3 WAYS YOU CAN PREDICT YOUR OWN SUCCESS MILES AWAY

Do You Know You Can Predict Your Own Success in the Future?

“Nothing can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talents. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent-Calvin Coolidge

Success, according to most success coach, who are themselves self-made millionaires, are predictable just like writing exams and predicting the outcome of your effort. If you prepare well, you would be able to predict the outcome of the examination result.

Success they is not a matter of luck. It took me long enough to discover this hard truth. I thought successful people are just lucky and didn’t have to put in any effort at all. By associating yourself with the under listed hard principle, you can predict your own success just like predicting the date for the birth of your child.

If you agree with me, you will have advantage over people who not actually know or who are failing to practice these winning principles

1. Be Proactive and Take decisive Action

One of the fine qualities of many self-made millionaires is that they think very carefully, but make prompt decisions. They’ve appetite for action and are focused to carry out the decision they have made. Most of them move fast and get quick result from their actions. If they find out they have made mistakes, they are quick to adjust and start something new. How focus are you in taking quick action to decide what necessary steps to take to achieving result.

The ingredient to success is for you to try again and again. Successful individuals are very decisive and try many more things than other average people. According to the law of possibilities, if you try far more different ways to be successful, the odds are that you will eventually find out the right way for you at the right time.

The majority of the world’s population are indecisive because most people lack the motivation to carry on with their plan. Successful people however, know that they should do or stop doing certain things, but they do not have the character or the willpower to make definite decisions. As a result, they drift through life, never happy, fulfilled or being successful. This type of people never become wealthy or achieve financial independence. Most average thinking people settle for far less than is possible for them.

Anytime you become decisive and take pragmatic action, you shift your entire life into gear 5. You get far more done in a day than other people. You move ahead far faster than the people around you. When you do this, you actually tap into a higher source of energy packed by enthusiasm and motivation that fills you with joy. This positive energy then propels you as an individual forward and faster toward your goals.

Can I ask you one question: what one action if any you ought to take immediately in order to achieve the result of your goal?

2. Never Allow Failure to be a Hindrance

One of the finest statesman of US history, Franklin D. Roosevelt once said “there is nothing to fear but fear itself.

The fear of failure still remains the greatest obstacle to success in adult life and not failure itself. Did you get that?

Failure actually makes you stronger and more prepared than ever before. It’s the fear of failure or the anticipation of failure that can paralyze your thought and hold you back from even trying to do the things that you need to do to be a big success.

When a journalist one day asked Thomas J. Watson Sr., the founder of IBM, HOW HE COULD BE MORE SUCCESSFUL FASTER. Watson replied with this encouraging words: “If you want to be successful faster, you must double your rate of failure. Success lies on the far side of failure”. Dare to take responsibility and don’t hesitate to go forward. Most self-made millionaires are not gamblers but they are willing to do what we called calculated risks in the direction off their goals to achieve the expected rewards.

You shouldn’t be risk averse (afraid of taking risk) In fact, your attitude towards risk is directly proportional to your ability to become wealthy. Surround yourself with positive people whenever you are faced with risky situation, ask for advice. The fact is that we are all afraid of failure to some extent. I guess everybody including me is afraid of loss, including poverty. Everybody seems to be afraid of making mistakes and being found out. But most self-made millionaires are people who deliberately face this fear and take action anyway.

Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, “Make a habit throughout your life of doing the things that you fear. If you do the things you fear, the death of fear is certain” Anytime we take the initiate to act boldly, the universe come to our aid. Every step you make increases your capacity to face the future. Continue to stay focus in the forward direction with no assurance of success. When you do this, your fear will diminish and your self-confidence increases.

Your preoccupation with this fear thing, is to commit yourself to becoming self-made millionaire. Continue to remind yourself, in the face of all the problems and difficulties that will come your way, failure is not an option. The yes I can attitude more than anything else, will eventually guarantee your long term success

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3. Pass the Persistent Acid Test

A rich man living in our neighborhood once said “If I want to achieve anything meaningful in life, I should be focus and persistence-because it is an absolute indispensable quality that goes hand in hand with all great achievements in life.

Program your subconscious mind for persistence well in advance of any challenge and disappointments on your upward desire toward success. When you take this decision, it will enable you to resolve in advance, that, you will never give up, no matter how long and no matter what happens on the way.

The reality is that when we are overwhelmed as human with problems, we don’t have the sound mind and time to develop the necessary persistence to deal with the disappointments or the mistakes. However, when we plan in advance for the inevitable ups and downs of life, when they eventually come, we will be psychologically and emotionally prepare to handle it.

The ability to continue in the face of adversity and disappointment is the one quality than anything else that will guarantee your success. Your ability to persevere more than anyone else is a hallmark that will enable you to achieve success quicker and faster. In fact, your persistence is a true measure of your own belief in yourself and your ability to succeed.

Be prepared to take the acid test of life if you are not joking with your desire to achieve success in all areas of your life. For you to have great success, you must pass the persistent Acid Test. It can come anytime when you are least prepared. I went to my bank and applied for a loan for a project. All things point to the fact that I would be given the money at the end of the week, which never happened, but was told the following week that my application was declined without any tangible reasons. I have prepared for this facility to finish a project but, was disappointed.

This is where you must show yourself to the people around you, what you are truly made of. I didn’t give up but continue to seek fund to complete the project. Epictetus, a Greek philosophy, once wrote, “Circumstances do not make the man. They merely reveal him to himself”

The only factor you can control in your life is how you respond to difficulties and setbacks that come your way. And the good news is that every time you respond in a positive and constructive manner, you automatically become stronger and better. This puts you in a better position to deal with any crisis that comes along.

You become a kind of person who never quits, no matter the crisis that comes your way, you will find a way over it or around it.

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By practicing the 3 principle we talked about, your success will be predictable-because you move to the front of the line in life ahead of many people. This will give you an incredible advantage. You will have the winning edge for the rest of your life. If you consistently and persistently do the things successful people do, nothing under the sun can stop you from becoming a big success.

Enjoy Your Sunday and Stay Blessed

Scout Linsky

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5 COMMON SENSE APPROACH TO LIFE SUCCESS EVERYBODY MUST LEARN THE HARD WAY

GIVE LIFE YOUR BEST SHOT AND SUCCESS WILL BE YOUR REWARD

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Many people still go through life without realizing that, the world is a neutral judge when it comes to what you want to become and how you want to live your life. Yes, I understand when you say “the world is not fair” to a very large extent-but, who tells you, it’s going to be fair some days to come.

Even from the creation narratives, there’s no fairness. People where favored more than the others. It’s the creator own design for things to go the way it does. The story of Essau and Jacob, Hannah and Penninah and Esther a slave girl, chosen above all other virgins to become a queen due to God’s favor, that discriminate her from the others. People were privileged to be born into rich families through no effort of theirs. Others were born in a developed world through no effort of theirs while the rest were born in a developing world, through no effort of them. At the same time, others were born into war ravaged countries and suffer the effect of war they have no hand in.

I can go on and on. But, the reality is that, people become successful no matter how difficult the situation the find themselves as a people. They take advantage of their precarious situation and make life out of their mere existence. Below are the 6 common sense approach to life success you must learn to admit and move on with your life, no matter where you find yourself under the planet.

1. LEARN TO BE 100% RESPONSIBLE FOR YOURSELF

It’s very difficult to admit that the majority of people still think someone should be responsible for their life some way, somehow. In fact, I was having that wrong notion sometimes ago, without looking at what I can do to help myself. I thought I was helpless and nothing can be done about my situation.

I went to school and had my degrees and came back to see ordinary school drop outs in my locality being successful by what they do- build their houses and buy their own cars. I asked myself the hard question one day, when my young niece of 10 years, wanted to know why I couldn’t buy a car like my other school mates, who dropped out of school.

I feel embarrass and went to my room and shed a little tears. The reality check came and I told myself, Emmanuel you got to do something out of life and you must start this very minute. I decided to take 100% responsibility for life. I stop complaining, listening to political news about corruptions and what our government is failing to do right. I stop joining people who are negative in their thinking and start thinking straight about what I must do to improve my living condition from now.

I started facing my own faring square and dancing to my own music. I told myself, I also deceive the good things in life. Since then, I started seeing improvement in my life, because I am spending more time to do what I love to do and less time to do what I don’t want in life. What’s your current situation? Do you like where you are and what are you doing? Do you take 100% responsibility for what you do? Stop wasting time to listen to your politicians and news detractors. The day you decide to take personal responsibility of your life, you will join the world 20% population, who become successful.

