Gold Classic Watch. This vintage inspired model comes with a light brown leather strap, tan analog face, and rustic gold-medal casing. …
  2. Fossil Nate Chronograph. …
  3. Casio Edifice Watch. …
  4. August Steiner Black Watch. …
  5. Skagen Ancher Watch. …
  6. Komono Magnus. …
  7. Timex Waterbury Watch. …
  8. Invicta Pro Driver Men’s Watch.

12. PRESENT AN IPAD FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND IF YOU CAN AS A GIFT

When it comes to checking stuff on the internet, guys are not tired of finding out the current sports news, social events happening in his neighborhood or chat with love ones, politics, etc. So, presenting an IPAD if you can afford it will serve as a memorable gift for him and this will be a one in all gift to him. Find out about his favorite color for the iPad.  You can the good guys website for more information.

13. PRESENT AN IPHONE OR ANDROID PHONE IF YOU CAN FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

In this age of technology, the phone is now serving as everything we need apart from bringing back the dead. Studies have showed that the phone is handled several times in a day than any other object in one’s daily life. Even though it has its downside by making people unfriendly and lonely, there’s nothing we can substitute the phone presently for. Getting him an iPhone will do a magic for him. If you can afford go ahead. Visit the good guys or amazon for best iPhone

 https://www.thegoodguys.com.au › Phones & Wearables

14. PRESENT A BEAUTIFUL BRANDED BALL PEN FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND AS A GIFT

There are sleeks attractive pens which can do the trick for your boyfriend as well when carefully chosen for him. I love very expensive pens that are not common in front of my left my front pocket. Check following pens:

  1. Caran D’ache Ecridor Retro Palladium-Coated Fountain Pen.
  2. Montblanc Le Grand 146 Fountain Pen. …
  3. Kingsman + Conway Stewart Churchill Fountain Pen. …
  4. Waterman Fountain Pen. …
  5. Parker Duofold Gold Trimmed Fountain Pen. …
  6. Faber-Castell Pear Wood. …
  7. Pilot Capless. …
  8. Parker Sonnet.

These are the best branded pens for 2018. Visit https://www.t3.com/features/best-fountain-pens

So far, we’ve been able to identify 14 trending gifts when considering what gifts to present to your boyfriend. Choose among the list of items and get someone to parcel it for you if you can do so yourself, go ahead and put a smile on his face.

Stay in touch!

Emmanuel

5 MAGICAL TECHNIQUES TO EMPOWER YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS INTO REALITY

RESOLUTION DON’T MAKE SENSE WITHOUT YOUR SPIRIT BEHIND IT


Whether you believe it or not your resolution is just a piece of information or ideas about what you want to achieve in the year on paper. This could be short or long term resolution depending on what you want and how badly you want to achieve them and how passionate you want to bring the set goals into reality.

In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently— Tony Robbins

You and I know that any significant change requires dedicated practice and self-discipline, whether that change has to do with acquiring new skills, quit smoking or alcohol, lose weight to get into your ideal shape, loving your spouse more, being a good mother or dad, start exercising or get into the gym to start that training you’ve have been postponing, drinking more water etc. are all great ideas New Year Resolution.

I hear many people who quite often say that they have not been able to achieve their resolutions and for that matter they are unwilling to write new resolutions. It’s pretty awesome to hear people’s New Year’s resolutions and a cursory look at what they’ve written down to achieve will marvel you.

The question is: does the mere writing down of your resolutions cause it to be achieved automatically? The answer is a big No. I am sorry to disappoint you. You did well by crossing the bridge by writing your resolutions down about what you to achieve but you need a set of plan to achieve what you intended to achieve for yourself- if not it may be a wasted effort; because you didn’t set yourself in readiness to realize your New Year resolution. You need more than a written resolutions. What you actually need is self-disciple. Because self-discipline is the catalyst to achieving any goal in life

Too many people only visit their resolution when the year has come to a close and they are preparing to write new ones. It’s funny the speed people take to formulate goals on paper only to leave them to gather dust at where they keep them.

1. SET RESOLUTION THAT IS REALISTIC FOR YOUR CONSCIOUS MIND TO ACCEPT

Every New Year there’s a long list of things people strive for whether as parents or single individuals: People want to save more money, exercise consistently, floss daily, eat more salads, spend time with friends & families, learn new skills, make family dinners a priority, visit friends, be more sociable, lose weight, quit smoking etc. But these lists will remain the same without any concerted action to achieve them. And when this happens resolutions becomes more or less annual rituals. Don’t fall into this trap.

 Relying on your written goals that truly energize you is great but it leads you to nowhere until you believe consciously that you can make it a reality. Do you doubt your capacity to achieve your own resolution? If your conscious mind doesn’t accept that; what you plan to achieve will be possible, you will be chasing after the wind and nothing will get done.

 Call it New Year’s resolutions with a side of euphoria that come with every New Year but you must get the ground running in order to  bring them to pass. Focus on the things you’ve been thinking about since you were a young child: attaining a PHD and be called a doctor, have your wedding in a luxury beach, starting a grilled-cheese blog, or pursuing that law degree you didn’t finish the first time around. Anything is possible to them that believe in their dreams.

“Typically if you have a desire to make a change or commit to a goal, you’ve been thinking about it for a long time,” says Susie Moore, the author of What If It Does Work Out? How a Side Hustle Can Change Your Life and creator of the Side Hustle Academy. “Your desire is often reflected in your past, reflected in your memory, reflected in what’s been filling your mind and heart up until this point.” Avoid attempting to give up coffee or working on your inner judgment if you don’t really want to, she says. Reflect on your ultimate vision for your life. Focus on what you want to achieve and don’t second-guess how it will come to pass

2. PERSONALIZE YOUR RESOLUTION

Another part of achieving your goals is knowing exactly what you want and why you want them. It helps to personalize your goals. Maybe you want to start a gig on the side. “You can say, ‘Because I want to feel creatively fulfilled and be happy. Because I have a lot to offer the world and my work doesn’t allow me to do so. Because I want to create financial security for me and my family. Because I’ve had this idea for a long time-Moore explains.

Your why can reflect your deepest life desire, a need to be more creative, or the hope for more security.  When you understand your why, the answer will come along the line: It will bring you more joy. And when you realize that and you’re constantly reminded of what you actually want in life, it will keep you on your toes and draw the resources needed to achieve your resolutions in the shortest possible time. 

Write the goals you want to achieve on a note book and carry it along.  Read it allow and see yourself achieving them. Add visual image of what you want to achieve. If you want to buy a new car, get a photo of the car and add your personal picture(s). Tell yourself I am driving this car by the end of the year. Feel the architectural of the car, smell the inside and derive a sense of happiness in yourself while taking action to realize your dreams.

3. TAKE PRACTICAL ACTION EVERYDAY

To be successful, you have to do what successful people do, and successful people are highly action-oriented.  Break your big goals down into small steps, anticipate obstacles and plan how to deal with them, visualize and affirm your success, and believe in yourself and your dreams. Now it’s time to take action. Enroll in that program, get the necessary training, call the travel agent to inquire about the package they have for people like you, start writing that book, start saving for the down payment on your mortgage, check the price of that dream car or house, join the health club, sign up for those piano lessons, or write that proposal to that company etc.

What we think or what we know or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence. The only Consequence is what we do-JOHN RUSKIN

The world doesn’t pay you for what you know; it pays you for what you do. There’s an enduring axiom of success that says, “The universe rewards action.” Yet as simple and as true as this principle is, it’s surprising how many people get bogged down in analyzing, planning, and organizing when what they really need to do is take action.-Jack Canfield, multi-millionaire and co-creator for Chicken Soup for the Soul

When you take action, you trigger all kinds of things that will inevitably carry you to success. You let those around you know that you are serious in your intention. People wake up and start paying attention to what they want. People with similar goals become aligned with you.

 You begin to learn things from your experience that cannot be learned from listening to others or from reading books. You begin to get feedback about how to do it better, more efficiently, and more quickly. Things that once seemed confusing begin to become clear. Things that once appeared difficult begin to be easier. You begin to attract others who will support and encourage you. All manner of good things begin to flow in your direction once you begin to take action. So enough of the theoretical planning, it’s time to take practical action if your to achieve your New Year Resolution this year

Over the years I have seen people in our church make resolutions, however, one thing I have found was that the number one thing that seems to separate winners from losers more than anything else is that winners take action. They simply get up and do what has to be done. Once they have developed a plan, they start working on their plan immediately. Many people failed taking action on their resolutions.

