Create the future you want for your child
All over the world, it’s the expectation of every parent to see the child grows up and become a successful person in the future. When we are successful in doing this we tap ourselves at the back and glimpse with smiles. However, this thing comes with some sacrifices in order to make the future of your kids great.
What are these things parents who care for the future of their kids should be doing?
- They create an enabling environment in the home
Creating a learning environment for the child’s academic future, provides a fertile ground for the child’s total development.
Children at their formative years need an environment that can help them to play, learn and interact with the natural environment. Parents should ensure there are play things such as toys, colouring books, children’s games, picture books, colourful story books, animation etc. for the child to play and learn on his or her own.
In this type of environment, shouting, screaming and insults do not exist. Because of the sensitive nature of the child at this age, every possible thing should be done to promote the total wellbeing of the child.
- They complement the teaching learning experience of the child at home.
Providing a supplemental learning activities of the child engages the attention of this type of parents. When children are provided with similar teaching learning materials they use at school in the home, it motivates them to learn and understand.
This puts them in a better position to apply theoretical concept to real life situation. Find out what learning materials your child’s teacher use at school and try to provide similar learning materials for your child at home.
- They provide emotional, psychological and physical growth of their child
Parents from this type of home know how sensitive and fragile children in their formative years are and take steps to protect them. Your child needs your emotional, psychological and physical support to keep him or her emotionally stable and healthy to undertake meaningful learning.
You need to pay close attention to the child to determine what must engage your immediate attention. Your closeness to the child and quick response in addressing issues that confront him or her will guarantee the total health of the child.
- They assist the child to identify his or her hidden potential early in their formative years.
As I indicated earlier, you need to support the child in this crucial time to enable them know their hidden potential and talents.
Don’t assume the school alone should play this role. The school will give a general knowledge to the children in school and assist them to realize what they can do by themselves.
But as a parent, you are in a better position to assist your child to know what he or she is capable of doing. After all, the child spends about 8 hours at school and spend the rest of the time with you at home. What do you do with the child when he or she comes home? Check and find out what your child takes delight in and help him or her to develop it.
- They instill good moral upbringing into their children
Parents in this home do not sweep under the carpet wrong behaviours of their children.
They are prompt to ensure that the child picks the right behavior irrespective of the love they have for the child.
Don’t be lukewarm to correct the wrong doings of your child but be proactive in addressing the wrong attitudes and behaviours that do not fit societal acceptable behaviours.
The ancient holy book, the bible says ‘train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6 NKJV). As parent, you have a huge responsibility to train up your children in a changing world, where we are told to leave the issue of molarity for the child to determine. I will say a big No. Your child is given to you to train.
Don’t allow the ‘corrupt’ society we find ourselves train up your child for you. If you instill the right values and behaviours into your child, he will grow up and congratulates you when he or she becomes adult into adulthood
- They make their children their best friends
Parents in this type of home creates friendly atmosphere around their homes for their children to be their best friend. This is where it is important for parents to break any barrier that will hinder their children from confiding in them. Why do you allow your child’s friend to be his or her confidant?
If we allow our children to approach us easily, they will tell us their fears, worries and ambitions for the future. When we succeed in doing that, we can be in a better position to give good advice without being judgmental about their decisions.
We need to give your young children listening ears and attention. Your child is exposed to so many things than what you were exposed to in the 70s and 80s and 90s. We should rise up to the challenge and confront it holistically.
My motivation to start a blog about parenting stems from the fact that I have been confronted with various challenges in helping my four kids adopt appropriate behaviours. I am of the strong view that as a teacher, counsellor and a father of four young kids, I can be helpful to other likeminded parents who are also raising children like you.
Have a blissful week