2. LEARN TO STOP THE BLAME GAME

Are you still blaming your parents or your birth place, your government’s inability to give you good education, your failure to live in a decent neighborhood, live in a beautiful house or drive a nice car? Who cares what you blame? If you have any blame at all, blame yourself for taking some decisions in life that didn’t help you and learn from those mistakes to become a better person in life. Don’t dwell on your mistakes for too long and fail to take any action to correct them

I made plenty of mistakes in life out of ignorance and learn to take the hard path to create a new life for myself and family. Don’t allow the mistakes of yesterday determines your tomorrow. If you can focus on what you want to achieve in life, you would stop playing the blame game and remain focus towards the achievement of your major purpose in life.

Anytime you drive in your city or town, you are amazed to see new beautiful buildings, new registered cars, new businesses etc. in the same economy you live. They might be doing something right to get to where they are- you can also get there if you are determined and drop your gun on blaming others for your mistakes and failures.

3. LEARN TO UTILIZE YOUR GOD GIVING TALENT

You have something in you to give to the world. Yes, you have. Nobody is born without anything in him or her to develop and make life better for himself and herself. Some people are quick to know what they have in them that can be beneficial to themselves and the world.

Even, if you can’t identify your talent and others close to you couldn’t do that either, you can still learn from others? Yes, I believe in the saying: “Follow the follower” Do what successful people do and with time you too will become successful. Some people become footballers not necessarily as a result of talent in football, but the money and other incentives that accompany it made them learn to develop the interest. Be motivated by success to give life your best shot.

Nobody is born a business man or woman or an entrepreneur but, they learn from others to do likewise and today, they become successful like them. Don’t sit down and give up in life. It’s not too late to start a new career, a new business or hobby. I am waiting to read your success story one day

4. LEARN TO AVOID EXCUSES

Those who continue to give excuses are not ready to face the reality of life. It’s easy to give excuses and justify it with tangible reasons. But, the fact still remains, excuse givers never achieve anything tangible in life. They give excuses for lack of proper education, bad governance in their country, corruption of state officials, bad economy, their inability to connect to the right people in government etc.

All the above mention excuses exist in any economy in the world, from South Africa to Nigeria, from Brazil to Mexico, from the United States to the UK.  But, there are millionaires and billionaires in all these countries especially in the US. People come to the US with nothing to declare to officials at the airport, but are now success business men and women. Surprisingly, most of the millionaires are self-made millionaires, who, through the dint of hard work, become who they are today. Leave the excuses for your child, so that you can encourage him or her to take full responsibility for his or her action in life.

5. LEARN TO RECOGNIZE THAT THE WORLD OWES YOU NOTHING

I indicated earlier that the world is a neutral referee. It doesn’t take part in what we do as individual, as a country or state.  The world is like the first computer lesson I learned from my instructor some years ago. Baggage in, baggage out. What you feed the computer with, is what the computer process and the result is what you see on your screen.

So, is the world you find yourself?  What you sow today is what you will reap tomorrow, it doesn’t matter which corner of the world you find yourself. Work very hard and wait for the reward of your labor. Don’t be in a hurry to achieve result within the shortest time. The waiting period makes many people to give up on their dreams. Hold onto your dream, no matter how long it takes to achieve that dream.

Continue to work in the quiet and the world will celebrate you in the open. Be the master of your life and not a victim.

Stay blessed!

Scout Linsky

3 REASONS WHY YOU DARE NOT PROVOKE THE JEALOUSY OF GOD, NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE

IF GOD IS AFTER YOU, THERE’S NO HIDING PLACE

In the book of Psalms 14:1 the Bible says “the fool has said in his heart there’s no God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there’s none who does good” I’ve decided to write a post on this controversial topic because of the silent disquiet going on in our world today in the name of modernity.

It doesn’t matter the economy you find yourself, your level of education, your social or political status in society and the amount of cash in your account or the wealth you’ve gathered over the years. One thing that eluded most so called civilized people is the denial about the existence, the power and the manifestation of the supreme God.

Some people are of the opinion that those who believe in the Supreme God and the Bible are insane. The fact still remains strongly that we are created by a living God-whether we live or die we are for him.

Now, why do we need not to provoke the Jealousy of a loving and a caring God?  Let examine the point one after the other and you would come to appreciate the reality of the God we are talking about and why you should not in any circumstances incur the jealousy of God. Because, when you dare Him, he’s prompt to manifest his supremacy and glory.

1. GOD IS A JEALOUS GOD

Even though we know the supreme God as loving, caring, affectionate, merciful, and forgiving, He has other name most Christians and non-Christians alike never know- He is also called Jealous

When God brought the Israelites from captivity from the land of Egypt as we all know, He gave them specific instructions as to how they should live their lives. “And God spoke all these words saying: I am the Lord, your God, who brought you from the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage” You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make yourself a carved image-any likeness of anything that is in heaven above or that is in the water under the earth: You shall not bow down to them nor serve them. For I, the LORD you GOD, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep my commandment” (Exodus 20:1-6)

The limitless of human wisdom can’t be compared to the ‘foolish’ of God’s wisdom. He’s God and does what he pleases. We can’t understand the ways of God and we sometimes seem helpless when we are confronted with circumstances with immeasurable proportions. I don’t understand Him and can’t understand Him so far as I remain in my fleshly body.

We know the story pretty well of the British Engineer who supervised the building of the luxurious ship, Titanic in 1912. When journalists went round to inspect the ship, they came back to ask the Engineer-whether everything was set for the ship to sail safely to New York. His answer was; not even God can sink the ship. He thought he and his team did everything possible to guarantee the safe sailing of the ship. But, alas, the ship sunk and became history, because the engineer provoked the jealous of God Almighty.

What about the story in Brazil, where a young lady provoked the anger of God- When the friends came to her house to pick her for outing and the mother escorted her to the car and prayed for her-invoking the presence of God to be with her in the car because the girls in the car appear tipsy with alcohol. Her answer to the mother was that “the car was full and the only space available in the car for God, was the boot.

Few hour later, the mother had a call that the car the daughter was travelling had crushed and the only place left undamaged was the boot. Surprisingly, there was a crate of egg which was left intact, because God was in the boot. Don’t joke with God with your human wisdom to provoke the jealousy of God to destroy your life.

2. THERE’S NO SUBSTITUTE FOR GOD

Many people have substituted various things in place of God and relegated God to the background. People replaced God with wealth, riches, fame, power, position, education, material possessions, nationality etc. and would dare say there’s no God. Permit me to refresh your mind to a few happenings over the years.

September 9/11, 2001– The people of this great nation on earth, woke up to witness unprecedented attack on two of their most sensitive institutions- Pentagon and the World Trade Center. Where was the intelligence of the Pentagon- which was to give intelligent information about the imminent attack to warn the citizens?

The fact is, when we think we don’t need God, He allows a common enemy to destroy us. When CNN went to the street to interview people in the wake of the attack, most people were shocked to the bone, in that the trusted their military intelligence and might and couldn’t believe that a small group like aqueeda could penetrate one of the world most powerful security on earth to launch attack on them. Yes, they can’t believe that- but with God all things are possible (Luke 1:37)

There was a king in the Bible, King Herod, who spoke to his subjects and they claimed he spoke like God. He was excited that he could speak like God without rebuking his subjects- that, was not God. He accepted the praise and the story indicated that he died in his seat and worms fed his body. (Acts 12:35)

There was another king called Nebuchadnezzar, who provoked the jealousy of God due to pride. At that time in history, only the priests were mandated to use the Lord’s cup to serve his people. One day, he told the priest to permit him to use the cups even though he had numerous cups as a king to use. God’s anger descended on him and he became an animal and spent 7 years in the bush, eating grass like a common animal. (Dan 4:33)

My sweet sister and brother, don’t in any way invite the jealousy of God to your life. When God becomes angry no one can question his judgment. No one can bribe him because He can’t be bribed.

3.EVERY HUMAN BEING ON EARTH WOULD RETURN TO HIM

You can believe the falsehood, there’s no God and you use human philosophy to please yourself-to justify the falsehood which is based on the traditions of men and not of God (Colossians 2:8) Wait and when the time comes for you to depart from earth to your maker, there, you will know that, we have a living God- who controls the life of all his creation in his image.

I have seen my father and mother died and know that one day I would follow in like manner to my maker. With all the attempts to create human beings and stop death from occurring, none was successful. Don’t be deceived, you came to this world alone and you would definitely leave alone back to where you came from. Pursue whatever you want in life, but, let God be part of your equation in life.

Stay blessed

Scout Linsky

4 REASONS YOU MUST GET AROUND THE RIGHT PEOPLE AND MOVE FASTER IN LIFE

Your success in life depends on the relationship you build


“You will be the same person in five years except for the people you meet and the books you read” (Charles Jones)

Do you know that about 85% of your success and happiness in family life as well as your personal life are going to be determined by the quality of the relationships that you develop in your journey to success? The more people you know and the more people who know you in a very positive way, the more successful you will be and the faster you will move a head in life and in your relationship. Connecting with the right people should be a must for you this year.