But successful people get into motion. Even if they don’t start perfectly, they learn from their mistakes, make the necessary changes, and keep taking action, all the time building momentum, until they finally produce the result they set out to produce…or something even better than they conceived of when they started.

We may have trouble sticking to your New Year’s resolutions because of lack of action in yourselves. “We rarely follow through on anything coming from a negative kind of platform,” says Hailey Jordan Yatros, millennial life coach and author of The Millennial Makeover: Who Are We and Who Do We Want to Become? “It’s really important not to start a goal when you have in your head that you need to fix something about yourself first. Believe in yourself and take action

4. BE FLEXIBLE BUT SMART WITH YOUR RESOLUTION

Working with a timeline in mind is good—but you have to follow your own timeline to see the progress you are making on each goal you set for yourself. Moore indicates that you should keep a list of three to five written goals for yourself at once. According to her “If ever my goals change, if I hit a goal sooner than I hoped, or I might have a new goal, I will revisit my goals whenever I want,” she says.

Set goals that you can accomplish within a few months. “I don’t think about any goals that are longer than six months. A six-month goal is very relative and fresh. If you have a deadline for something, to quit your job or to go traveling, a six-month deadline will get you rolling.”

Once the goal is customized to meet your personal needs, be flexible to adjust yourself if that will help you to achieve your goals.

5. SET SHORT TERM RESOLUTION

Pursuing a big goals like quitting your official work to become a fashion blogger, for example, can all be possible by starting small. Don’t just quit your job immediately as many people do, which may work for some people. Slowly start dedicating more time to your passion besides your corporate work. It may help you to utilize any available time to your side business you want to pursue and passionate about.

One of the things I want to achieve this year is to quit my corporate work I have been doing for 20 years and devout time entirely for my blog. Go from full time to part time and fill that other time with the business goals that you have.

Instead of quitting all at once, try to start working along the line and you would get the foundation to stand building on when you finally quit your full time job. Slowly but surely, you’ll start to see that number change and it’ll be great to see the fruit of your labor This way, you’re committing to realistic steps instead of taking on a huge long-term goal. When that happens, it provides you a safety net, a chance to back out, in case you find out it’s not what you want.

Let me leave you with these quotes: My will shall shape my future. Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man’s doing but my own. I am the force; I can clear any obstacle before me or I can be lost in the maze. My choice; my responsibility; win or lose, only I hold the key to my destiny— Elaine Maxwell

Your ability to discipline yourself to set clear goals, and then to work toward them every day, will do more to guarantee your success than any other single factor― Brian Tracy

So soon we’ve come to the end of the discussion about practical techniques to adopt in order to manifest your New Year Resolutions. It’s not magic but being realistic with your goals, being flexible when it becomes necessary to do so, believing in yourself, taking action and making your resolutions short term.

Stay blessed

Emmanuel

5 BASIS TO HATE EXERCISE BUT START ANY PHYSICAL ACTIVITY NOW


“Movement is a medicine for creating change in a person’s physical, emotional and mental states”-Carol Welch. “However, physical fitness can neither be achieved by wishful thinking nor outright purchase” (Joseph Pilate)

A woman told the husband to stop competing with her with his “pot belly” (stomach) because she can’t continue to defend him before the public that the husband is healthy apart from the fact that his stomach has abnormally protruded as a result of fat deposit. The man in question hate to do any form of working out and refuse to stop eating late in the evening.

Health and fitness is the dream of any individual as well as nations because a healthy nation is a productive nation. Global recommendations on physical activity for health has engaged the attention of the World Health Organization (https://www.who.int/dietphysicalactivity/factsheet_recommendations/en/ over the past decade because some people are becoming conscious of their wellness and leaving no stone to chance. Gone are the days when people eat, smoke and drink anything in the name of better living especially the middle to high class family, to tell others they have the hard cash to spend.

As a matter of fact nobody is excited when it comes to doing any kind of physical activity that would temporally discomfort the person but at the long run give a tremendous health benefit.

BELOW ARE THE REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD START PHYSICAL EXERCISE NOW

1. ENHANCES YOUR PERSONAL HEALTH

Physical inactivity has been identified as the fourth leading risk factor for global mortality (6% of deaths globally). This follows high blood pressure (13%), tobacco use (9%) and high blood glucose (6%). Overweight and obesity are responsible for 5% of global mortality.

Levels of physical inactivity are rising in many countries with major implications for the general health of people worldwide and for the prevalence of cardiovascular disease, diabetes and cancer and their risk factors such as raised blood pressure, raised blood sugar and overweight. Physical inactivity is estimated as being the principal cause for approximately 21–25% of breast and colon cancer burden, 27% of diabetes and approximately 30% of ischemic heart disease burden.

In addition, lack of exercise especially among urban folks account for nearly half of the overall global burden of disease. It is estimated currently that of every 10 deaths, 6 are attributable to non-communicable conditions. . (World Health Organization)

Our health is being influenced by three trends according to global health reports: population-ageing, rapid unplanned urbanization, and globalization, all of which result in unhealthy environments and behaviors.

As a result, the growing prevalence of alcoholic drinks, sugar induced products, tobacco, narcotics and its related substances and their risk factors has become a global issue affecting the majority of households across the globe. When I was in high school and living in a low income country, reports of cancers, obesity, weight gain etc. were all coming from the developed world. But two decade later, every country has its fair share of health issue. How do you want your body to last you in the next 30 years and what are you doing to guarantee that?

It has been shown that participation in regular physical activity reduces the risk of coronary heart disease and stroke, diabetes, hypertension, colon cancer, breast cancer and depression. Additionally, physical activity is a key determinant of energy expenditure, and thus is fundamental to energy balance and weight control. The year has just began and as I cherish reader of my post I want you to minimize your sedentary lifestyle and start working out

2. HEALTHY PHYSICAL SHAPE

Many people soon fade away quickly than expected because of their unwillingness to subdue the body to some kind of physical training not because of award this time round but to ensure their own good health and longevity.

A lot of women get out of shape after their 2 or more child births. Why? The answer is obvious. There’s no time to exercise. My wife was slim when I married her but has put on extra calorie which are unnecessary because of the kind of work she does and after giving birth to 4 kids. Should I take her excuse for no exercise? A big no! I am still encouraging to start as a matter of necessity.

Just like my wife who refuses to do exercise and develop a moderate belly fat, a lot of women also developed this fat around their belly. Many women nowadays use corset to tighten their belly before they can wear their preferred dresses. We appreciate our wives for giving us beautiful children but we encourage them to do something about their belly fat.

 Kelly Rennie in Post Natal article talks about ways to deal with belly fat after giving birth. Please read below

 #1: Drastically Reduce Your Sugar Intake This tip alone will make a lot of belly fat drop off! Start to introduce more natural, protein-rich food sources and vegetables that will fuel you and keep you satiated for longer.

#2: Significantly Reduce or Eliminate Alcohol. Many alcoholic drinks are full of sugar and artificial sweeteners, which make them unhealthy from the beginning. However, alcohol itself is harmful, in that it can mess with our hormone levels and cause the body to prioritize fat storage. On top of this, alcohol lowers your inhibitions. As a result, you’ll be far more likely to reach for a bag of cookies or call for a takeaway pizza. It’s important to reduce or eliminate alcohol in all situations.

 #3: Breastfeed If You Can One ‘quick fix’ for new mums is breastfeeding their new baby. Why? The act of breastfeeding helps the uterus to return to its normal size, reducing any unsightly bulges and returning your stomach to a more familiar size.

#4: The Best Belly Fat Exercises Are High-Intensity Circuits Although diet is the single biggest contributing factor to body fat levels over time, exercise cannot be overlooked. This specific form of exercise is ideal for the time poor new mothers out there. High-intensity circuits that work the entire body and major muscle groups are a great way to rev your metabolic engine, and increase your muscle tone. As your fitness improves, and in conjunction with a good diet, belly fat will melt off.

