The cornerstone and building block for any great society and for that matter any nation is the family. This foundation starts with the women through childbirth. Childbirth comes with so many challenges and women go through different stages and processes in order to give birth to children.

Below are the 12 things pregnant changes women want their husbands to appreciate.


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What is it about pregnancy that makes women to need attention? Pregnancy also called gestation is the time during which one or more offspring develops inside a woman.

During this period in a woman’s life a lot of changes are rapidly occurring inside her, making her to behave in a way that may seem weird to the husband. The Woman at this stage need attention from the husband to enable her cope with the changes especially first time expectant mothers.

Your wife need your support badly at this stage. Don’t ignore her at this critical moment when it appears to her as if her world is coming to an end soon.


At this stage of your wife, you shouldn’t be told what to do. I have written a post about 6 reasons why modern men must do house chores. Please them on the site.

Domestic chores are a whole business on its own and men must get involved in order to lessen the burden on the women especially during the time of pregnancy.

Your wife is carrying a whole lot of things inside her. It appears to some pregnant women as if they are carrying the world on their head. Assist them to do the washing, mobbing and cooking if she can’t stand the smell that will be emanating from the aroma during the cooking. Some women completely avoid cooking because of their reaction to most spices in the market and others may lose appetite for food and for that matter eating.

Prepare her favourite food and encourage her to eat. Pamper your pregnant wife like a baby to eat no matter how little because she and the unborn baby need it for proper formation of the baby and the health of the mother.


As the baby develops so many changes may be taking place both inside and outside the body.  The physical changes can be protruding stomach, visible stretch marks, rashes on the body and face in the case of some women.

Within that 9 months, the physical body of your wife will be going through marginal transformation and you ought to appreciate her new look without dispersing her. After all she’s carrying your baby.

It will interest you to know that some men hate to see their pregnant wives in this situation. The interesting thing is that Mother Nature is so wonderful to women. These changes are quickly restored after the delivery.

The protruding belly seem to be the only challenge most women who give birth go through in restoring back their shapes. Most protruding belly after giving birth never comes back to its original shape. Their once flat bellies due to the baby they carry for nine months may become big belly.

Immediately after giving birth, most women lose around 10 pounds of their pregnancy weight according to Mayo Clinic.com. After delivery most women still look about six month pregnant. However the belly can eventually shrink or you can also take measure to speed the process of reducing the swelling in the stomach after pregnancy.

Livingstrong.com has four steps that can help speed up the process. You can visit them at https://www.livestrong.com for more information


Indeed women go through so many mood swing. This changes affect the way they feel and react in the home. Some pregnant women can be moody, quite, uncomfortable sitting at one place and others may choose not to talk to anybody.

Leave her alone if she chooses to be left alone. You have no idea what she’s going through and don’t add “insult to injury”. Accommodate the feelings; knowing that it’s a temporal stage that will end after delivery.

When my wife Lizzy was carrying our second child, she doesn’t eat anything apart from Coca-Cola drink and gave birth to Christy.  Our second child looks dark even though the rest all fair including the mum. Doctors associated our daughter’s dark skin to the heavy Coca Cola intake for the 9months. This is what happens when women are pregnant and they are going through so many changes.


Pregnant women experience sudden and dramatic increases in estrogen and progesterone. They also experience changes in the amount and function of a number of other hormones. These changes don’t just affect mood. They can also: Create the “glow” of pregnancy significantly which aid in the development of the fetus and alter the physical impact of exercise and physical activity on the body.

Estrogen and progesterone changes

Estrogen and progesterone are the chief pregnancy hormones. A woman will produce more estrogen during one pregnancy than throughout her entire life when not pregnant. The increase in estrogen during pregnancy enables the uterus and placenta to: improve vascularization (the formation of blood vessels) transfer nutrients to support the developing baby

In addition, estrogen is thought to play an important role in helping the fetus develop and mature.

Estrogen levels increase steadily during pregnancy and reach their peak in the third trimester. The rapid increase in estrogen levels during the first trimester may cause some of the nausea associated with pregnancy. During the second trimester, it plays a major role in the milk duct development that enlarges the breasts.

Progesterone levels also are extraordinarily high during pregnancy. The changes in progesterone cause a laxity or loosening of ligaments and joints throughout the body. In addition, high levels of progesterone cause internal structures to increase in size, such as the ureters. The ureters connect the kidneys with the maternal bladder. Progesterone is also important for transforming the uterus from the size of a small pear — in its non-pregnant state — to a uterus that can accommodate a full-term baby.

