5 DATING MISTAKES TO AVOID
DON’T GET TOO MUCH INTIMATE WITH YOUR PARTNER
Remember, I said in my earlier post, ’5 reasons why we need to date’, that , dating is just a way to discover each other and learn a bit about your likes and dislikes. And that dating enables you to know whether there a common interest to build on. This is not the time to become sexually and financially committed in the relationship. When, this happens, any break up could result into emotional and psychological effect. Why, this is so. It is because; the couples are already playing the role as marriage couples and begin to commit heavily to each other. Women are usually in the losing end in this equation. Most often, they feel used and rejected. This can result in depression and its related health problem. My advice is that don’t get too much intimate with him or her, so that you don’t blind yourself from seeing the weaknesses of your prospective wife or husband.
DATING IS NOT THE TIME TO INTRODUCE YOUR PARTNER TO YOUR SIGNIFICANT FRIENDS
Tread cautiously at this stage because, this stage is volatile and doesn’t need any introduction to your friends. Anything could happen. When things didn’t well, you don’t have any explanation to give anybody. Your personal integrity will be at stake when people see you with different people at different time, as people you are dating. Don’t hurt people’s emotions by going out with multiply people, just for the fun of it. Young guys are found of having fun with different ladies without the intention of making any future commitment. Hey, ladies, watch out before going out with all your soul, body, spirit and money.
DON’T MAKE A FINANCIAL PLAN TOGETHER AT THIS STAGE
Making a financial plat at this stage could be recipe for disappointment. I know you are very optimistic of your relationship, but, evidence showed that only a handful of people who dated ended up in marriage. Don’t make a financial plan together when you are not legally married yet. Where can you send your case, if your partner decided to walk out of the relationship? A cousin of mine had a broken heart after the university because, she was sure that was the perfect to marry her. However, things didn’t work out for her. She was so attached to the relationship, she nearly went mad. It took several months of psychiatric counseling to restore her. She has moved on to do her second degree and now married three kids. Don’t allow your partner to influence you to make any substantial financial commitment at this stage. Share your views on our platform
- DO NOT CO-HABITUATE AT THIS STAGE
In fact, it is not healthy to cohabit at this stage. Most women are victims of this practice. The fact of the matter is that, when people are living together, they assumed they are married and behaved like married partners. Any separation at this stage could break one emotional and psychologically especially the females. Since, you are not yet married, as much as possible, live separately. Don’t allow the guy or the lady to take advantage of you. Know that, you are special and deserve the best in life.
IT IS NOT TIME TO INTRODUCE YOUR PARTNER TO CLOSE FAMILY MEMBERS ESPECIALLY YOUR DAD OR MUM
In dating, any of you can go your separate ways within the shortest possible time. Any introduction at this stage, will force you to remain committed to your date, even when things begin to turn upside down. How would you feel if you are seen with another woman or man, three months after your introduction? Wait and grow your relationship to advance into courtship, where there is a greater assurance of you both making commitment to stay together. I would talk about courtship in my next post. It will be extremely helpful to join the discussion. I want to hear your view. Write to me through my e-mail email@example.com or share your view on our comment box
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