 #5: Train With Weights The more muscle you have, the more calories you’ll burn when you’re just going about your day. That’s why it’s important to build lean mass via resistance training. Many women refuse to lift weights, because they’re afraid of getting ‘bulky’. But this perceived effect couldn’t be further from the truth. Instead, following a structured resistance program will allow you to: Rapidly change your body composition Strengthen your core (which can help with any post-pregnancy back pain) Burn fat. After six to eight weeks the results will speak for themselves

 #6: Staying Hydrated One of the most overlooked points for weight loss is adequate hydration. Around 55-70% of our bodies are made up of water, so any loss in fluid can have serious consequences. These include impaired concentration, loss of strength and general fatigue, making daily activities far more difficult than they need to be. Too often we go through our day in a blur of fizzy drinks and caffeine, leaving us dehydrated. By simply swapping out the majority of your hot drinks for water during the day you can avoid the ‘crash’ and stay energetic for longer.

#7: Reduce Caffeine Intake It’s all too easy to fall into the ‘caffeine trap’ as a new mother. You end up borrowing energy from coffee, tea and energy drinks, to make up for your lack of sleep or busy schedule. Whilst this may work in the short-term and give you a brief boost, you may actually be doing more harm than good. Caffeine is a diuretic, which means it strips your body of fluid and actually makes you more dehydrated. Over time this will cause energy crashes, greater cortisol levels and potential irritability. Avoid having another espresso if you want to stay on top of your game. – See more at:

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/post-natal/how-to-lose-belly-fat-after-having-a-baby

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/post-natal/how-to-lose-belly-fat-after-having-a-baby

Belly fat has been one of the main issues that confront women after giving birth and forces many of them to lose their shape. Since you can do something about it don’t give excuse and say you can do anything about it.  The above guidance will help you eliminate your belly fat. Start now.

3. YOU BECOME ACTIVE

 Evidence points to physical activity, or associated factors, as an effective treatment modality. The use of exercise and sport in the prevention and treatment of state anxiety, moderate depression, and/or low self-esteem may often be recommended as a practical approach. In addition to reducing the essential symptomatology, exercise is less costly than other therapeutic methods. Because of its intrinsic activeness, it may also bring additional physical, psychological, and social benefits. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2016 APA)

So don’t delay to engage in any moderate form of physical exercise commensurate to your age and health. Seek medical advice before engaging in any such activity if you have any health related problems. The issue is the earlier you start the better for you.

4. YOU BECOME INTELLIGENCE

Physical exercise helps keep your thinking, learning, and judgment skills sharp as you age. Why? Because exercise stimulates your body to release proteins and other chemicals that improve the structure and function of your brain by distributing blood throughout all the vital organs of your body.

Have you asked yourself why young children who engaged in physical activities are considered active and intelligent? It’s because of active blood circulation in their body; thus, it’s easy for them to excrete waste materials from their system easily than we do as adults.

Studies examine the effects of exercise on children’s intelligence, cognition, or academic achievement were reviewed and the results were discussed in light of (a) contemporary cognitive theory development all as a result of exercise.

Recent research demonstrating the salutary effects of exercise on adults’ cognitive functioning and   animals have all linked physical activity to changes in neurological development and behavior.

 Similar to adults, exercise facilitates children’s executive function (i.e., processes required to select, organize, and properly initiate goal-directed actions). Exercise may prove to be a simple, yet important, method of enhancing those aspects of kids’ mental functioning which is central to cognitive development.

Do still have any justification not to engage in any physical exercise this year? I have no exercise and you should have none to.

5. GUARANTEE YOUR LONGITIVITY

We’ve all come to the conclusion that aging is a natural and complex physiological process Influenced by many factors, but some are modifiable. As we continues to grow, it is important to modify some aspect of our lifestyles through interventions that can be easily implemented so as to guarantee “successful aging”.

In addition to a healthy diet and psychosocial well-being, the benefits of regular exercise on mortality, and the prevention and control of chronic disease affecting both life expectancy and quality of life are well established in many medical journals

The benefits of regular exercise on longevity can’t be over emphasize and this should engage your attention as soon as a possible. Most of the exercise I do is active and vigorous walking because I am not a fun of the gym. Choose the best option that are comfortable with you. Running, biking, jogging, jumping, skating, riding, pushing, tug of war etc. are common exercises that you can explore.

Research is showing that exercise can partially reverse the effects of the aging process on physiological functions and preserve functional reserve in the elderly. Numerous studies have indicate that maintaining a minimum quantity and quality of exercise decreases the risk of death, prevents the development of certain cancers, lowers the risk of osteoporosis and increases longevity.

Your physical training programs should include exercises aimed at improving your cardiorespiratory fitness and muscle function, as well as flexibility and balance.

Let me conclude with these quotes:

“When it comes to eating right and exercising, there’s no I’ll start tomorrow. Tomorrow is disease” V.L.A Lineare

“There are only two requirement when it comes to exercise. One is that you do it. The other is that you continue to do it” Dr. Stephen Colagiuri

“For those who don’t have time for exercise, there will have to make time for illness” Edward Stanley”

Stay blessed!

Emmanuel

References:

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         4. Global recommendations on physical activity for health.

 (1.Exercise. 2. Life style. 3. Health promotion. 4. Chronic disease – prevention and control. 5. National health programs). I. World Health Organization.

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KILL YOUR INSATIABLE TV ADDICTION THIS YEAR FOR YOUR OWN GOOD-5 Reasons

KILL YOUR INSATIABLE TV ADDICTION BEFORE IT KILLS YOU

 

TV has played various roles over the years and we can’t under estimate the power of TV and its benefits in the lives of the modern man and woman in this present age. However, excessive TV watching can be destructive to you in all aspects of your live especially if you plan to be productive this year and achieve your goals

According to A Neilson report, the average American watches more than 34 hours of television each week. As a parent, you must lead the way to positively influence the way the household watches TV in the home so much so that they may stop watching TV altogether.

Even though many people give various reasons for their TV watching, a lot of the reasons they give are self-imposed and nothing else. Each year you must have aggressive goal that would stretch you from your comfort zone. And this comfort zone include your appetite for watching different TV programs each day.

Breaking free from watching TV in order to get a head start to pursue your stretch goals and reap the benefits of quitting watching TV demands courage, boldness, relentless effort and how strong you want to achieve your goals.

Let check out the 6 reasons why you need to kill your insatiable TV this year so that you can pursue your goals

1. WATCHING TV IS A WASTE OF TIME

I used to be a fun of TV and radio programs especially my favorite political debates about the two major national parties that rotate the seat of government in my country Accra Ghana. But after marriage and raising 4 young kids, demands for household expenses begin to rise and the question I asked myself is what has watching of these political programs add to the family income and my life for that matter.

After attending a seminar organized by a Nigerian multimillion, Dagote, I decided to quit my TV watching habit immediately, if I want to make any meaningful living and create a comfortable life for myself and my family. I used the time I stop watching TV to finish two of my books and write articles for publication thrice every week. I have started this blog and have written a little over 100 articles within six months

It’s a plain truth and very obvious that when you’re watching TV many of us may not be doing anything else. The time spent watching television according to scientists is similar to the hour you use to sleep. That means people could be spending 8,7, 6, 5 and 4 hours each day watching different TV programs.

The question is what time do you have for yourself to do anytime productive in your life. Do you know how much you can do each day with this time at your disposal?

2. EXCESSIVE TV WATCHING CAN LEAD YOU TO POVERTY

As a matter of fact, you must decide what you want in life irrespective of the geographical location you find yourself. Once you know what you want in life, you have to take the necessary steps to plan for what you’ve to do to get what you want. If you are addicted to TV, The first thing is to do is to quit watching TV immediately and starting pursuing you dreams. Think of what you can do with a lot of money when you succeed in pursuing your dreams. Think about your new homes, the type cars you will be driving, your new outfits, the dream holidays you’ve always wish for yourself and your support to your favorite philanthropy. All these are possible if you set your mind to make a lot of money and help a lot of people.

According to Bloomberg, the number of Americans who meet the millionaire threshold is set to increase by an average of 1,700 every day for the coming years, Bloomberg reports, based on projections by the Boston Consulting Group. By the year 2020, the U.S. is expected to welcome 3.1 million new members into its millionaires’ club, which grew by 2.4 million from 2010 to 2015.