At every turning point in your life, someone is standing there to either help you or prevent you from moving faster towards the achievement of your goal. The fact is that successful people make a habit of building and maintaining a network of high quality relationships throughout their lives and as a result they accomplish greatly more that the person who goes home and watches television all night.

Whether you admit it or not everything involves relationship. So, this is the reasons why you need to get around the right people to move faster in life.

  1. RELATIONSHIP WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE SPEED UP YOUR SUCCESS

Virtually, all of your amazing successes in life will be accompanied to a large extent with your relationship with good people who help you and whom you help in return. Research studies have shown that more than 90% of your success will be determined by your “reference group” Your reference group is explained as the people with whom you habitually identify and pass the time. Surprisingly, you are like a chameleon in that you take on the attitudes, behaviors, values, and belief system of the people with whom you chose to associate all the time. If you want to be a successful person, choose to associate with people who are positive in everything they do.

Associate with people who are optimistic and excited who have goals and are moving forward in their lives in achieving those goals.  In addition, get far away from people who are negative in their thinking, very critical about people and complaining people.

It’s now clear that if you really want to fly with the eagles, you can’t scratch with the turkeys but get around the right people.

  • RELATIONSHIP WITH THE RIGHT FAMILY ENHANCES YOUR OWN FAMILY LIFE

Even self-made millionaires network continually, how much more you, a beginner. Join your community associate and get to network with rich families. Attend their meetings and get involve in the group activities. Be bold to introduce yourself and tell them what you are about to do in the coming weeks.  Get a business card and tell them what your small business will engage in. Don’t underrate yourself in such meetings. Your confidence will pave way for you.

You must definitely have a goal in mind going into such meetings and you may be surprised how happy someone will be prepared to partner you to start your business with zero percent of your own money. This is where they say preparation meet opportunity, which the ordinary man will call luck.

If you are successful the whole family will equally be successful and the family would be proud of you especially your kids. Be a go giver. The more you give of yourself without necessarily expecting something in return, the more return you find in an unexpected way.  What do have to help your mentors so that they would be open to helping you in return? Remember, you first sow and you reap later.

  • RELATIONSHIP WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE SERVRES AS INSPIRATION WHEN THE GOING GET TOUGH

Identify the right people in your life and get in touch with them when you need one direction or the other about how to navigate about your goal. Take them as your mentors and be free to discuss your pressing issue with regards to your goals. Most mentors are happy to offer advice and guidance when they are contacted.

Successful people have gone through it all, failures and successes-so they are better placed to offer you the advice you need. Seek information from the right source and you would be 50% a head than someone who want to be a loner in the market place of knowledge and wisdom.

  • RELATINSHIP WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE WILL MOTIVATE YOU TO READ BOOKS, LISTEN TO AUDIOS AND ATTEND SEMINARS

You can’t meet all the gurus in your chosen field but you can read their books, listen to their recorded CDs or attend their seminars if it is possible for you to do so. I have few people I admire and shortlisted as my mentors. I read a lot of their books. Just to mention but a few: Brain Tracy, T. Harv, Bob Proctor, etc.

In fact, these self-made millionaires are inspiration not only to me but millions of people across the globe through their books, webinars, seminars and couching.   

Getting around the right people go beyond meeting them face to face but through their books you can get all the inspirations you need to have a head start in life.

This year try and build on these 3 relationship with the right people and your life would change for the better

Enjoy your Sunday

Scout Linsky,

5 REASONS NOT COMMUNICATING MORE IS LIKE HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX TO AVOID PREGNANCY

Having unprotected sex without being pregnant

Communicating more and more in your relationship is not a choice but crucial to the health of the relationship. It’s not like “I don’t feel like talking to my partner because he or she gets on my nerve”. Communication in relationship is so fundamental to who you are- both as individual and as partners and it shows where your relationship is heading to.

Why do we need to communicate more and more in our relationship this time round if it is not part of your life as partners? A lot more has been written about this subject because of its relevance to our day to day running of affairs in our relationship. Don’t take the issue of communication for granted in your relationship.

So, why do we need to take the issue of communication a lot more serious in our daily relationship? Join me discuss the issue a bit more into detail.

  1. REDUCES UNNECESARY TENSION AMONG RELATIONSHIP PARTNERS.

How do you feel when your partner leaves the house without saying a word to you? What about when he or she comes home without a word? What’s your reaction towards your partner? Even though a lot more happen in relationship, where two or more people are involved, partners inability to deal with hurtful feelings, further build tension, because nobody is talking to anybody. Since you can’t read the construction of the face and know what your partner is thinking, the best remedy is to quickly deal with any issues you are not happy with in your relationship with your partner.

Anytime you close the channel of communication between you, you create all manner of problem for you and your partner. A man came home to see the lawful wife having sex with another man in their hall. The man didn’t utter a word but turn on the TV and watch his favorite news channel. At 11pm on the said day, he went to the bedroom without a word to the wife and slept.

When he woke up the following morning to get himself ready to take his bath, the wife killed herself-because the husband “killed her” with his silence. So, never hold each other to ransom for your inability to communicate with each other.

  • REDUCES SECOND QUESSING OF YOUR PARTNER

You can show your disapproval through the way you react to your partner, but the worst part is when you refuse to explain the reasoning behind your action. When we are not communication properly, our partners would be forced to second guess our motives.

Their guesses may stem out from what we do and the behavior we put up before them. Second guessing is like playing lotto, with your chances of getting it right reduce 0.5%. Most guessing we are told turn out to be wrong. The opinion we formed about our partners when we are not communicating with your partners are normally based on emotional response rather than fact. Because, there’s no communication.  If you see your partner giving a lift to a female co-worker or a lady who is stranded on the way, you may conclude that he has started a new affair with another lady besides you.

Likewise, your husband would think the same way if he sees you with another man, giving you a lift on your way to or from your way back home. To kill this mischief which normally affect people in their relationship, communicate any issue bothering you in the relationship with your partner and not to second guess him or her on face value.

  • REDUCES CONFLICT IN THE RELATIONSHIP

Since you don’t talk to your partner and your partner likewise doesn’t talk to you, any little issue could lead to a bigger problem in the relationship. If my wife comes home late than usual, I may be reading in my mind that other things associated with her inability to come home early may probably due to she having a date with another man or spending her time elsewhere.

But when there’s open communication between you, most issues that are hidden from you in your relationship would be made known to each other. Make yourself available for your partner to share what’s bothering or worry him/ her in the relationship

  • REDUCES CONFLICT IN THE RELATIONSHIP

Most conflicts arises as a result of mistrust, unresolved issues, taking one party for granted, disloyalty, lack of trust, taking advantage of others etc. 

Since, we can’t avoid conflicts in our relationship because of the fact that we are different, raised up differently by different parents, come from different background, have different exposure and education, conflict should be a normal occurrences in our life so far as we live first as individual and second as partners.

I still stand on the point that conflict is unavoidable and we should expect it to strengthen us in our relationship. What we need to be doing is that we should develop a communication mechanism in our relationship to deal quickly with any issues that both parties must pay attention to.

We should do everything possible to open the communication channel wide so as to address issues as to when it occurs.

  • IT SAVES THE LIFE OF YOUR PARTNER

What would you do when you close the medium of communication on your partner and something happens? Would you attend to your partner or leave him or her to their fate.

An issue happens when the couples are not talking to each other and one had a heart attack early in the morning but the partner ignored the sign and came to meet the lifeless body of the husband. Partners shouldn’t treat communication in their relationship for granted, if they do, they would leave to regret their actions.

Life is too sweet to bear personal grudges with your partner in your relationship. Spend your time rather to enhance your relationship instead of destroying it through your negative behavior.

So soon we’ve talked about 5 reasons why partners in any relationship must communicate more and more. It’s in your own interest not to close the gap of communications between you and your partner, the effects of partners not communicating to each other are too huge to risk. Communication in your relationship is a personal duty you must hold fast to as long as you live with your partner.

Stay blessed!

Scout Linsky

4 JUSTIFICATIONS YOU MUST POLICE YOUR SPOUSE LIKE A US-MEXICO BOARDER GUARD

Why do we go into relationship with another person in the first place? Is it necessary to do so by the way? Has someone forces to go into relationship? May be staying single could work for you and make you happy than seeking happiness from another person.

Back to why people go into relationship. A number of reasons were given as basis for people entering into marriage or casual relationship. To some going into a relationship means:

  • Finding a suitable partner
  • Finding a romantic as well as a sex partner
  • Finding a supporting partner
  • Finding a caring partner
  • Finding a partner who can listen and understands you
  • Finding ideal man who can be a father of my children
  • Finding ideal woman who can be a mother to my children
  • Finding a wife or a husband as a life partner
  • Finding someone I can share my fears and worries with

So, why do we need to guard our relationship?

