10 REASONS FOR NO JUSTIFICATIONS OF MEN’S INFIDELITY IN MARRIAGE

Everybody who goes into the institution called marriage might have undergo pre-marital counselling. This counselling is to enable you deal with the storms when we are faced with challenges and difficulties in the marriage including remaining faithful.


Marriage is a unique and sanctified institution designed and ordained by the creator for the reasons of procreation, companionship, love,and sex. For that matter God revere the institution and want us to do same.

MAN, BE CONTENT WITH YOUR WIFE

So why do we have so much reported cases of infidelity in our marriages today?  Do we blame ourselves for lack of self-control or attractive sexual temptations we are exposed to on daily basis? You can’t be wrong when you are tempted because you are human and your ability to overcome temptation makes you strong and a faithful husband.

We are all at risk of sexual temptations including your wife but we should overcome it and be able to counsel others to do same.

Below are the 10 No justifications for men’s infidelity in marriage

1. YOU HAVE THE WILL POWER TO OVERCOME SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS

God has given you a strong will power to overcome any type of temptation in any form. Even though we have one mind, there are again divided into conscious (objective) and unconscious mind (subject) mind. What we feed into the conscious mind is quickly relay to the unconscious mind to act upon. Our unconscious mind does not argue but to obey any information given it by the conscious mind.

When you are focused on the attractive features of the woman or lady tempting you, your subconscious mind would make it possible for you to have the lady you always think about and dream about.

Instead of focusing on the image of the lady, focus on your wife and discard the image of the lady tempting you entirely from you mind.Remember, when there’s a will, there’s a way out also

# No justification for affair

2. DON’T BE TOO INTIMATE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX

I know as a man some of us (men) can be very close and intimate with the opposite sex than our partners. We laugh with them, joke with them, hug them, exchange email with them and call them more than our wives. Yes, if you want to be called “Mr. Gentleman” do same to your wife. Don’t leave your wife behind and pretend to be so caring and nice to other ladies just because you want to get them to bed. I am not saying don’t be nice to other ladies but prioritize your wife over them.

Your approach to other ladies may appear harmless but as time goes on you may seem to like them more than your spouse and before you knew it you are into an affair you would later regret.
# No justification for affair

3. STOP ANY PRIVATE CONVERSATION WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX

Do you know some men can’t leave their mobile or cell phone freely in the company of their wives without raising alarm? I know a man who was dating another woman at the blind side of his wife. He carries the cell phone everywhere including toilet and washroom.

At one time because he was carrying more than one cell phones, when he received a call from the “strange woman”, he was so confused and before he could put himself together, the phone fell into the WC because the wife was having a bath in the opposite room.

If you have nothing to hide, make everything plain to your spouse and don’t keep any secret from her including your private phone

# No justification for affair

4. LET EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR WIFE ATTRACT YOU

Women are different in them of physical features. Nature designed them so that men can appreciate them. The fact of the matter is that God has given us the power to choose whoever you want to marry as a wife. The tall, slim, big, average, big butt, small, average size and large breasts are all available to you from.

But once you decided to choose one woman out of the lot, it means there’s something about her that might be attracted to you. True!Concentrate on those features that first got you crazy about her and be attracted to her again. There’s a scripture verse in Malachi that says “let the breast of your wife satisfies you” Do you hear that!
# No justification for affair

5. KNOW THAT ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME

As a real man and a father of four kids, I can say emphatically that even though women are different in terms of physical appearance, the end result during sexual intercourse is the same for all men across the globe(ejaculation). It doesn’t matter the kind of woman you have affair with, you will eventual ejaculate

Most men are deceived by the physical beauty of women they see around or come across. This I must admit is a major weakness of all men.

The funny thing is that someone one (man) is also desiring the woman you are taken for granted and go chasing other women. You’ve no idea how other men envy you and wish to have a woman like your wife.

# No justification for affair

6. STOP ALL APPEARANCES OF OFFICE ROMANCE

Your female colleagues are nice to you and seem to relate with you better than your wife. If this is the case, watch the relationship with your spouse and deal with anything hindering your wife not to relate with you well. Find out from her and check what might be keeping her away from you.

Don’t take advantage of your work to engage in office romance which eventually lead to adultery. It’s happening in most institution. A married man (a banker) confesses having affair with another married woman also a banker because they both spend long hours in the office and use the extra time to engage in affairs unknown to their partners.

The partners of the bankers involved in the sexual affairs assumed their spouses close late and don’t think anything negative about them (their partners).

Call your wife very often while at work to send a signal to  your female colleagues that you care and love your wife. This will prevent   those who have any ulterior motive of having something to do with you to drawback.

# No justification for affair

7. RESPECT YOUR SPOUSE

If you love your wife you must respect her as well. Any affair behind her is an affront to her as a woman and as your spouse. Do you remember the verse in the bible that says “do unto others what you want others also do to you “How will you feel if it’s the other way round”? Probably the world would come to an end. I know some women are equally engaging in affair but not your wife because your wife is not just any woman.

Your wife may not be aware of your affair but if your respect her very much you would keep yourself from engaging in any extra marital affair

8. RESPECT THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE

Whether you believe it or not the marriage institution is ordained by the almighty God when he created the first gentleman on earth and the first lady day on the planet.

The scripture clearly indicates that the marriage bed should not be defiled. That tells you how important God value marriage and want it to be kept holy.

I want you to know that both God and man were eye witness to your marriage so don’t joke with your marriage.

# No justification for affair

9. DON’T SETTLE PERSONAL SCORES WITH AFFAIR

I know some men who decided to engage in affair because they have issue with their spouse. Is that a good thing to do?  I don’t know how you view an affair outside your marriage home. Sex is a spiritual and physical thing so be careful who you have affair with. It’s not every woman you must make a covenant with. Proverbs warns men not be entice by the adulterous woman. Their motives are to destroy your family. Sex apart from your lawful wife is a sin and not funny as the world would have you believe.

Instead of affair, face the issue you have with your wife and settle it between you. If you are unsuccessful, seek the intervention of a marriage counsellor.

The effect of infidelity or adultery is irreparable and you must do everything to avoid it

# No justification for affair

10. BE MINDFUL OF THE CONSEQUENCES OF AN AFFAIR

Most marriages are destroyed because of 5-10 minutes pleasures.When your secret affair is discovered trust is forever broken, leading to divorce in some cases.

Would you stay with an adulterous wife who professes to love you? So is an adulterous husband, which woman would be happy to stay with him.

Don’t allow a few minutes pleasure to destroy the relationship you have built over the years with your spouse. If you have kids, how would they regard you? Would they say you are a faithful and responsible father? What about your personal integrity before your family and friends? What about the church if you attend one?

The havoc cause by affair is too numerous to mention. Avoid all things that could lead you to engage in an affair. # No justification for an affair in marriage.

We have been able to discussed 10 reasons why men should say no to infidelity in their marriage relationship because they have no justification to so. So, I urge all men to run away from anything that would lead them to commit extra marital affair in their marriage.

Look out for my next post on Wednesday. Have a blessed week

Shalom!

Emmanuel

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2 thoughts on “10 REASONS FOR NO JUSTIFICATIONS OF MEN’S INFIDELITY IN MARRIAGE

  1. your post reads like a lecture. Don’t know how long you’ve been married but if you haven’t noticed that for a relationship to be a success, both sides nerd to work at it.

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  2. Sure both sides must work on it but the trend is showing more men than females are engaging in infidelity.
    Thanks for your comment. I appreciate it so much. I am married for 15 years now.
    Thanks for your view

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