According to America Multimillionaire Jack Canfield in one of his bestselling books “The Success Principles-How to Get from Where you are to Where You Want to Be” “any change requires sustained efforts to overcome years’ of internal and external resistance”

I know it’s not going to be easy for you to stop watching your favorite TV programs, but you can quit your TV addiction if you choose to do so. How do you to see your life in 5 years to come. Are you doing something now to change your financial situation? If you ask me what I want to achieve in 3 years: I would tell you there are many but I would give you 3 things I want to achieve in 3 years. 1. I want to become a multimillionaire. 2. Build the biggest amusement park in my country for kids. 3. Build the largest Green International School in my country.

We are grateful to the incredible psychological hooks that television uses. It’s very hard to stop watching TV I must frankly admit. It makes us lose our self-control and very often we find it extremely hard to turn off the television even though we may wish to do so. As this continues, our self-control and discipline withers even more and the harder the difficulty becomes.

But do you know something, desire something passionately to achieve and this desire will replace the time spend in watching TV. I want to become a millionaire and this drive me every day to move out of my comfort zone towards my stretch goals. What about you! The year has just began, so, get the ground running and say bye to TV.

3. TV WATCHERS ARE “FRIENDS” TO PROCASTINATION

What’s procrastination? Procrastination is the avoidance of doing a task that needs to be accomplished. It could be further stated as a habitual or intentional delay of starting or finishing a task despite its negative consequences. (Wikipedia)

TV programmers designed TV ads to attract and sustain the interest of viewers for a long time to come. It can be amazing how time flies when you are hooked to watching your favorite TV programs just like writing your best exam paper only to be told get ready to hand over your papers.

Those who are addicted to TV programs are always with the delusion that they would find a better time to do what they actually what to do and before they knew it hours run into days, days into weeks, weeks into months and months into a year and nothing get done. Does that resonate with you? Then do something to change the narrative about your habit.

Do you want to build your life around TV, then do a TV commercials and get paid, act for others to watch and get rewarded for it or do music? Your family is looking up to you don’t disappoint them.

4. WATCHING TV STAGNATES YOUR CREATIVITY

There’s nobody under the planet without a contribution to make in the world. That means we all have gifts, talents, knowledge, skills, intelligence to turn things around.  Sadly, we always compare ourselves to the people we watch on TV and easily come to the conclusion that these people are better off than us. Don’t you think like that sometime? These TV commercials are not as real as you think!

Our life is never going to be like a TV show you watch so you don’t be deceived and think that you can’t make any impact when you compare your life with their real life. The messages within television imply on a regular basis that people we watch are better and smarter than us. Our lives can feel quite empty when compare to the perfection of the “TV world”.

Don’t be deceived! Some of you were influenced by your favorite stars and artists based on the products they recommend for you to buy. Why? Because you thought they are perfect and command so much reputation to recommend something otherwise.

Your continual reliance of these stars to influence what you do, can shield you talents and ability to do something different. Do you know the number of times these stars practice and rehearse before appearing on TV? Start doing something great you’ve always dreamt of instead of watching TV all the time. You are better than some of the people who appear on the TV.  The only difference is that they have identified what they were meant to do and do what gives them the greatest satisfaction in life.

What do you identify to do to improve your life this year? If you can start doing something now, by the close of the year, you will be amazed what you’ve been able to achieve. Remember this is the best time you have so stop wasting it-“For time wait for no man”

5. TOO MUCH TV WATCHING POSSES HEALTH RISK TO YOU

Health analysts are sounding the alarm bell that our way of living nowadays is dangerous to our overall quality of life. Most people are living sedentary life than ever before in the history of the world because a lot of people are having jobs behind a desk.

To make matters worse a lot of people don’t exercise after they go home but sit down in front of their giant flat TVs thanks to technology and watch their favorite soap opera or football matches for two hours. Our body is designed to keep moving and not to sit at one place for too long. When the electrical activity in our muscles stops working actively as a result of our sitting down, we become prune to so many diseases (eye problems, back pain etc.). Research is showing that the basic movement of walking or moving our bodies in subtle ways alone can make a big difference to our health.

I do brisk walking for 15 minutes bare footed every day because most of our nerves and tissues are concentrated under our feet and palms and by walking it helps distributes blood around the body. It works like magic, try walking bare footed on a slightly rough surface for at least 10-15 minutes and see the result yourself.

What about the health implication of our eyes as a result of radiations from the TV screen. I know most office computers have screen protectors that minimized the radiations but most TVs have no TV screen protectors to minimize the radiations as a result of contact with the eyes. May be someone should think of developing a screen protectors for our TVs as we have for our phones and laptop.

6. BE AN EXAMPLE FOR YOUR CHILD

 Train your children to become a global icons not copy cut of what they see on their TV screen. Every little child wants to be somebody he or she admires to be a celebrity. Let them read books instead of allowing them to watch TV all day long without any supervision or monitoring. You’ve no idea how your children are being influenced by what they watch on the TV

Many children are now being allowed to watch TV and live a sedentary lifestyle in the name of good living. There is a lot of research showing the negative effects on a child’s development due to both inactivity and the influence of television. You are your children’s first teacher and they imitate what they see you do, so any choice you make will greatly influence the way they live their lives into adulthood.

If you want to change your kids you must first change what you do. Because action they say speak louder than words. Get them excited in painting, writing, drawing, programing, sports, music, arts etc. and gradually they will replace the time they use to watch TV to pursue their natural talents. Try and lead the way and they would follow. Create the enabling environment for them to follow.

So soon we’ve been able to identify 6 TV addiction that we must deal with if we want to change present life to a financially independent life and live the kind of life we real want for ourselves and our family including loved ones. Start now, because there’s no better time than now.

STAY BLESSED!

Emmanuel

5 EASY WAYS TO SPEND LESS IN 2019 AS A PARENT

SPENDING LESS MEANS WISE SPENDING AND SAVING THE SURPLUS

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It’s a fact that many of you have spent so much MONEY during the yuletide because of the activities that come with the season. Some of you have to buy new clothes for the kids and yourself, prepare great lunch or dinner for families and friends including visitors.

A few of you organized Christmas parties to mark the end of the year at least say thank you God for all that you’ve gone through and still alive. Respectfully, you should be appreciative to your maker for protecting you and your family. In deed you’ve every course to be grateful.

However, many parents get into trouble in the new year because they are cash trapped, having spent the little money at their disposal in the previous year because they over spent. So going into this New Year, there are few things you can do to get your money issues on course and live stress free financial life.

1. DEFINE or PLAN HOW MUCH TO SPEND IN THE MONTH

Having a budget restrict you as to how much to spend weekly or monthly. I know we all struggle to prepare a budget because of the fear that we would not be able to follow the budget through and through.

If you are an impulse buyer like my wife, or you just don’t know where your cash passes every month, sit down and write down every purchase you make and calculate how much you spend on each item. Gather the courage to do this. I know many people don’t want to do this because they thought the money involve is too small to matter. Having a realistic thinking about how you are spending your money will go a long way to control wastage of your hard cash. Are you spending on clothes, shoes, necklaces, you would never wear? Remember the idea is to spend less and save the excess

  There’s no point in spending your money on having fun if you can’t afford it. Get a bit serious about how you spend your money if you need to save more than you are making in order to guarantee your financial freedom and less money worry.

If you know you spend too much on certain thing such as new gadget and app, look for a cheaper alternative in your local shop. You can contact your customer service unit of your bank to help you plan your spending in a fixed but convenient way.  Some of these banks would be delighted to help you break your account spending down in a clear and flexible way.

Creating a budget has been made easy by a number of websites that use excel to simplify the planning process. I have put up simple steps for you to follow and modify to suit your peculiar situations.

Step 1: Note your net income. The first step in creating a budget is to identify the amount of money you have coming in.  This should include all types of incomes that you receive by the end of the month.

Step 2: Track your spending. Take a note with you and write down every expenditure you make in the course of the day. Don’t gross over any expenses

Step 3: Set your goals.  Know in clear terms and in advance; what important thing you spend your money on. This will compel you to focus on that one thing that is important to you.

Step 4: Make a plan. Calculate how much you’ve got to spend on each item on your important list

Step 5: Adjust your habits if necessary. If prices of item have change you must also do same by adjust your budget to reflect the reality in the market.

Step 6: Keep checking in. This will enable you to know whether there’s something you must or change

You need to try and have a budget so that you can manage your income effectively because New Year statutory demands such as school fees payment, new uniforms, clothes, shoes, text books, etc. will be knocking at your door and you have to face them squarely.