  1. DEMONSTRATE YOU CARE FOR YOUR PARTNER

Everyone who loves his or her pet would do everything possible to protect it from danger and harm. So why do we complain when our partners are a bit inquisitive about what we do and where we go at any point in time. Are you not more important than your pet that you love so much.

Protection in a relationship is crucial to for the survival of the relationship. Don’t take the care and love exhibited by your partner to mean-insecurity. People who care so much about their partners in a relationship wouldn’t like to see anything bad happen to them. These type of people would always be at their partner’s back to ensure all is well with them. Some may interpret it as over protection in their relationship.

If your partner doesn’t show any form of jealousy, with regards to the opposite sex, you should question the love he or she claimed they have for you. Even animals protect their loved ones how much more-human.

The Almighty God says he is a jealous God and won’t share his glory with any one. Don’t allow your wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend to share you with anyone else. Accept it when your partner guard you in the relationship.

  • DON’T ALLOW ANYBODY TO TRESPASS YOUR PARTNER

In these days of uncertainties with regard to unfaithfulness in our relationships, you need a partner who can save as a “police man” who will make it impossible to jump over to the other side. If it had not been the vigilant watch of some partners, their spouses would have engaged in other sexual misconducts. Why, because they are tempted to follow their emotions rather than their reasoning. To some of you, the mere thought of your partner-scare you off from engaging in an affair or anything of that sort.

So invariably, you are protecting each other from unlawful conduct and behaviors. The end result is that your relationship becomes more solid and strengthen.

  • PROTECTION TAME YOUR PARTNER

Have you ever come across a partner (man or woman) who is wild like a lion in terms of how they behave toward their partners and in their relationship? May be yes, may be no.

I have seen a lady who is a police officer but finds it difficult to close her thighs. Even though she is married to a civilian man, she opens her thighs to any man who made advance towards her. According to her, sharing herself with other men apart from the husband is normal and good. She’s beautiful but wild in heart.

It took patience, love and care on the part of the lovely husband to help her stop this odd behavior as a result of her past emotional hurt-being disappointed by a lover who later went for her best friend. She wants to prove that she is beautiful and any man may want her in bed. She has this psychological deficit in her to show that all is fine with her.

Anytime she’s not on duty the husband doesn’t allow her to go anywhere alone. If it becomes necessary, the husband has to drive her around. Yes, sometimes, protection from your partner is good for your own sake. The said woman has been treated by psychologists.

  • PROTECTION FROM YOUR PARTNER MAY SAVE YOU FROM EARLY DEATH

As a matter of fact, some men find it difficult to close their zips. Every woman they see is a target to be tried like a lotto game. If they succeed they would enter the “unholy gate” to show how manly they are.

Do you know the jealousy of some women protect their husband and save them from contracting HIV AIDS and having sexual affairs with other people’s wives, which could lead to early death on the part of some men?

 In some part of the world, your life is cut short when you sleep with other people’s wives. Don’t look on to allow your husband to do what he likes. You should know that whatever affect your partner may equally affect you as well, so you must speak up now to protect him. You are in this relationship together.

Enjoy your mid-week

Scout Linsky

8 TRADITIONAL HOBBIES YOU CAN LEARN BUT FAIL TO TAKE THE FIRST STEP

Doing the same thing over and over for more than a decade can get you boring and frustrated. No one is conditioned by birth to stick to one career or occupation for life when there are so many things to learn and try. You can never tell how learning a new thing can transform your life and become and persona.

According to a friend, “Life without a hobby (and interest) is like food without salt”. It is a hobby which makes living interesting. It is a pursuit outside one’s regular work. A hobby or an interest in something gives one joy and pleasure; one does not get tired of it. It is a pastime, relaxation and leisure. In this way, while one is learning something, he is also making best use of his or her time.

Turning your passion into your next income generating source is something you can employ as you work full time or part-time in your current job. Find which of the following you can try as a part time hobby and wait to develop your hobby into full brown business.

1. CONSIDER GARDENING AS A HOBBY

Gardening is the practice of growing and cultivating plants as part of horticulture. In gardens, ornamental plants are often grown for their flowers, foliage, or overall appearance; useful plants, such as root vegetables, leaf vegetables, fruits, and herbs, are grown for consumption, for use as dyes, or for medicinal or cosmetic use. Gardening is considered by many people to be a relaxing activity.

Gardening ranges in scale from fruit orchards, to long boulevard plantings with one or more different types of shrubs, trees, and herbaceous plants, to residential yards including lawns and foundation plantings, to plants in large or small containers grown inside or outside. Gardening may be very specialized, with only one type of plant grown, or involve a large number of different plants in mixed plantings. It involves an active participation in the growing of plants, and tends to be labor-intensive, which differentiates it from farming or forestry. (Wikipedia)

Check what experts identified as the benefits of gardening

  • It’s basically free therapy.
  • Think about it — soaking up the vitamin D, getting out your anger by breaking up the soil, and resting in the peaceful presence of your plant babies. Is there anything better? It’s the perfect activity for people who need to lift their spirits or just want to create their own natural sanctuary.
  • While gardening’s not an intense activity, it does give you the opportunity to get out there and sweat a bit, not to mention all the fresh, nutritious vegetables you’ll have readily available!
  • It’s a great way to beautify your immediate surroundings.
  • The best kind of beauty is always natural beauty. I mean, have you SEEN plants? Nothing can match the charm of a flower, or the uplifting green of a thriving leaf. And, since gardening can be done anywhere, it’s perfect for drab, unused spaces that need sprucing up.
  • It’s a great way to save money.
  • For the same price of a couple of tomatoes, you can buy a packet of seeds and grow dozens of tomatoes per plant. It’s crazy how many fruits or veggies a single plant can produce. In fact, it’s the best return on investment I can think of.
  • It makes a difference for the environment (even more than you think).
  • Of course, the more plants we propagate, the more greenhouse gas we can eliminate from the atmosphere, but beyond that, the less we rely on out-of-state and foreign produce, the fewer fossil fuels we consume. It takes a staggering amount of energy — much of it unsustainable — to industrially sow, propagate, harvest, preserve, and transport fresh produce on the massive scale we do today. Compare that to the near-invisible carbon footprint of a backyard garden, and it’s clear that the world would be better off if more people relied on their own gardens for produce.
  • You’ll never get bored.
  • There’s always something new to do in a garden. Each season brings its own tasks and opportunities: Starting seeds in late winter and early spring, sowing in late spring and early summer, weeding, watering, and fertilizing in summer, harvesting in late summer and fall, and starting all over again by planning over the winter. You can even branch out into activities such as plant breeding or competition.
  • It’s surprisingly creative.
  • Sure, the care of plants is rooted in science, but there are endless ways to make it an art. Create a decorative fairy garden, or grow a canopy from sunflowers and morning glory. Play with an infinite combination of shapes and colors for stunning beds, beautiful bouquets, and culinary creations.

2. CONSIDER WRITING AND BLOGGING AS A HOBBY

Even though writing is a passion turns hobby to some many people like me, you can learn to develop the habit of writing. You can do so also by learning how to write down things that give you so much worry and engage your attention every day in your society, community, county, region, country or the world. What do you see in society that you think you can correct and make your voice heard no matter how small?

Write every idea that comes to mind down without trying to become overnight writer. You learn the rudiments of writing through practice. It would interest you to know that many successful writers and authors today didn’t take English as a course of discipline in the university. But through their passion to address issues they see needed attention, ended up becoming writers. So, you don’t need to worry so much about grammar, faulty sentences, lexis and structures, mechanical accuracy of what you write etcnpin. Luckily, there are software that can help you overcome this hurdle. Microsoft Word and other open source applications have embed dictionary that help you kick start your writing.

You can follow the step below if you want to start with blogging:

1. Choose something you’re passionate about

Whether you choose to write about a hobby you’ve had all your life or you want to start a blog that chronicles your experiences with something new, you should definitely choose a topic you care about.

Don’t worry about finding an audience right away or picking something a lot of people will be interested in. Sometimes a smaller, more passionate audience is better.

Just make sure your hobby blog is about something you can write a lot about. It’s even better if you end up being one of the only people writing about that topic or can offer a new perspective on it.

2. Create regular content

So many people start a blog and then lose all their momentum within a month or two. If you choose a topic you care about, the hope is that you’ll have a lot to say about it.

Creating regular, original content is really the best way to get noticed: the more you have out there, the better chance you have of people finding your site. Also, feel free to share other people’s content if it inspires you and is relevant to your blog. Just be sure to cite their work correctly.

3. Stay focused and encourage reader response

Maintaining a niche blog means you have to find your voice and stay focused on the topic you picked to write about. It’s so easy to get burnt out and discouraged after you’ve been blogging for a while. You can avoid feeling that way by getting your readers involved, trying new styles of writing, or setting your hand to creating some other type of content such as video or picture tutorials.

