The dream of every man is to discover the soft spot of a woman (what women truly want) in a loving relationship) so that they can play it safe and smooth with them, but unfortunately, most men are still naive and not ready to learn about these wants of women in a relationship. We arrogantly pride ourselves as men but know next to nothing about women.
When God told Adam, the first gentleman who ever lived once upon a time not to eat the forbidden fruit created in the Garden of Eden so far as the creation story is concerned, he didn’t ask any question but just obey the instruction but when Eve came into the garden, it was not long for her to taste the forbidden fruit and damned the consequences. The scripture says by eating the fruit they became wise. An old wise man once said the initial “W” of a woman signifies wisdom.
As a matter of fact when it comes to relationship whether married or unmarried women are intelligent and smarter than men. Yes they are. Believe it or leave. Let me prove it to you. What on earth would cause a 60 year old man to sign a total of $500,000 from his account to an 18 year old lady for a period of 3 years? Don’t tell me it may be due to magic or something connected to spiritual forces. The girl is just smart to take advantage of unintelligent rich man who can’t close his zip whenever he sees young beautiful ladies.
Let look at the 20 WANTS you must discover about women
1. STOP SHOUTING AT HER, SHE’S NOT YOUR DAUGHTER
Shame on you if you still have the bravado to shout on your wife because you are offended in one way or the other. Learn to subject your emotions under control if you call yourself a man and want to live happily with a woman who exhibit so much intelligence right from the creation of the world.
Live with tact and diplomacy with your partner if you want to be happy because women are people you can’t just manipulate and walk over them easily. Discover this truth about women and the truth shall set you free.
2. STOP SPEAKING EVIL OF HER TO ANOTHER WOMAN
Do you think by washing your dirty linen in the public the problem will be solved? Don’t deceived yourself. You are joined together with your wife so, don’t go your way to say negative things about her to another woman. This is a demonstration of weakness. If you think there are better women than her, why bother her by engaging in a relationship with her. Talking ill about you wife amount to gossip and when she finds out someday, your relationship with her will be severed. Avoid this relationship pitfall.
3. STOP SHARING HER LOVE AND AFFECTION WITH ANOTHER WOMAN
Tell me, what is it about other woman that your wife or partner didn’t have? As a matter of fact we are witnessing unprecedented report of infidelity in the history of the world than any century. Even though sociologists assigned various reasons for this negative behavior among the genders especially men, they are of the view that emotional sexual disconnection accounted for a significant reason.
Whatever the reason you may have, try and deal with the problem with your partner. There’s no justification to share her love or affection with another women. If you treat her like your princess, she will in turn treat you like her prince.
In the Bible (Malachi 2:14 the scripture made an important observation “You asked why he no longer accepts them. It’s because he knows you have broken your promise to the wife you married when you were young. She was your partner, and you have broken your promise to her, although you promised before God that you would be faithful to her. Reflect on this powerful words.
4. STOP COMPARING HER WITH ANOTHER WOMAN
One of the biggest mistakes men make with women is to compare their partners with other women. How do I know my wife and other women told me so? When I was naïve in marriage I do compare my wife with other women anytime she does something wrong. Don’t forget I was childish in marriage then with little or no experience. I know no peace during that infantile journey in our marriage.
Please stop comparing her with that next door neighbor, “the grass is always green at the other side” That woman you are comparing her with has her shortcomings. Hold your breath! Treat her nicely and you can get the best out of her.
5. STOP BEING ROUGH WITH HER WITHOUT ACCOMMODATING HER MISTAKES
She has done so much for you by sacrificing her time and resources. Stop reacting with everything she’s done wrong. She might not intend to hurt you or grieve you but remember “the servant who washes the mug every day, would one day breaks the mug” so is your wife who interacts with you every day. She’s bound to offend you. If there’s offense, admit it, forgive and move on but don’t treat her like any other person.
6. STOP HIDING THINGS FROM YOUR WIFE
Recognize that you are one and she’s your help mate for Christ sake. Stop working hard to hide things from her when she should be the first to know everything you possess and every information about you. The mystery of life is that no one can predict what tomorrow holds. Today may be yours but you can’t guarantee what tomorrow may bring.
Since you can’t tell whether you will be alive tomorrow or the next day, be humble to make everything plain or known to your wife or partner.
7. STOP MAKING NEGATIVE COMMENTS ABOUT HER BODY
Your wife has increase in shape by putting on additional weight due to various reasons. But it should not be the basis for making negative comments about her to discourage her. Every woman wants to be in her best shape and look attractive for the husband or partner. You are to continually hold her in her esteem irrespective of the changes taking place in her physical body.