I want you to see your budget as an opportunity to use your money wisely than you did last year so that you don’t go through the visual cycle of financial distress. The better your financial life is the healthier the family life.

2. PLAN WHAT THE FAMILY EAT

It’s important to note that a huge chuck of your income will be spent on food, so start planning how much you want to spend on what the family eat every week, every month and every year. According to USA today, the average America household spend 90% of their income on food. (https://www.usatoday.com/story/money/personalfinance/budget-and-spending/2018/05/08/how-does-average-american-spend-paycheck/34378157/

So try preparing your own meal as much as you can. You can seriously cut costs if you start planning your food properly each week and doing a single big shop. This is particularly easy to do if you shop online because many supermarkets have tools to help you plan meals. You can even order a whole meal’s worth of ingredients with the click of a button

If you spend 5$ a day on restaurant, that will amount to 25$ a week and 100$ a month. Is there not another way to cut this cost? Have you factored in what the kids will also spend if you have one? Make your lunches at home if possible. You can plan for a dinner a day and cook meals from scratch. This will reduce the amount on waste by making ingredients stretch across two meals instead of chucking the rest out.

There are great sites online that will teach you how to prepare a variety of meals even if you are not cut out for cooking. In this age and time there’s nothing you can’t learn to do, so don’t take chances with your money at all this year. Let every cent, shilling, etc. count on your food budget. I know you want to save some money this year and I wish to do same to.

Good housekeeping has a variety of meals you can lean to prepare immediately. You can visit them at https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/food-recipes/easy/g4900/easy-make-ahead-meals/ 1. Make a budget.

The “B” word doesn’t have to be a terrible one. For a lot of people, it implies spreadsheets and hours spent poring over said spreadsheets. Picking a number is actually pretty simple — the USDA has a chart that’ll do it for you — and then you just have to stick to that number. Because it’s a lot harder to stay on budget when you don’t have a budget to begin with!

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 1. Make a budget.

The “B” word doesn’t have to be a terrible one. For a lot of people, it implies spreadsheets and hours spent poring over said spreadsheets. Picking a number is actually pretty simple — the USDA has a chart that’ll do it for you — and then you just have to stick to that number. Because it’s a lot harder to stay on budget when you don’t have a budget to begin with!

2. Start meal planning.

Perhaps the best way to spend less money on food is to start meal planning. (It also helps take the stress out of weeknight dinners!) Not sure where to start? We’ve got you.

3. And packing lunch.

Instead of dropping $10 a day on a mediocre sandwich from the corner deli, start packing your lunch. You can bring food you actually want to eat without spending a ton of money.

4. Organize your pantry.

If you can’t easily see what’s in your pantry (or fridge or freezer), you risk buying ingredients that you already have. This is a waste of money because one of the duplicates is almost always going to spoil before you can use it. Get those spaces organized and check — like, really check — to see what you have before you head to the store.

Steal these tricks: The Most Brilliant Pantry Organization Hacks on the Internet

5. Be a smarter grocery shopper.

Don’t use coupons to buy stuff you weren’t already planning on buying. Know how to compare prices. Consider the store brand instead of the name brand. You’ve got this!

6. Embrace leftovers.

You’d be surprised how many people tell us they’re just not into leftovers. We always assume that also means they’re not into saving money, right? Eating leftovers helps cut back on waste — and it helps stretch a dollar a little further.

7. Cut back on the coffee shop runs.

Yes, there are some who would argue that going out for coffee is totally worth it, but if you’re trying to stop spending money on coffee, the best way to do so is to make it at home.

8. Cool it with the takeout.

You don’t need us to tell you that takeout adds up much faster than groceries do. In one year, a co-founder of The Financial Diet spent $418.01 on takeout alone. Then, she took a look to see what else she could have done with that money and it was … um, motivational, to say the least.

9. Or at least start using this trick.

If you’re set on having takeout for dinner, try taking advantage of lunch specials. Most restaurants offer crazy-good deals to draw in the crowds during the day. Pick up a special during lunch, stash it in your office fridge, and the reheat it when you get home for dinner. For further reading and clarification, please go to the site below

Since the food components take so much of your pay check or income I have explore a number of good sites in this post to make your work easy for you:

3. DO ASSESSMENT OF YOUR PREVIOUS STATUTORY PAYMENT INCLUDING BILLS

By now you have a fix idea about how much you’ve paid for rent, electricity, mortgage, gas and tax last year. These are payments that will continue to engage your attention but some are things you can do something about. Take for instance your electricity consumption and that of gas . Is it possible to exchange your high energy consumption fridge and other old gadgets to a new energy serving fridge and low high tech appliances?

Most of the wastage in our energy consumption can be dealt with if we plan to cut down single ironing instead of doing bulk ironing and reduce the use of the water heater. Evaluate how you use your gas and reduce things you warm or heat quiet often. Wait until you are ready for diner before warming the food. Don’t forget that nobody can manage your money and budget better that you.

Many households are guilty about their bills payment when they could shop around for much better deals. Utility bills are a great example that face every household. Explore ways to spend less and save more in this area.

Have you tried using Uswitch? It is a simple service to use. It compares your current gas and electricity bills against what you could be paying if you switched to their service. You may save hundreds of dollars or pounds on your bills just by filling in a form online to switch provider.

It’s not just utility bills that household could benefit by being proactive. When your phone contract is coming to an end, you could talk to a competitor firms to see what their best offers are and how you can benefit from their service. At the end of the day you should be spending less money and saving a few dollars or pounds into your investment fund or emergency fund. This a wise money management

You can also go back to your current service provider and have a discussion with them. If they can’t provide better alternative to what you’ve been offered elsewhere, tell them and give them  time to respond to your request. You never know they may give it a thought and fashion out something that will meet your need so as to convince you to stay. No company is readily to lose a customer.

Internet, TV,  insurance are other bills that you must confront every month and every bill payment is an opportunity to save money by getting a better deal somewhere else. You get a great deal by spending less provided you are ready to scout widely.

4. CHOOSE ALTERNATIVE FORMS OF TRANSPORT IF AVAILABLE

We all have to travel to and from work and this also form a big component of our daily expenses. This type of expenses can’t be eliminated so far as your movement is concerned. But how we travel to work is sometimes our own choice and preferences.

Is it always necessary to really catch a bus to the station, or you could walk briskly to the station? If you register a motor bike or a bicycle that you could use instead of driving to work, you would by saving some money in this area. Can you catch a bus instead of the train? Could you carpool with colleagues going to the same direction or area?

Don’t be surprised just how quickly spare change adds up into a big amount. It may seem an old way of saving but it’s very effective in the long round. Put all of your loose change in a small container. Anytime your wallet is rattling, empty it into the container.

 When the container is full take it to the bank. They have machines you can pour your saved coins into and it will do all the calculations for you; which you can then deposit straight into your account.

There’s is a new app named Moneybox. If you’re too modern and cashless for loose change, this app can track your spending and offers you the chance to round up each transaction to the nearest dollars or pounds, depositing the difference into a savings or investment account for you according to your choice of account.

People say this app is the digital equivalent of a piggy bank but the good thing is that it pays interest on your money rather than just let it sit on your shelf bring in nothing.

5. YOU CAN MAKE YOUR OWN GIFTS TO PRESENT INSTEAD OF BUYING

A lot of household waste plenty of money on presents to friends and family during the Christmas or on birthdays. It is well and good if you plan ahead for it and your budget can afford it. However there’s a cheaper alternative in making gifts instead buying them. Visit https://www.pinterest.com/search/pins

These type of gift make lasting impression because they are tailored to only that special person and they are not commonly available in the shop. You could make hampers of homemade goods such as jams. Or a photo album of special memories. Or make a decorative item of any kind. There are app at Pinterest to help you achieve all these ends.

We’ve been able to discuss 5 reasons to spend less as a responsible parent so that you can save to invest the little LEFT for the future of the family. Try and practice what you’ve learnt so as to improve your financial life better than it was last year.

Stay blessed!

Emmanuel

5 REASONS TO CONTINUE TO SAY I LOVE YOU

NEVER STOP TELLING YOUR PARTNER I LOVE YOU EVERYDAY

 

To some of us we can’t remember the last time we heard the word I love you from our partners. Most people cease using that four letter word shortly after honey moon. Others replace the use of the words “I love you” to regular hugging. The rest do regular pecking before going to work and from work.