Finding an audience for your hobby blog

Once your blog is established and you’re into the swing of creating content and sharing your discoveries, it’s time to find your audience. Having active readers is a sure-fire way to keep yourself motivated, build your blog, and make it even better, as well as learn more about your hobby from others.

Social media is of course a great place to share your blog posts and start conversations with people who enjoy the same hobby. You can also find readers by being active on other hobby blogs and sites that are similar to yours. The best way to build an audience is to encourage dialogue, respond to comments, and just embrace the activity you love.

No matter what topic you choose, whether it’s knitting or hunting, you can find an online audience for it. So long as you choose something you’re passionate and knowledgeable about (there’s a reason they say you should write what you know), and you can offer a new perspective on your hobby, you can create an interesting and rewarding blog.

Sharing your hobby and your experiences is a great way to find other people with the same interests. From there, you can build a community, help and encourage one another, and get more out of your hobby.

3. CONSIDER PAINTING AS A HOBBY

What about painting? You can learn how to paint by visiting a professional painter to learn about architecture of paints and how to mix paint before applying to the various surfaces.

In the actual fact, a friend who became a professional painter by chance told me “he learn how to paint as a result of necessity”. He’s now one of the most sought after when it comes to painting. Don’t be discouraged you can also learn anything irrespective of your age. Don’t allow age to discourage you at all.

4. CONSIDER TYPING AS A HOBBY

Typing is all about the idea that each finger has its own area on the keyboard. Thanks to that fact you can type without looking at the keys. Practice regularly and your fingers will learn their location on the keyboard through muscle memo

If you want to start on a good note you can start with Mavis Beacon software, where the software would teach you the basic keys such as asdf;jkl; This time I type without looking at the key board because I know where the keys are situated on the keyboard. Follow the following sitting to start your private typing lesson

  • Sitting posture for typing
  • Sit straight and remember to keep your back straight.
  • Keep your elbows bent at the right angle.
  • Face the screen with your head slightly tilted forward.
  • Keep at least 45 – 70 cm of distance between your eyes and the screen.
  • Еxpose the shoulder, arm, and wrist muscles to the least possible strain. The wrists can touch the tabletop in front of the keyboard. Never shift your body weight to the wrists by resting on them.
  • Curve your fingers a little and put them on the ASDF and JKL; keys which are located in the middle row of the letter keys. This row is called HOME ROW because you always start from these keys and always return to them
  • F and J keys under your index fingers should have a raised line on them to aide in finding these keys without looking.

Hit keys only with the fingers for which they have been reserved.

  • Always return to the starting position of the fingers “ASDF – JKL;”.
  • When typing, imagine the location of the symbol on the keyboard.
  • Establish and maintain a rhythm while typing. Your keystrokes should come at equal intervals.
  • The SHIFT key is always pressed by the pinky finger opposite to the one hitting the other key.
  • Use the thumb of whichever hand is more convenient for you to press the Space bar.
  • This method may seem inconvenient at first, but do not stop, eventually you’ll find out that you are typing quickly, easily and conveniently.
  • Limit your hand and finger movement only to what is necessary to press a specific key. Keep your hands and fingers close to the base position. This improves typing speed and reduces stress on the hands.

Pay attention to ring fingers and little fingers, since they are considerably underdeveloped.

Don’t worry about the number of words per minute (WPM) .Do not rush when you just started learning? Speed up only when your fingers hit the right keys out of habit. Take your time when typing to avoid mistakes. The speed will pick up as you progress. Always scan the text, a word or two in advance.

Take a break if you feel that you get distracted easily and are making a lot of mistakes. It is more productive to come back when you feel refreshed.

5. CONSIDER COOKING AS A HOBBY

Learning to cook is one of the most enjoyable and easy to get into hobbies. A perfect cooking hobbyist is anybody who enjoys eating and likes to experiment with new and creative flavors. Getting started can be very fast and simple, and improving your cooking skills is a terrific investment of your time.

Learning to cook is one of the most enjoyable and easy to get into hobbies. A perfect cooking hobbyist is anybody who enjoys eating and likes to experiment with new and creative flavors. Getting started can be very fast and simple, and improving your cooking skills is a terrific investment of your time.

Cooking is an interesting hobby for many reasons. Getting to know the basics of cooking can be a great way to eat healthy. Cooking at home is more economical than eating out. Then there is the joy of cooking for your friends and family, trying new recipes and even coming up with your own. When you get a good foundation, and discover a passion for cooking, you could even consider a highly lucrative career as a chef or start your own business as a caterer.

When we talk about cooking as a hobby, we mean learning all about cooking, types of cooking involved, how to shop for the ingredients, the utensils and supplies you need and actually doing everything from scratch. Cooking is a very useful hobby and today, it has evolved to such an extent that there is plenty of scope for creativity.

Getting started with cooking is not difficult as almost every one of us has a kitchen at home. Do not worry if your kitchen is not equipped with high-tech expensive equipment. You can always add to your kitchen in stages, as you learn more about cooking. Let us look at how you can learn to cook and what resources are available.

Most people learn the rudiments of cooking from their mothers or cooks. Apart from this, there are lots of resources out there for the aspiring chef. You can learn from books, like many people. There are videos of recipes to try. Most cook books include appendices and a glossary that help you trace what you are looking for. Almost all cook books come with basic tips and techniques that you can learn from.

One of the best ways to enjoy cooking as a hobby is through trial and error. It also makes sense to learn basic skills and get used to handling the ingredients and knowing how to prepare your food. As you try more and more recipes, your confidence will grow, along with your skills. You could also opt to enroll for cooking classes in your neighborhood where they teach you the basic techniques and simple recipes. You can enhance this by joining online cooking forums and networks where a lot of interaction takes place, helping you gain valuable information.

6. CONSIDER PHOTOGRAPHY AS A HOBBY

Do you get attracted to nice and beautiful pictures? What about taking those pictures yourself about interesting and amazing things you come across in life? You don’t need formal education to be a photographer. A local photographer became an international star when he takes delight in taking pictures of all historical sites in his countryside and uploading them to Instagram and Pinterest.

7. CONSIDER DRESSMAKING AS A HOBBY

You can also learn how to design beautiful dresses and make people happy. If you are people person, people would continue to come to you for one thing or the other about their dresses.

8. CONSIDER BAKING AS A HOBBY

Try baking as hobby and you would love it. People love their fresh bread and want it from a reliable source. Who knows? You could be the one who supplies bread to the who community

8 hobbies to pick from or identify your interest with. There are so many hobbies you can develop. Don’t waste time trying to be perfect. There’s no better time than now. Start your hobby now and you would live to enjoy it.

Enjoy your Sunday and see you again on Tuesday

Scout Linsky

SIX WAYS WE PUT OTHERS DOWN TO EXPOSE OUR IGNORANCE

Many people don’t know by their actions and inactions, they are putting others down without knowing it. Anytime you think more highly of yourself than your friend, spouse, partner, colleagues etc. watch your attitude towards these people.

The following are ways people put others down.

  1. THEY BELITTLING OTHER PEOPLE’S INTELLIGENCE

People who are ready to make you feel inferior in terms of what you do and think are people you should avoid. Because such people never feel that you are worth you salt and will not take your contributions in a discussion for anything. These people always think they have a better way of going about things than you. They talk big about how their plans are working and associate everything to their singular effort. These type of people don’t acknowledge the contributions of others apart from themselves.

No wonder the bible says “by their fruits ye shall know them”

2. THEY ARE BOASTFUL

Do you ever demonstrate to others about your special talents, knowledge, skills and abilities, wealth and possessions as well as education before others? Sometimes we all do this thing without realizing it before others. I am guilty I must admit sometimes, even though not intentional. I was giving a talk as the lead speaker and veered off talking more about myself.

When I watched and listen to the recordings, I realized my actions speak of some elements of boasting. I felt bad. People who boastful exhibit the following behaviors and attitudes

  • They are loud to be heard
  • They emphasized their achievements
  • They always want to be seen
  • They talk more about themselves
  • They demonstrate how important they are
  • They seem to know everything than anyone else
  • They don’t listen to advice
  • They want everyone to know they are intelligent right from the onset
  • They talk too much
  • They full of criticism
  • They unappreciated
  • They are gossips

So, the next time you see a boastful person, you don’t need anyone to tell you

3. THEY GOSSIP ABOUT OTHERS

Anytime we talk about people behind their back, we ended up saying things that are untrue about them. The problem is that once we think we are better of that others, we are likely to say negative things about them in order to tell others how we are better alternative than them.

 I always say “if you run others down in order to get to the top, you don’t have what it takes to be a leader. Very often, we see people do gerrymandering about others in order to destroy them so that they can occupy their place. Such people don’t see anything potentially good in others except themselves.