Women are so sensitive to their weight issues and the least they expect from you is to “muddy the waters” by making negative remarks about her shape.
8. STOP MAKING HER BODY DETERMINE HER WORTH
A man insults the wife as good for nothing after the wife has put on additional 40k due to her 2nd child birth. Some men who could stand the change in shape of their partners chase after other women. Your partner has so much to contribute in the relationship than her look.
Don’t judge her shape to determine her value, she is more worth than gold. Value her gift of intelligence and contributions she makes daily to assist you than her mere aesthetic look, which profit nothing. Remember one day this physical body would be food for the ants.
9. STOP SHOUTING AT HER IN PUBLIC
Some men take the issue a step further by displaying this negative behavior to the public by shouting at their wives in the full glare of the public. Shouting at your wife whether indoor or outside the home is disgraceful and should be avoided at all cost. Treat her with the utmost respect she deserves and she will honor you for the rest of her life on earth.
10. STOP USING MONEY TO CONTROL HER
I am not ignorant about the power of money and what money can do in a relationship. But using money to control your partner is an evil practice and a trap you should avoid.
Don’t allow money to influence you on how you treat your wife. If you value her you will treat her respectfully.
11. STOP EXPOSING HER WEAKNESSES
Do you know that when you expose the weaknesses of your wife or partner you are indirectly telling the world about your own weaknesses? Why, because you can’t separate yourself from your wife or partner. Deal with your partner tactfully and with wisdom.
The single most painful thing in a relationship is lack of appreciation. We’re human and we want people we work with to appreciate our hard work, contributions and good effort. So it is in any relationship. If you fail to appreciate and thank her for the sacrifices she makes daily in a relationship, you can’t get her to response to you as a man. Think about these-appreciation and thank you.
13. DON’T FAIL TO RECOGNIZE HER COOKING
Do you know that all women can’t cook the same way? That’s the reason why you must recognize her cooking as unique. It takes time and effort to cook a great meal and you must recognize that effort. All her intention is to prepare a fantastic meal for you, appreciate it.
14. DON’T PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR SIBLINGS MORE THAN HER
I know a man who will postpone buying something nice for the partner but buy same to the kid sister of 25 years because she doesn’t want to see her unhappy but prefers the wife to sacrifice. Is good to help your baby sister but your wife request should be meant first before giving consideration to any other person unless in the case of emergency.
Prioritize the issue of your wife above any other person in your life.
15. DON’T FORGET TO INVEST IN HER SPIRITUAL GROWTH
Assist your wife or partner to grow spiritually by encouraging her to draw closer to her maker. Take her to church if you are a church person or any place where you worship your God. You are in her life to assist her to live a godly life.
16. DON’T FORGET TO PLAY WITH HER AND ENJOY HER COMPANY
How sad to see a wife engrossed in checking messages on her phone while the husband is also doing something different without any form of fun activity for the couple to communicate about. The mobile phone is now your wife friend instead of you. Everything seems to be ‘questions and answers’ in the home.
Your wife should be your friend- enjoy her company. There’s a bible verse that says let the breast of your wife satisfies you. Did you hear that? Instead of chasing after other women, create time to enjoy her.
17. DON’T FORGET TO READ THE BIBLE WITH HER
Many people are no longer excited to read the truth in the bible but may prefer to listen to what the world is saying more than what the bible says. Assist your wife to read the bible and explain certain things she didn’t understand in the bible. That means you should read the bible daily yourself.
A woman who understands the bible is a woman who will remain loyal and faithful to you. Don’t leave the bible from you relationship. Read and meditate upon it day and night and your relationship shall be fruitful and stable.
18. DON’T FORGET TO HONOUR HER PARENTS AND BE KIND TO THE SIBLINGS
One of the things we are to acknowledge is to honor our parents and extend same to our in-laws including our sisters and brothers in-laws. These people are essential part of her life and you must acknowledge them.
Don’t isolate her from the parent as well as her siblings. Find time to make regular visit to them.
19. DON’T FORGET TO STOP TELLING HER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER
Continue to tell her how much you love her. When it comes to this four letter words, women will not stop to hear it again and again, so don’t forget to demonstrate your love to her by telling her about your love and affection each day.
20. DON’T FORGET TO STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT EVERYTHING SHE DOES
My wife used to complain about everything I do until the sister told her to stop the practice if she want a peaceful marriage.
I know some men who are never satisfy with all the efforts and hard work the women are making in the relationships. If you want to be happy in your marriage and live a peaceful life then listen more to your wife than complain.
We’ve have been able to discuss 20 truths men must discover about women if they want to live happily with their partners or wives.
Enjoy your weekend by taking her out to have fun because we are in the month of love