Hugging and pecking are important elements in love relationship but they can’t in anyway replace the word “I love you” I remember a woman asked me sometime a go “Why do men find it so difficult to continue to say I love you soon after marriage” I thought I could give an answer readily but I couldn’t because I find it difficult to do so myself on a regular basis.

My research shows that the use of the word ‘I love you” seems simple but it appears the hardest thing to say across all segments of the population irrespective of education, financial status, geographical location and gender. As a social construct, the male partner is expected to say I love you the more because men are expected to show and demonstrate more love to their partners than the female partner. Even the bible confirms this social construct.

In Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.” Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” … He who loves his wife loves himself.

Psychology for today gave some interesting reasons why it’s difficult to say I love you and it‘s worth sharing with you. However you can add your own reasons and let us know about them

Fear of Commitment

  • Some people put a lot of power into the three words, “I love you” and are not ready to promise something they are afraid to give. The more weight that is put on these words by the partner of someone who is “commitment phobic,” the less likely it is you will hear them tripping out of the commitment-phobe’s mouth. Love may be present, but fear of commitment keeps it from being voiced. Why do people fear commitment? By making a choice, any other options are then excluded, and that lack of options can be fear-inducing and too limiting, regardless of the love one might actually feel for their partner.

Fear of Appearing Needy

  • Admitting love, for some, is to admit that they need another person in their life. It is almost like giving away power if they admit that they are vulnerable to another.

Fear of Rejection

  • Of course, one of the strongest fears that keeps us from saying what is in our heart is the fear of our feelings not being returned. Love is like a seesaw: It’s easy to begin with one person caring more for another at the start, but a balance of give-and-take is what gives the relationship momentum.

Fear of the Potential of Being Hurt

  • Being in love with a person is almost like having an open space in your heart. The saying about “having a soft spot” for someone is wonderfully descriptive: When we let ourselves open up to another, we take away a layer of self-protection, and that allows us to be more easily hurt. Having your ego bruised by someone you have that “soft spot” for can be much more painful than when it’s someone less special to you.

Missing Role Models?

  • May be you haven’t seen tenderness expressed often between partners, families, and close friends. May be you haven’t been told often enough that you were loved. Or maybe you grew up in a family where the “currency of love” was actions, not just those three words

BELOW ARE THE 5 REASONS WHY YOU MUST CONTINUE TO SAY I LOVE YOU TO YOUR PARTNER

  1. REASSURANCE OF YOUR COMMITMENT

We are told that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh (Luke 6:45 NKV). Here is a profound thought. Whenever you ponder in your heart and pronounce this affirmative words to your partner, it demonstrates how committed you are to your partner and the positive thought you have for him or her.

 Therefore when you pronounce these affirmative words (I love you), you will practice what you say to your partner because human beings are habit of what they do. I must admit as a husband, I don’t say it quiet often and I know there are many men out there who are having difficulty saying these “soft words”

Whatever that’s holding us back we should gather the courage and say it every. You should say it with the purest sincerity of heart. Women especially are not fade up from hearing the word I love you. Once in a while women must also tell their partners I love you. Those who are saying it in their relationship, continue to do it and those who are not doing it like me, let have a change of mind and demonstrate our love to our partners through the use of this powerful words “I love you”

2. DEMONSTRATE YOUR CONTINOUS AFFECTION

The feelings of love and care you demonstrate to your partner shows how you care for your partner on continuous basis. Have you come across the phrase “if you love me show it for me to see” Anytime you use the word I love you, you’ve no idea how that means to your better half.

There’s no way your partner will know how you are feeling towards him or her expect you exhibit it through what you do and say. Words are powerful and you should make your partner to know your deep affection towards her or him at all material moment.

If you use all the elements of love such as kissing, hugging, and pecking and the magic word “I love you”, it would draw your partner to you again and again and this will translate into deep bonding and mutual affection towards you and your partner.

3. DEMONSTRATE NO ONE ELSE IS ENGAGING YOUR ATTENTION

Nothing happens in vacuum if it’s not triggered by action. We’ve heard story where people who were cheating on their partners call their cheating partners name during love making instead of their real partners name. Like I indicated earlier out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speak.

What we focus on daily expand and manifest in reality. Your continuous assurance to your partner that he or she means the world to you by the way you assure him or she of your love will make your partner stable psychologically with you. We are told that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speak. This is a profound thought. Whatever you ponder in your heart should come out fulfilling to your partner, and these words should lift them up. Therefore when you pronounce negative words, you will practice negative works.

What we cherish and love, we give all our undivided attention to, so is love relationship. A man sent the wife “I love you” through a text message after 10 years of marriage without such words. The response of the woman was sad. “Hey Mr. Man, don’t bring yourself. If you got another woman you are intending the message for do that” Why this response you probably ask, because, the man has never used the word I love you before after their 10 years of marriage. So the woman was thinking the man want to play a fast one on her (deceive her).

Internalize the word in your language and let it be part of the vocabulary you use at home so that when we use it our partners wouldn’t be surprise like the woman discussed above.

4. IT ENHANCES INTIMACY

What makes you develop intimacy for your partner? I know everybody has reasons why he or she has strong intimacy for his or her partner. May be your reason could be the way your partner treats you or care for you. Another person may be looking at the great kissing accompanied by hot sex. Some may be looking at the beauty or the handsomeness of their partners to get intimate with them.

Don’t underestimate the use of the words I love you. Don’t get tired to use the words “I love you” very often this year and transform your relationship with your better half. Every little things you do in your relationship would go a long way to make it succeed or fail. Choose the former and make your relationship a unique example to others.

5. IT DEEPS THE BOND IN THE RELATIONSHIP

No one tells his or her enemy I love you. But we say these words to people we care passionately about. We all want some form of confirmation that people care about us. It gives us some sense of pride and this builds our self-esteem. We feel proud and develop positive attitude towards the future and that of our partners.

Implement all the elements needed in building a great relationship, bonding take time to build but you can start now if you are failing to bond effectively with your partner. Let me repeat; don’t let these three letter words( I love you) depart from your mouth, Meditate on it day and night, so that you can have a great and successful relationship

Not too long ago, we have been able to discuss the importance to continue to say I love you in your relationship no matter how young or old the relationship is. Continue to use this powerful phrase every day in your relationship and change the way your partner relate with you.

HAPPY NEW YEAR. MAY GOD JEHOVAH BLESS YOU WITH ALL YOUR HEART DESIRES THIS YEAR

STAY BLESSED AND PROTECTED

EMMANUEL

5 EVILS OF CONSTANT CRITICISM YOU MUST AVOID IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Who doesn’t value his or her dignity? At least every one does except our unfortunate brothers and sisters who are mentally derailed or retarded. I guess you value your dignity so do your partner.

Criticism is not a bad thing in itself but when it becomes “a national anthem” you sing every day to the hearing of your party, something must definitely be wrong somewhere, which ought to be corrected in order to pave way to free flow of communication.

I know people who have penchant for criticism no matter how hard their partners try to please them. Genuine criticism that seeks to correct a partner so as to make the relationship better is to be applauded but the negative as aspect of criticism is the subject matter for discussion.

A look at criticism reveals the following 1. To express your disapproval of someone or something or to talk about their faults 2. To express judgments about the good or bad qualities of something.

So let head straight to look at the evils of criticism in a relationship and why it’s necessary on our part to eliminate it in the course of our day to day interactions with our partners.

1. CRITICISM WEAKENS THE CONFIDENCE IN YOUR PARTNER

When we were in high school, the boys the teachers criticized the most are the ones most stubborn in the class because they assumed the teachers at the time saw nothing good in them, so they used what they have in them to disturb the class every now and then.

No individual does what is right all the time without any fault. We all need that warm and lovely advice from our partners when we didn’t get all things right at one point or the other. There’s a wise saying that “there’s no institution without counsel” Meaning no one is above advice. It’s against this background that we’ve so many advisors such as

  • Financial advisors
  • Presidential advisors
  • Legal advisors
  • Business advisors
  • Company advisors
  • Investment advisors
  • Marriage advisors
  • Insurance advisors etc.

The above advisors are set up to guide businesses and individual to do the right thing in the ambit of their respective laws. So is relationship. Your partner is not above counsel but the way and manner you go about it is the main issue. If you’ve made it your goal to constantly criticize him or her, you are indirectly telling him or her they are good for nothing and for that matter he or she can’t do anything right. When you go into a relationship with this mindset, you either make your partner to draw back from taking any initiative on their own or may take you for granted (would not take you seriously again). What good is it to do your very best only to be criticized by your partner. We all need constructive criticism so that we can give out our best but don’t make it a national anthem in your relationship.