There is nothing good about gossip. It’s a mediocre way of going about your own frustration in life. Instead of bringing someone down, try and lift them up. If you lack the skills they have, which made you jealous of some sort, upgrade yourself by going back to school or acquire new skills – to make you more relevant and indispensable.

4. THEY FEEL SUPERIOR THAN EVERYONE ELSE

Anytime you feel you are special that a fellow colleague or partner, be mindful what you say and do.

We all have our strengths and weaknesses and we must acknowledge that. Even though some people are in privileged position than others, we should not put down others to make us feel better.  Sometimes in life, the people we belittle in our way to the top, are the people who become successful when we are down.

You may one day need the person you consider inferior today in the equation of life, so, never look down upon anybody in life.

5. THEY FREQUENTLY CRITICIZE OTHERS

Do you always have appetite to criticize everything people do? If you always do, by finding out faults in what people do, so that you can go on criticizing them, you are going to make people feel bad and they may not like you.

You are different and so do I. You believe in different things and behave differently because we are not brought up the same way. Don’t set agenda to always criticize others. Even if you know more than them, find a better way of going about it without sounding offensive. People interpret what you do and say by your actions and in actions.

When you continue in this tangent, people will eventually shun your company.

6. THEY HATE APPRECIATION OF OTHERS

When we feel that other people are not capable of doing anything good, we find it difficult to recognize their good effort and appreciate them. We even feel bad to see others being appreciated.

There was a man in the bible named Haman who thought he’s better than any other person in the province and boast of the position the king has placed him. When the king invited him for a dinner and asked for his opinion about what kind of reward he should give to a man that the kind delight to award, he thought there’s nobody better than him. He proposed luxurious award to be given to that man including riding the king’s horse throughout the province.

Eventually the award was given to a layman named Mordechai.

Learn to appreciate the little things people do for you and they are likely to reciprocate.              

We’ve have identified 6 ways we put down people deliberately or indirectly without knowing. We should endeavor to avoid any attempt to make people feel bad.

Stay blessed and have a fruitful weekend

Scout Linsky

5 BOLD PERSONAL ASSESSMENT TEST YOU FAIL TO TAKE BUT NECESSARY

BE BOLD TO TAKE THIS LIFE TEST

Everybody who goes to school has one aim-to finish well and come out successfully. However, many, if not all fear to take exam to guarantee the success they have been dreaming about.

We all fear examination when we were in school but others are simply not ready to take any exam in life-for the sake of failure or being exposed to public ridicule. If these e people have their way, they could hire others to write the examinations for them. The hard truth in life is that, we all have to take the exam in one way or the other. If you are successful, congratulations but if you failed, you’ve learned something than those who didn’t make the effort at all.

Many people go through life without the boldness to take stock from time to time about their personal life and other dimensions of life. Why is this so? This is so because most people are not prepared to face the harsh reality which will stare at their faces.

Find below the 5 bold personal assessment test you must take regularly but failed to do so

1. PERSONAL SELF ASSESSMENT TEST

A rich wise man once said at a lecture “ a life without purpose is a misery” He added that a “purposeless life is a life without a destination” I know everybody has a beautiful dream he or she wants to achieve during their life time before  departing from mother earth.

However, the difficulty we have is that the majority of people lack the courage to do regular self-assessment about how to proceed or how to start.

What are you doing to get to where you want to reach? If you have started doing something. Do you set SMART goals to assess your level of progress and what you have to do different or modify to achieve your said objectives? For example I want two of my books publish as eBooks as well as hard copies by Amazon. I have given myself up to the end of March. I have started working on these books for some time now and I have achieved that result ahead of the March deadline I have set for myself. Check them out on Amazon at https://kdp.amazon.com/en_US/bookshelf?publishedId=J5M3NJ0S7G6

The two books are 80 Silent Triggers of a Woman and 98 Romantic Turn on Keys for Men. You may like to get a copy

For instance, you may want to read 10 topmost books millionaires read to get inspiration to drive you quicker towards your goal. Have you bought any of those books? If you do buy them, have you started reading them? You must discipline yourself to enable you achieve anything meaningful in life. It took me several sleepless night to finish my second book.  But I was motivated within to have these books published. These books were rejected during the initial submission because they didn’t meet certain specifications for publishing. This also took me some days to rework on those specs in order to have them publish.

Today, two of such books are being published and sold as eBooks and hard paper at Amazon. The hard copies are pre-financed by Amazon at 2.46$ per copy and this cost would be deducted after each sale. I don’t know what you have planned to achieve this year. Get the ground running. The first quarter is almost drawing to a close. Do personal assessment and take action now. I want to sell 100,000 of my books by the close of this year through marketing and advertisement. I want to motivate you to take action towards the realization of your dream.

2. REGULAR HEALTH ASSESSMENTN TEST

The WHO (World Health Organizations) has not stopped echoing one of their slogans “Health is wealth” There’s no debate about that.

Indeed we need to live in healthy bodies so that we can work to achieve all our numerous desires and aspirations in life. What are you doing now that can enable you live a healthy life to pursue the things that matter to you in life.

  Some successful people are living with health related problems that adversely affected the way they live their life. It’s sad to see people who have worked so hard to acquire wealth failed in their health.

Prior to the demise of my late mum, her doctor prescribed several drugs for her to take daily. At a point she was taking 36 doses of different drugs on daily basis. It got to a point when she said to us the children that she was prepared to die- enough is enough. She stopped taking those unnecessary drugs that didn’t give her any relief but destroy her system entirely. She died three months later. May her gentle soul rest in perfect peace.

If you really want to live and enjoy your wealth, then, do regular check up on your health. It will serve you from a lot of problems in the future.

  1. Don’t forget your regular exercise
  2. Drinking more water
  3. Eating more vegetables
  4. Eliminating stress and anger
  5. Getting more sleep
  6. Eliminating hard drugs and alcohol consumption
  7. Eliminating too much sweet in your diet etc.

3. ASSESS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR IMMEDIATE FAMILY

Your relationship with others may fail along the line, but try as much as you can to maintain a healthy relationship with your nuclear family members (spouse and children)

Some successful people had problems with their immediate families, largely due to their inability to devout time to this important aspect of their lives-just as they do with their businesses. Steve Jobs and many successful entrepreneurs failed in this respect.

If you don’t bring your spouse as well as your children along with you, it will get to appoint where it will be extremely difficult to do. Don’t only focus on your business pursuit at the detriment of your family. Your success in life will not be complete if you failed to maintain a healthy relationship with family.

Set aside a time to send with your family. Connect with your family as effective as your do with your business.

4. FINANCIAL ASSESSMENT

What’s your current financial status? How much money do have sitting in your account and how much do you hope to make within a given period in your life.

When it comes to money, almost everybody want more-because of what money can help us to achieve. An extra money could solve a number of issues in your life.

From time to time you ought to ask yourself some hard questions about your money matters. More money could solve a couple of problems in your life and you must desire it desperately to trigger your conscious mind to take action. The fact of the matter is that-even though there are many opportunities in the world today than it was in the time past, many people are not able to take advantage of them

You ought to take action every to better your financial life. Do a regular assessment of your financial situation. Seek the right financial and investment advice to know where to put your money to work for you. Learn the rudiments of entrepreneurship if that fits your life aspiration to run your own business one day.

5. EXTENDED FAMILY RELATIONSHIP TEST

Every human comes from a family. Whether your family takes care of you or not, you are part of a family. Your family becomes bigger by virtue of marriage to another person who also comes from a family.

Your relationship with your parent, in-laws, sister and brother’s in-laws as well as your siblings would go a long way to shape your family life.

You need all these people at one point or the other and you must do all to maintain a healthy relationship with them all. What is your current relationship with your parents as well as your external family members? Don’t isolate from your family. They should be part and parcel of your life. You need them one day, so, never joke with your relationship with them. Check frequently to find out how they are doing and intervene to offer assistance when the need arises

Stay Inspired!

Scout Linsky

7 THINGS YOU HAVE TAKEN FOR GRANTED IN YOUR LIFE AND RELATIONSHIP

7 THINGS YOU HAVE TAKEN FOR GRANTED IN YOUR LIFE AND RELATIONSHIP

1. Value Time

One problem of disagreement between me and my lovely wife is time management. She is not conscious of time. Time management is a big problem for most people especially some of our women folks. The day to leave for a program will be the day some women including my wife will be deciding what dress to wear.

Choosing a particular dress to wear can be confusing to most women. Don’t take time for granted in any aspect of your life. But know that time lost is never regained. Learn not to unnecessarily delay your partner when it is time to attend an important event. If you want to be successful, begin to respect time as a crucial commodity.

 Respect each other’s time. Don’t allow the food to get cold unnecessary before coming home or appearing at odd hours for an event. The catch here is respect each other’s time since no time is more valuable than the other.

