7 REASONS TO ALLOW KIDS PERSONAL PRIVACY

Personal Privacy Brings Creativity in Kids

What is privacy and why does it matter so much for kids?

Privacy is a state in which one is not observed or disturbed by other people.

The Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act of 1998 is a United States federal law, located at 15 U.S.C. §§6501–6506. The act, effective April 21, 2000, applies to the online collection of personal information by persons or entities under U.S. jurisdiction about children under 13 years of age.

So, privacy is a big issue for the child and matters so much for the parent.

However, you and I can agree at a point that time has changed and parent must adjust to be relevant to their children in order to influence them positively.

Privacy for kids is becoming a concern for parents as well as their children. There are two schools of thought.One thought believes that kids should be given some amount of privacy for various reasons we shall be discussing below. The other school of thought holds the view that kids should not be given privacy at early state until they become adults. Those who hold this view that privacy for kids will make them irresponsible  and would lead to their early “destruction” have genuine reasons to say so.

So, is there any justification to give our kids personal privacy at all? Social watchers (those studying the social media and its influence on children) opposed kid’s privacy autonomy based on the current trends in the social media but, the advantages for kid’s personal privacy far outweighs its limitations.

Below are the 7 justification for giving your kids some amount of personal privacy and space

1. REDUCES CONFLICT BETWEEN KIDS AND THEIR PARENTS

1. I have spoken to a number of kids about what one thing when given the opportunity they can boldly ask their parents. It didn’t take time for a good number of young kids to indicate that they need privacy and because of its denial they usually have conflict in the home because of ´” lack of personal privacy.

Most parents are fixated (obsessive attachment) on the notion that their kids are too young to be given the privacy they are calling for. I share your feelings and concerns for your children. But come to think of it. When you were young do you desire to be left alone sometimes? I am sure you do. Was the intention to be given space evil at the time?Sit with your kids and discuss the issue of privacy with them and draw the line they shouldn’t cross.

 Kids are not the same globally and don’t get exposed to the same threat, so the way forward is to talk to your kids and let them know everything about their privacy and safety. Tell them your concerns and fears but don’t take it too far because it will lead to conflict between you and your kids.

2. OPPORTUNITY TO DISCOVER WHO THEY ARE

Children should be given the opportunity to discover who they truly are. We’ve been setting the agenda for our kids as to what we think fit them and what does not. That’s one way the adult population in most of the world is failing the new generation of kids.

We have to change the narrative to allow our kids to sit down to rediscover who they are and what they are capable of doing. When kids know what they can do naturally they quickly improve upon their natural skills and talents without going through the “try and error gamble” as pertained during our days as adults.

Do you want your child to discover what he or she is capable of doing? Then give them the opportunity for them to discover themselves. Don’t be too worried when they want to be left alone sometimes. Monitor them behind without unnecessary disturbances and interference as  most parents do.

3. OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN NEW THINGS

You’ve no idea what your kids want to practice on their own unsupervised or monitored. Yes, they wish we (adults) should leave them alone at a point in time for them to examine how certain gadget are constructed and made to function. They want to know how current applications are being developed and the code behind the workings of a lot of the devices you use in the home.

Kids don’t want to be mere consumers of information, they want to be part of the process

One day my first son Edwin, took my laptop battery and forcefully removed the dry cell within it. That was the first time I got to know that there are small dry cells that are built inside the laptop battery. Curiosity of a child made me learn about something I didn’t know about.

Currently there is a Nigerian boy that developed a robot for packaging items using serial code. That’s what kids can do when left on their own sometimes. That’s why I indicated earlier that you need to talk with them to express your fears and get their assurance to calm your fears they are not up to anything funny or mischief.

Your kids meant no evil, so don’t think evil about their privacy.

4. OPPORTUNITY TO DO THINGS THEY LOVE TO DO

Kids love to do some of the silly things we adults would call foolish. That’s the world of kids. Allow them to play around with their friends in the neighborhood. During this stage they learn to dance, sing and act when you are not present.

Don’t limit the kids to the house alone. Most parents are still not sure how their kids would behave when they leave their presence. In view of that there’s always anxiety in the minds of parents and this makes it difficult to give their children the opportunity to go out. Don’t block opportunity for your kids to go out and learn with their friend. It shouldn’t be a nightmare.