2. CRITICISM BRINGS DISHARMOY IN THE RELATIONSHIP

Lovers are supposed to be friends and not enemies. But what do we see in most relationships especially as the relationship advance in age, criticism becomes the order of the day probably because love is gradually “dying out” and we no longer care about the feelings of our partners.

Criticism is a dangerous road to travel especially in committed or marriage relationship. How do you feel if your partner doesn’t appreciate whatever you do to him or her?  Can you get closer to the person who always lambast you and never appreciate anything good you have done and continue to for him or her?

Constant criticism is a pointer that something is going wrong and partners must take steps to correct it. There are ways to go by criticism without offending your partner. Anna shares some points worth sharing and implementing its alternative in our relationships. Reframe the statement to meet your peculiar needs

1. Remove the focus from the individual

The moment your criticism becomes personal, the event becomes hostile. Stop this scenario from playing out by removing your focus on the individual (even if your focus is actually on the individual). This is best illustrated with examples. Let’s say you’re working on a team project, and one of your members isn’t delivering his updates on time. Instead of saying, “you’re not good at delivering your updates on time,” reposition the criticism to something like, “I would work more efficiently if I had your updates on time.” This becomes less of an attack on the individual, and more of an unbiased view of the situation as a whole.

2. Be specific

One of the most important qualities of effective feedback is specificity. The first part of this “specifying” process is all about identifying what it is you actually want to criticize. For example, if you feel like your work environment is hostile, walking into your boss’s office and claiming “this office is terrible” isn’t going to help anything. Precisely indicate what factors and items rest at the root of your issues. For example, “there’s a lack of efficient communication between supervisors and subordinates” is much more specific, and identifies a key area that needs work. Productive discussion can then take place.

3. Get it out

Most of us are used to playing social games where we dance around our true meaning with ambiguity and indirect references. Forget those social minutiae when delivering your criticism–they aren’t going to help you. You may think you’re softening the blow, so to speak, but what you’re really doing is injecting ambiguity to obscure your meaning. Passive-aggressive comments like “some of us prefer to get to work on time” or ambiguous comments like “I think maybe you could stand to plan your morning a little better” bear little meaning, and may even be irritating. Just come out and say it: “your punctuality needs improvement.”

4. Frame your criticism with compliments

Let your recipient know that you aren’t just trying to put them down; frame the negative elements of your critical feedback with compliments. This is a bit of a psychological trick, preventing the recipient from suffering a blow to her ego, but more importantly, it shows that you’re paying attention to the total picture, not just one element. For example, you might say, “Great work on that project! Your writing was crystal clear. I think it could use a little more research to back up your facts, but overall, it’s on point.”

5. Offer suggestions

Criticism without a suggestion is like being a navigator, telling someone they’re headed in the wrong direction, and refusing to tell them which direction is the right one.  Don’t do this to your recipients. Give them at least a few options for potential development, or they might not take any effort to improve on their own. For example, you could say, “your scope documents sometimes come over as ambiguous. Could you start using a consistent format? Would it help if I came up with a list of questions for you to ask the client?” Offering your own help is always a good thing too.

6. Recognize your own subjectivity

Human beings are incapable of being objective, no matter how much we try to convince ourselves otherwise. Indicating your own subjectivity, and your own proneness to human error, will make you appear more humble, and therefore more sincere in your delivery. It doesn’t take much to imply this–a simple aside is more than enough. For example, you might say, “I’m not an expert on the subject, but I believe your plan is missing a few key details.” Don’t deprecate yourself, but admit a degree of uncertainty unless you’re absolutely sure of yourself.

7. Practice what you preach

This is a general best practice that will improve your reputation, but it’s important to acknowledge in the context of giving criticism. If you align yourself to the belief that criticism is necessary and everyone needs it, you need to be able to take it as much as you dish it out. Demonstrate your full commitment to criticism by accepting criticism of your own work. Learning to take criticism is an art in itself, but as long as you make yourself open to it, you’ll set a better standard for your entire team.

It’s a sad fact that most people still take criticism as an insult or as a “bad thing” in general. But if you frame it correctly, even the staunchest opponent will find themselves able to recognize that you’re doing this for their best interests. This doesn’t always make it easy to give or easy to take, but it does produce the best possible scenario for what is, ultimately, a necessary exchange. (https://www.inc.com/anna-johansson/7-ways-to-voice-criticism-without-being-negative.html)

3. CONSTANT CRITICISM STAGNATES INTIMACY

When you are always bashing your partner through constant criticism, you would be gradually destroying the intimacy that holds and binds the relationship together. When this attitude continues in the relationship sex will be destroyed and there will not be any livewire to support the marriage or relationship. This will put you far apart from each other even though you may leaving under the same rough. It’s not surprising to see couples sleep on the same bed without any sexual intimacy for years.

Since intimacy has to do with the way people feel towards each other we have to deal with the way we criticize our partners so as not to destroy the intimacy we have with them. Whatever the case may be your partner would offend you in one way or the other but learn to master the urge not to speak any negative words as you normally do.

Successful relationships are not without problems but the individuals in such relationships learn to handle conflicts maturely without reaching the breaking point because people learn how to control their tongues. If you know how to control your tongue I can assure you that your marriage relationship would go as far as you want.

4. CONSTANT CRITICISM SHOWS PRIDE

There’s nothing wrong if you take pride in who you are and what you do. The kind of pride I am talking about is the constant demonstration to your partner that you are better off in every way than your partner. How do people do this? When they constantly criticize their partners for not doing what they think is right. Examples: any purchase by their partners is considered inferior, any alternative option given is deemed outmoded etc. Such people will never be satisfied with anything to say the least.

Even if you don’t like what your partner has done you should be respectful and find a better way to go about it without sounding prideful through your utterances. Great people don’t run others down in order to make themselves better. They rather support everyone to be better off.

Do everything you can to complement the weaknesses of your partner without making it a big issue as some people do in their relationships. You don’t highlight your partner’s mistakes to justify your criticism. Don’t be arrogant to humble yourself to know your own weaknesses. You may also have a weakness your partner is dealing with so don’t make it looks like you are very perfect and have no flaw.

 Avoid this attitude for the sake of your partner and the love you have for each other.

5. CONSTANT CRITICISM DEMONSTRATES IMMATURITY

I witnessed a marriage that lasted for six months and ended on divorce because the lady can’t stop criticizing everything about the husband. The lady is young and happens to come from an affluent home and for that matter she extends her parent’s home experience to her marriage.

You have to grow in your relationship and see conflicts as a normal part of your marriage or relationship. You don’t extend the experience in your old relationship or the experience you had with your parent to your new home. You have to acquire experience through your daily experiences with your partner in the relationship.

If your own partner couldn’t be a good example for you when it comes to dealing with your partner, read and learn about how people manage to deal with criticism in their relationships and come out strongly in the long round. You have no idea how people are praying and envying your relationship with your partner. It’s too costly to disappoint them. You can do better by staying clear from criticism.

Criticism is another frequently abuse element in our relationships and we must learn to either avoid it or use it constructively to enhance our relationships. I want to see you happy with your partner doing forward so if it’s possible don’t criticize him or her. You are in the relationship to complement him or her and not to announce your partner’s weaknesses to the world. The world has its own challenges, don’t add yours to it.

HAPPY NEW AND PROSPEROUS RELATIONSHIP

Stay blessed

Emmanuel

6 REASONS TO LISTEN MORE TO YOUR PARTNER THAN YOU TALK

THERE’S NO SUBSTITUTE FOR ACTIVE LISTENING IN A RELATIONSHIP


Even though listening transcends all conversations and communications, it’s often not given the attention it deserves in our relationship. Many people assume that their presence during a discussion amounts to listening when in the actual fact their minds are wandering far away from their partners during conversation.

I am still guilty I must admit when it comes to active listening to my wife and this often leads to her withdrawal when I’ve to ask the same information she discussed with me again. I felt very bad when my wife has to refer to me as “you are not a good listener” But do I have any cause to complain? Absolute No. I don’t really do active listening and hence her difficulty in discussing issues that bothered her and the family sometimes. Bad isn’t? I have since repented from this behavior and want you to also change and pay close attention to your partner when they are speaking to you.