2. Be Patient

Patience is a necessity to the growth of any lasting relationship. If you want to grow with your spouse, learn to be patient. Impatience has robbed many people in many relationship. Challenging times will come to test you and your partner; to gauge your level of patience you have for each other.

Reflect over and over on any issues before deciding what action to take. When you are patient with your partner, you will understand his or her side of the issues. Patience will never make you take the wrong decision about your partner.

Don’t judge issue on the face value and be quick to make pronouncement. Your ability to be patient is a hallmark of a good wife or husband. Good wives remain calm and wait for the right time to come.

 Abraham waited for a child and became the father of all nations. Zachariah and Elizabeth waited for a child. Had their son John not become the fore runner for Jesus Christ? No matter how the issue may appear, just be patient and wait for the right time to come. Nothing is permanent in life apart from change. Bad times will come in any relationship but remember just after any bad time, good times will follow because no condition is permanent

3. Be Organized

  Thank God you have found somebody to share your moment of joy and worry with. It is time to keep things organized properly in the home. The house is now under your management. Take care of the house and its surroundings.

 Be innovative and don’t allow things to go haywire without taking any responsibility.

Cleanliness they say is next to godliness. Continue to do what you used to do in the house to make it clean and lovely.

Do you know that you can create your own romantic environment in the house? Yes, you can do that and let the environment “speaks” (attract your partner) to you. You, the man should also assist your partner to take care of the house. Don’t look on when she is busy taking care of the house. Share part of the burden of getting things easily done in the house without one partner getting exhausted.

4. Avoid Gossip

Other people’s private issues or lives should not engaged your attention. You should use your time profitably devoid of petty gossip about your neighbor or your husband’s friend. You may latter regret saying unkind word or untrue thing about the person, because most issues that people gossip about are not based on facts.

A man was embarrassed when it turned out that the wife was the one who gossiped about the boss’s wife. The ‘woman’ and her partner all live in the same neighborhood and she went to do her hair in the same saloon the other woman also does her hair. When the issue got to the attention of the boss, it nearly resulted into the dismissal of the husband from the company.

It is not everybody you must have something to say about? If you do not have anything good to say, just keep quit. It will serve you a lot of trouble. Don’t embarrass your partner through your petty gossip.

5. Prayerlessness in the Marriage

I don’t know what you believe in but I can tell you that prayer does so many things in marriage. Why pray into the marriage? Because we are human. There are things we can’t control ourselves because of our limitation as human being. Pray into the marriage as often as possible if not every day.

Men women need women who can commit their relationship to the supreme God or the divine for the sustenance of the relationship. A prayerful partner is an anchor to the relationship. Most men are busy chasing one thing or the other forgetting their inner self has a need to connect to the Supreme Being on daily basis.

Unfortunately some women also forget to connect to their Maker on daily basis. Women out there pray your role like Esther, Abigail or Naomi as described in the Bible. These are women who interceded on behalf of their husbands and their countrymen and women. Stand in the gap for the family and pray for the family and your husband.

 I know we are living in the material world but prayers cannot be substituted for anything. There are certain things that happen beyond our control and these things can be taken care of by a higher power outside your control. Whether you believe it or not you can’t control everything so far as you remain on earth as a mere mortal.                 

6. Stop Insult in the Relationship

Be angry and sin not. That is one of the statements in the bible that constantly keep me in check as a bible believer. I know women are emotional beings and can get overboard sometimes.

But let your mouth be filled with words of comfort and exultation. Raining insults on him because you are angry does not show any sign of emotional maturity and does not solve the problem you are angry about.

 Sit your partner down and let him understand you are unhappy about certain things he did and may not even be aware-hurt you. Be different among the cohort of women and be an example to your daughters as well as your sons.

Remain calm and control your anger without insults. Don’t utter any word until you are calm enough to speak devoid of insults. As a woman take the insult of your spouse lightly and move on with him. See it as a way of releasing tension building up in him

7. Be Creative

I said relationship must be created on daily basis. Learn to do something romantic each day. Once in a while, particularly during weekends, prepare and serve his favorite meals in an entirely different way than he is used to.

Use new cups, plates, table clothes and mat. Add his favorite wine and flowers not forgetting that special music that can get both of you dancing off your feet.

If you do these things, it will make your man feel like a king. He will tell you some secrets he might not want you to be aware of. Your relationship is how you make it. If you want your relationship to flourish, do something to that effect.

Enjoy your day

Scout Linsky

5 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW WHEN YOU BECOME A PARENT

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW YOU WILL KNOW

5 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW WHEN YOU BECOME A PARENT

It’s good to have a desire to want to have children and settle with your spouse in a happy family life. However, everything is wrong when we failed to take note of these hard questions that would stare at your face once you settle in family life.

Your ability to ask yourself these 5 questions would go a long way to make you a better and a happy family.

1. ARE YOU READY FOR THE TASK A HEAD OF YOU AS A PARENT?

To a very large degree, once you want to become a parent, bear in mind that you have to put on the ‘sacrificial belt’. Now that you become a mum or a dad, you must know that you must always think of the wellbeing of the family first before considering yourself.

Are you really prepared to sacrifice everything for the family and go the extra mile to make things happen in the family? If you do, bravo, go ahead. You have my full backing.

Your family must come first in everything you do, henceforth. Your preoccupation is to ensure that the family is kept safe and nourished. No more personal decision without the input of your spouse. Gone are the days when you could take decision on your own and sometimes make very personal decisions, but now, No. You must look at the bigger picture this time round and factor in your family. Ask yourself this question: how would my plan affect the wellbeing of my immediate family. Is it good going ahead with the decision or suspend it altogether.

2. DO YOU STILL KEEP A SECRET LIFE?

Do you know to a large extent you have no secret to keep as a family person without making it known to your spouse? If you still issues to yourself without divulging it to your partner, then you must revise your note and put a stop to it.

You must also be aware that you can’t guarantee what may happen tomorrow, so the earlier you open up to your partner in the relationship with your partner the better for you.

Your very house is no longer for you alone but for all members of the household. Your wife and children are members of the household. You should endeavor to create space for interaction between all members of the household. Don’t withhold anything secret from your spouse. Your spouse should be the first to know whatever move you are making.

It is a big mistake to see married men or women who still want private life irrespective of their current marital status. This selfish attitude of married couples trying to maintain secret life from their spouses, has been one of the many causes of divorce, if the secret life comes out eventually.  Please take note of the fact that you are no longer single and you must do things together if you want to succeed in your marriage.

3. ARE YOU PREPARED TO SEE THINGS SCATTER AND DISORGANIZED EVERYDAY?

  I hear people who want their home to be neat and very clean and at the same time want to have children. Don’t deceive yourself. Once children start coming in, you must get prepared to see pieces of papers, crayons, pencils and cutleries scattered all over the place.

Your kids will be picking and scattering things all over the place in their formative years as they interact with their immediate environment, the home. Be prepared to keep on arranging things in the home as often as possible at this stage of your children’s growth.

 See this stage as a stage when your children are learning from the environment. If you are the type who want to see things arranged properly and organized, you may be overwhelmed about their behaviors, but don’t be worried too much about this stage. Just relax and see it as a passing stage to adolescent life.

4. DO YOU WORRIED ABOUT YOUR SHAPE AS A WOMAN?

The hard truth is that about 90% of women who give birth never return to their original slim sexy shape again. Most women will lost their shape to child bearing. The hormonal changes that occur after a woman has given birth is attributed to so many factors including breastfeeding, antenatal and post natal drugs due to surgery, sedentary life of most breastfeeding women. Whatever the case may be, certain aspect of you will definitely change.

Mr. Husband, your wife will not be the same woman she was before marrying her. She will undergo changes as you welcome children into the home. Be ready to support her in this changing times. Some women become emotionally disturbed when they realized that they have lost their beautiful body shape. Accept the changes she will be going through and help her with exercises for them to adjust.

According to babycenter (www.babycenter.com) the adrenal gland that secrets hormones for the body often become fatigue after month of sleep deprivation and producing milk for the body.

Jennifer Ritchie, (www.thebump.com) IBCLC and author of I Make Milk…What’s Your Superpower? Advice breastfeeding women to take these simples steps to lose weight:

1. Don’t pressure yourself

2. Make savvy substitution

3. Set yourself up for success

4. Eat smaller, more frequent meals

5. Cut calories-but not too much

. Work in exercise and

 7. Keep at it

If you are not yet ready to accept this reality check, then think again about your decision to become a parent.

5. ARE YOU READY TO FACE CHALLENGING TIMES?

Every marriage is unique and goes through specific challenges. Your marriage cannot be different. You should accept the challenges as they come and deal with them as couple. Marriage is a long journey and not a football game with a time frame of 90 minutes. You must develop a thick skin and subdue self to the background.