My daughter Christie learns how to dance a particular dance which kids love to watch in their school. She learns this from a friend within the neighborhood. She’s now teaching other colleagues of hers in the school. 

Don’t allow your fears to prevent you from allowing your kids to do the kind of things they love to do. When you continue to impose this restriction on your kids, she or he would grow up and become timid and self-centered because of their inability to interact with other friends when growing up. Kids build their self-confidence when they are in the company of their peers. Your duty as a parent is to guide them.

5. TO AVOID UNNECESSARY INTERFERENCE AND INTERRUPTION

Some parents are just “something else”. They can’t allow their kids to be independent and do anything on their own without interference and interruption.  I can’t believe the “possessiveness” mentality of some parents with regards to their kids.

If you want your child to develop independent mentality in the future and be self-assertive then stop treating your child like a baby. You are not helping him or her by your unnecessary interference and disturbances.

When would you learn that you wouldn’t stay a life with your kids forever no matter how much you care and love them? Don’t disappoint your child by the way you treat him or her. Let him or her do certain basic things in life. It’s a fact that the world is being driven by technology. But, that should not mean that you should do everything for them. Let me remind you of this common Chinese proverb “You give a poor man a fish and you feed him for a day. You teach him to fish and you give him an occupation that will feed him for a lifetime.” So teach the child to be independent minded and not depended minded.

So, wonderful parents out there,it’s time to allow your kids some space to do things on their own. Let them make their own mistakes so that they can learn from the mistakes. You should be aware that mistakes are spring ball to success. Yes, they are. Go ask all successful people and they would tell you the number of mistakes they made before attaining their ultimate goal or success.

6. PEACE OF MIND

It’s not only adults that deserve peace of mind. You kids also want peace of mind. Sometimes we cloud their minds (kids) with happenings in the adult world (the hardship in the economy,problem with your spouse, challenges at work, disputes with your best friends or neighbors etc.)

All the above are important and real issues facing the adult world but don’t forget your kids are not the contributory factors and can’t be brought in with your whining and complaining on daily basis. If your complaining would resolve the issues, the problem could have been resolved long ago before giving birth to them.

Don’t forget the kids have their“own world”. People call this world of the kids the “possibility world” because kids believe that everything is possible in their ‘mind world’. They actually believe that they can do everything they can imagine. Ask your 6 years old kid what she wants to do when she grows up and things she wants to do would be flying here and there without any limitations.

Create a peaceful atmosphere in the home for them to reflect and fantasize in their own thoughts. Minimize anything that world affect the peace of your child. In fact, there are things kids think about that can blow your mind. I would post an article about things that kids love about the world. You would be amazed about the beautiful things they think about in the world. They are not bothered by the bread and butter issue of everyday life so they have the free mind to think broadly. So let your kids think freely and broadly.

7. OPORTUNITY TO BE CREATIVE

What’s creativity? You probably asked! Creativity is the act of turning new and imaginative ideas into reality.Creativity is characterized by the ability to perceive the world in new ways,to find hidden patterns, to make connections between seemingly unrelated phenomena, and to generate solutions.

So don’t make your child a robot by thinking for her or him. They are full of hidden ideas that they want to explore. Create the environment for the child to facilitate his or her ability to imagine and explore things around him or her and the world at large.

Restriction limit children, so don’t limit your kids by too much DON’T. A twelve (12) year old girl from Ghana learns how to play the radio jokey as (DJ) had the opportunity to open the UN general assembly through her music as a DJ.

DJ Switch, 12 with the French President at UN Assembly

Even though the leaders were initially skeptical about what she can do, she thrilled the assembly with her supernatural talent.

When asked how she learned about radio at such a tender age and the confidence to play before the world leaders,her answer was “my parent gave me the opportunity” Do you hear that! Please, give them the opportunity. It doesn’t matter where they find themselves on the planet.

We’ve discussed 7 reasons why our kids should be given personal privacy so that they can discover and learn about themselves. I know we all love our kids but the 7 reasons are enough justification to give your child some amount of space. You will never know what he or she is capable of doing, so don’t restrict them but create the environment for them to unearth their potentials.

Enjoy your Friday and look out for my Saturday Special Edition on 25 things kids love in the world. You can’t afford to miss this one.

Stay blessed.

Emmanuel

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