Effective listening is fundamental to any good communication. Good communication is vital to building any loving and successful relationship. Being able to openly communicate with your partner and also feel that you have been heard by your partner is significant to the success of a sustainable and long lasting marriage relationship.

 According to Ralph Nicholas “The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.” However, this is a big missing link in most relationships, which shouldn’t be the case. We are to be present physically, spiritually and emotionally when our partner is talking to us. Nothing should engage your attention more than what he or she want to say.

Recent studies have indicates that we typically remember only 25-30% of what we hear at a time. However, ‘Active Listening’ can increase that figure enormously. One of the ways to use ‘Active Listening’ is to remember the often-used expression that “eyes and ears should be used in the same proportion they have been allocated to us.”

“Active Listening” leads to solid relationships and relationships are built through different human attributes. At the core of these attributes is listening. There are ways we can do this:

  1. Not getting distracted by notifications on your phone or email and listen to both what is being said and how it is spoken. Turn your phone off if that makes it easier for you to pay more attention.
  2. Keep your eyes and your mind focused on your partner rather than what else is competing your attention
  3. Apply subtle changes in body language to show you are interested, such as sitting up straight to refocus yourself while  maintaining eye contact throughout the communication
  4. Avoid gestures, which make it appear as though you are not listening, such as fidgeting with a pen, looking over paperwork or tapping your feet or anything of that sort
  5. Think about what your partner is saying and why they might be saying it. Ask for confirmation if you are not too sure of a name, a figure, a specific information or an amount that may recall for exact information from your partner.
  6. Remind yourself of how you wish to be treated when it’s your turn to speak. If you love your partner, respect him or her by the way you listen to them.
  7. Do not try to formulate a response until they have finished speaking, ensuring you get the full, clear message. We sometimes get it all wrong as men when we appear as if we have already prepared answers to what our partners have to say. Avoid this mistake, this time wrong.

Find below 5 reasons why you must listen more than talking

1. LISTENING MORE MAKES YOU TO UNDERSTAND YOUR PARTNER BETTER

“How can you understand me when you’ve not given me the opportunity to explain myself” This has been a nightmare for a woman who’s married to a business man. The man pretend as if he knows all the emotional and physical issues of the wife and hardly gives her the opportunity to tell him what actually is her concerns.

Relationships have evolved over the years and so have the causes of relationship problems. Relationship Australia’s survey undertaken in 2011, indicates communication difficulties are the second top reason for partner relationship breakdowns, followed closely by financial stress.

Sasha explains that “when couples listen attentively to one another, it allows each one to feel good about the conversation and feel like their concerns have been considered and addressed.” 

I am told by wife that it’s not everything that women want their husband address with money but they (women) sometimes want to be heard so that they can cool down. She said “we normally fail to get this right as men”

Good listening strengthens the relationship between you and your partner and allows you to understand exactly what each wants to say and what attention to give to one another; thus creating a healthy and fulfilling relationship

2. LISTENING MORE REDUCES CONFLICTS

  Most conflict is caused by misunderstood communication between you and your partner. Either you are not doing active listening or she is not communicating the information appropriately.

When there is successful communication, conflict between you and partner is solved by bridging the communication gaps that normally create it

As a matter of fact people are not listening at all during conversation these days and these results in the way people want a particular information repeated over and over again. It appears we are paying more attention to our phones than our partners. Sad, I must admit.

May be you were not a good listener last year but promise me you going to be an effective listener and build a happy relationship with your partner. Great! I am proud of you.

3. LISTEN MORE PREVENTS DISTORTION OF INFORMATION

In communications, distortion can come about as a result of alteration of the waveform of an information-bearing signals, such as a sound and other form of disturbances. Distortion is usually unwanted interferences which prevents you from giving your undivided attention to someone who is communicating to you.

I remember my wife one day got upset with me and turn off the radio set because she was passing a sensitive information to me while I was listening to news at the same time. I thought I can do the two but in the actual fact, I can’t do both. I was paying more attention to the news than her. Many couples go through such situations every day.

Don’t allow any distortion to take place when you are communicating with your partner. Avoid all forms of disturbances and give your partner undivided attention. Make sure you understood pretty well what he or she has communicated to you and ask the relevant question for clarifications when it’s your time to do so.

4. LISTERNING MORE DRAW YOU CLOSER TO YOUR PARTNER

Effective and good communication is an indication of successful and loving relationship. If I know what you are thinking and you know what am thinking we can get along nicely. This basic element is missing in most relationships because communication has broken down due to ineffective listening.

Make your partner to understand you clear and loud without second guessing what you are likely thinking about all along. If you can make him or her to understand you better without any doubt in his or mind, you would draw your partner closer to you. The proverbial phrase “can two walk together except they agree” plays a crucial role in this respect.

5. LISTENING ENHANCES COMMUNICATION

According to a research, the data show that an average of 45% is spent listening compared to 30% speaking, 16% reading and 9% writing. (Adler, R. et al. 2001). That is, by any standards, a lot of time listening. It is worthwhile, therefore, taking a bit of extra time to ensure that you listen effectively.

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When you are together, spend time with your partner to find out what issues you must pay attention to and address promptly. I know the modern economy is not giving us the time to listen to the concerns of our partners, but it’s a necessary evil to listen more. Don’t always be on the go without paying attention to what matters in the relationship.

According to Warren Edward Buffett, an American business magnate, investor, speaker and philanthropist who serves as the chairman and CEO of Berkshire Hathaway, there are three things every successful person must pay attention to. These are 1) your relationship, 2) your health and 3) your business.

So, it doesn’t make sense to lose a relationship because you are pursuing your business interest. Balance your life so that none of the three important elements suffer. Pay attention to your partner and everything else in your relationships will fall in place. This is not magic but common sense approach.

6. LISTENING MORE BRINGS ABOUT TRUST

If you can’t trust your partner to be honest and independent in the way he or she would go about life, don’t hang in there and complain and whine. You’ve no business being there because you can’t follow your partner to wherever they go and that’s why we need to build trust in our relationship by listening more to what our partners feel and say. So many people have problems about trust in their relationship because they failed in developing trust in the way they communicate issues to each other. Yes, you must listen effectively to each; there’s no substitute for listening and you’ve no excuse to do otherwise. 

In the actual fact any relationship must be based on trust. When we are not listening effectively, it will be difficult for people to be able to trust each other. This means being honest with the other person in the relationship. Having trust in a relationship also means proving to each other that you are reliable, responsible, and dependable. How would your partner know what you are thinking about if you don’t listen to what they have to say? Don’t be in a hurry to conclude a discussion if your partner has not reach the conclusion point as regard to what they have to say.

What happens in a relationship without trust? It could involve second guessing and not believing each other. It also might involve betrayal by sharing secrets or obsessively checking on the other person.

For example: if you are worried your partner  may be cheating on you, constantly checking his or her phone messages to make sure he or she is not texting or calling someone else means you do not trust him or her enough. A better way to tackle this is to communicate your concerns and develop a greater sense of trust through what your partner has to say in response.

 A man severely beat up the wife on the common word ‘hello dear’ as appeared on the wife’s phone as a message. Even though the woman disclosed the identity of her new client to the husband, the husband didn’t listen effectively to the wife and appeared to have no knowledge of the wife’s new client who usually address her as dear.

You can’t do away with trust because it is an important element of any healthy relationship. If your relationship lacks trust, it’s hard to get close to the other person and to rely on him or her for support.

In a successful relationship, you should be able to listen to your partner and been able to share information with your partner without worrying that he or she will share it with others. You should also avoid telling any other person outside the ambit of the relationship any confidential information your partner tells you unless keeping such a secret will put him or her in danger.

Every healthy relationship especially marriage must build trust so much so that you should feel comfortable around your partner and not fear for your safety. If you do have any concern for your safety or feel belittled or hurt when you’re around your partner, there is a good chance that something is not adding up and you’ve to communicate your concerns to your partner to address the issues as early as possible.

We’ve taken a look at the issue of listening in our relationships because we identified it as one of the essential elements that can enhance our relationship in the years to come. Let do our best to listen more this time round as we age in our relationship than we speak so that we can build a successful and loving relationship. When we do this successfully in our relationship, society and prosperity would be grateful to us.

Stay blessed!

Emmanuel

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