Running to your mum or dad should be the last thing to do. So many factors are claimed to be responsible for the high divorce rate across the globe. I have also identified these ten (10) reasons as contributing to divorce in our marriages.

They are:

1. Breakdown of trust due to infidelity

2. Disrespect for each other

3. Too much of ‘I know my rights’ in the marriage

4. Pride and arrogance

5. Unwillingness to submit to each other

6. Inadequate money for maintenance

7. External influence from friends, in laws and the social media

8. Lack of headship in the home.

9. Un-appreciation on the part of both spouses

10. Criticism, where the man or the woman is not satisfied with anything.

These 10 are my research findings after 15 years of studying divorces filed in the court and my personal interactions with couples who have separated or divorced.

Guide your marriage if you are a born again believer of Jesus Christ through prayer. Don’t join the list of divorcees.

If you can get 4 out of 5 the five questions above then you can become a responsible parent or you are a responsible parent, congratulations.

 Share your experience with me and give me what is missing on the list. Send me an e-mail to info@parentrens.com

Stay blessed

Scout Linsky

9 COMMON SENSE APPROACH WOMEN SHOULD ADOPT TO BUILD A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

BUILDING A HEALTHY FAMILY LIFE IS NOT ROCKET SCIENCE

Most of the issues we faced in our day-today interactions with our partners are things we can handle with our partners provided we’re ready to adopt a little common sense in our dealings with our partners.

These issues are not new to us but our failure to come to the stack reality that they matter to the people we are dealing with dent us from enjoying healthy and long lasting relationship.

Find below the 8 common sense approach to building a healthy relationship with men

COMMON SENSE 1-Failure to Keep Encouraging Him

We all have ups and downs at certain periods in our journey to success. It can be a very difficult road to travel. Discouragement can set in, leading to frustration and disappointments in an attempt to achieve life success. This period in anybody’s life especially men can be very challenging and frustrating.

Most men can give up easily if they don’t have the self-discipline to continue forging ahead. This is the moment men need their partner to come on board to encourage their partners to continue all the good things they have started. Your encouragement will serve as a morale booster for them.

Men need this encourage as much as men encourage women to press on. Even if they failed by not taking your advice, don’t discourage them in their new adventure. No one knows which of their exploits will succeed one day. Successful people are not without mistakes, but they are they are able to overcome their mistakes until they reach at nothing but success.

Your Words are powerful, use them wisely. God formed the earth by his spoken words. Learn to choose your words carefully. Encourage him with positive words as much as possible. Know that you will be part of his success equation. You have the power to build a healthy relationship if you choose to do so

COMMON SENSE APPROACH 2-Failure to Be Humble

I am not saying be humble so that your partner would look mean upon you. No madam! But, The Bible says wives should submit to their own husbands and husbands should love their wives. What do you make out of date. Relationship is not fighting for equality but living in peace with your partner.

You can’t respect your friends and colleagues at work and come home to do the opposite. Many career women are submissive to their managers at work but disrespect their own husband at home. No matter the economic status of your husband, humble yourself to him. Showing humility does not make you a fool, it is admonition from the bible.

No sensible man in his right sense will disrespect any woman who demonstrates humility before him. Don’t follow the so called women’s right and do otherwise. You can get whatever you want from a man by being humble. Pride they say, goes before a fall. Run from pride and exhibit humility towards him at all times and build a healthy relationship with him.

COMMON SENSE APPROACH 3-Failure to Make Him Comfortable

Do not create problems at home. Some women have made the home uncomfortable for their husbands to an extent that the men don’t feel like coming home after work. Their attitudes at home makes the men take solace elsewhere than their own homes. If you belong to these groups of women I encourage you change your behavior towards your own husband.

Have you created a lovely atmosphere in the home for him to miss home anytime he is out of the house? Something about you might be chasing him out of the house. May be true and maybe not.

But whatever the case may be. Reexamine your attitudes toward him again. Create something unique that will make your husband want to come home after he closes from work. Don’t allow other things to be his second partner after work.

COMMON SENSE APPROACH 4-Failure to Make Him Happy

Evidences have shown that most men die from stress related diseases than women. The two reports I have read connect men’s stress related ailments to risky adventure of men, unfulfilled dreams, bad businesses, unstable relationships and family pressures to some extent.

In conclusion, the reports recommended to men to take vacation at least once in the year. What this mean is that you have to ensure the right home atmosphere for him.

I hope you do not want your husband to die and leave you and your children behind. That is the reason why you need to make him happy. Sex relaxes the muscles of men and makes them sleep well. Do not deny him sex if he requested for it. Create the enabling condition in the home to make him happy at all times and he would likewise do same to you.

COMMON SENSE APPROACH 5-Failure to Show Affection to Him

You must always thought of your husband everyday with affection as he does for you. Remember how much you were in love with him during your courtship time. It is important to bring back some of the things that made you want to see each other every day.

Learn to write a poem and deposit it into his pocket or wallet. Hug and kiss him as much as possible. Let him feel the fondness in every aspect of your life. Men also want affection just like women.

Don’t hide your affection towards him. Demonstrate it and let him know about it. It will not make him slip out of your hand into other women. Because he gets all the satisfaction a man may desire from a woman at home.

COMMON SENSE APPROACH 6-Failure To Look Sexy And Romantic

All the genders are visually sensitive but men more sexually active when visually attractive women cross their way. Men easily give up when what they see is attractive to their eyes. I think the creator made it so to enable men locate men chase after what they want. When it comes to dressing do not compromise at all.

 Make your dressing appeal to him as if you are still in the dating mood. Whether you like it or not you will not be the most attractive woman in the area you live. There are girls and women who are beautiful and dress elegantly well than you.

Every man turns to look at a beautiful woman once or twice when he sees one. Some women once married stop dressing romantically and stop being sexy. They think it does not matter anymore. It does matter to us as men. If you leave yourself anyhow before him all the time, women that he sees everyday can easily attract him.

Do you know office romance is still real and happening every now and then? Let him know that you match any type of woman he sees every day. Try as much as possible to appear neat, attractive and sexy.

COMMON SENSE APROACH 7-Failure to Associate With Women Achievers

As I indicated earlier a praying wife is a jewel to the husband. Your prayer life can go a long way to save the man from unforeseen difficulties and problems. The friends you choose can influence you positively or negatively. Make friends with other women you share the same faith with. Join them to pray for the family especially your husband. Jesus who is omnipotent pray at all times.

He urged us to pray without ceasing. Your prayer can save your husband from falling ‘flat’ for anything in skirt who calls herself a woman. We are human and full of weaknesses. Prayer defends what we cannot defend ourselves. Your prayer would go a long way to save your husband from various temptations.

COMMON SENSE APPROACH 8-Failure to Show that you Care

We all want to receive care and affection from someone. It tells us what somebody thinks of us. Our Savior and Master Jesus Christ commanded us to owe nobody anything except love.

The small things you do for him can tell him your level of care and affection you have for him. Even though men are supposed to demonstrate and show more care to women, never fail to also exhibit to him that you care.

 When he is not well how do you respond to him? How do you treat him before other people? Do you make him feel special and valued? It’s something you must do every day. In fact, it appears as if some women take their husbands for granted in the relationship as the years go on. Do what is right and best even if he fails to appreciate them. Look up to God and He would strengthen you to overcome all difficulties.

COMMON SENSE APPROACH 9-Failure to Manage His Money Well

Money is the blood line and sweat of everybody. That is why people do all manner of things to acquire and possess money. The men who possess cash command their environment and the people around them. Your husband works very hard for his money. Do not joke with his money. Handle the money he gives you with all seriousness.

 Some women are not diligent when it comes to handling money. They assumed after all the money belongs to their husband and can be used by them anyhow. Money made some lovely relationship to end because a partner didn’t handle money properly.

Let be honest when it comes to money. If for any reason you think otherwise why the money cannot be used for what he suggested, tell him. Do not use the money on a different thing before telling him what you used his money for. It makes ‘men mad’. Try to avoid this temptation and live in harmony with your partner

COMMON SENSE APPROACH 10-Failure to Help Him Deal with His Problem

We all have a problem at one time or the other. You are not just anybody but a partner to support his ambitions and goals in life. You are to add direct or indirect value to his life aspirations. Don’t just assume the role of a wife and sit there and watch things unfold.

Some women are not assertive enough to offer any real value to their partners. They relegate their creative powers to the background. Your husband could be a professor but he does not know all things. He may need help at times.

Your vigilant eye could detect a loop hole in a business venture he wants to undertake. Pressure at work may sometimes blindfold men not to see through things carefully with a ‘second eye’. That is where you come in handy with your views, suggestions and advice. Make yourself relevant to him and let him value your timely opinions.

Building a happy and healthy relationship is not rocket science but common sense in approaching issues that come up in our relationship. Revise the 9 points again to build a lasting relationship.

Stay blessed!

Scout Linsky

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