Pregnancy hormones and exercise injuries

While these hormones are absolutely critical for a successful pregnancy, they also can make exercise more difficult. Because the ligaments are looser, pregnant women may be at greater risk for sprains and strains of the ankle or knee. However, no studies have documented an increased rate in injury during pregnancy.

A pregnant woman’s entire posture changes. Her breasts are larger. Her abdomen transforms from flat or concave to very convex, increasing the curvature of her back. The combined effect shifts the center of gravity forward and may lead to changes in her sense of balance. (courtesy https://www.livingstrong.com)

 (https://www.healthline.com)  Read more about hormonal changes your wife go through from these two websites for more information.

Weight gain in pregnant women increases the workload on the body from any physical activity. This additional weight and gravity slow down the circulation of blood and bodily fluids, particularly in the lower limbs. As a result, pregnant women retain fluids and experience swelling of the face and limbs. This water weight adds another limitation on exercise. Learn about natural treatments for swollen hands.

Many women begin to notice slight swelling during the second trimester. It often continues into the third trimester. This increase in fluid retention is responsible for a significant amount of weight gain women experience during pregnancy. Tips for easing swelling include: rest avoid long periods of standing avoid caffeine and sodium increase dietary potassium

Weight gain is usually the primary reason that the body can’t tolerate pre-pregnancy levels of exercise. This even applies to the seasoned, elite, or professional athlete. Round ligament strain, increased size of the uterus, and pelvic instability from laxity of the ligaments may lead to increased discomfort during exercise.


In fact whether you like it or not your wife will undergo emotional stress at this time. Mood changes during pregnancy can be caused by physical stresses your wife is going through, fatigue, changes in the body metabolism or by the hormones estrogen and progesterone.

Don’t get upset with her when she shows one or two signs of emotional changes. Try and adjust to live with her. The physical stresses such as fatigue alone may be weighing her down heavily for her to be cheerful.

This changes also occur between 6 to 10 weeks and normally occur again in the 3rd trimester as the body prepares for birth. You need to be aware about the changes and adjust accordingly so as to live with her in harmony.



I know men go through a lot of anxiety when it’s time for the baby to be born. Your presence at the hospital alone will be reassuring to her.

I always go to the hospital the witness the delivery of all my four kids. I must admit it can be scaring when your wife has been sent to the theater for delivery.

Get everything she would needs for the new child a heard of time. Go with her to the baby shops and buy her all the things you might not be aware she needs.

Don’t be too anxious about what will be the outcome of your child’s delivery. Trust the good Lord that everything will be alright during the time for delivery the child.

After the delivery, assist your wife when it is time for her to be discharge from the hospital and prepares the house beautifully to receive the new born in to the home. Assist her to take care of the baby and don’t leave everything for her to do.


This period can bring a lot of anxiety for those who are receiving new babies in to their homes for the first time.

Recognize that the baby will take space and attention in the home and from you the man. Most women would like to devout time and attention to their new born so as to bond properly with them.

Create some space for the child and the mother during this period. Know that your wife may deny you attention and focus on your child. This attitude irritate men who have close bond with their spouse before the coming of the baby and can slow the romance in the relationship for some time.

Many men including the writer have been able to adjust during this period until their children begin to walk and the relationship restored back to normal. Recognize the fact that the baby may cry when he or she feels uncomfortable, defecate, fall sick often, becomes hot, etc. Be a good partner to help her navigate around it.


Due to the changes that might take place in her, some women after giving birth might lose touch     dressing beautifully and sexy again.

Help her to dress fashionably again by buying her clothes and dresses that will make her feel young and attractive for you. Nobody can dress your wife better than you.

Most men whined and complained about “unattractive look” of their wives after they have given birth. Stop the complaint and help her to look the way you expect her to look.

Take her to the clothing stores and her favourite boutique and jewelry shop. Buy her new shoes and clothing accessories that will bring her back to fit into the new fashion world.


This is a very interesting stage and the pregnant woman may develop appetite for all kinds of food.

Since you can’t guess the next food she will be craving to eat, buy her as many different food stuff as possible so that she can choose at will what food to eat.

In certain cultures, (even though it’s not a cultural thing), across the world, some women in those cultures eat anything including charcoal and clay just to satisfy their insatiable appetite. It can be absurd to see pregnant women leaving nutritious food to eat clay and charcoal.

As a good partner, you ought to empathize with her emotional changes taking place within her with love and tender care. Don’t see her situation as something she’s is doing intentionally to disturb you. If you understand her condition fully, you would support her completely at this time.


Some women’s sexual drive will rise when they are pregnant due to the release of more estrogen and progesterone in the body.

Other women may avoid sex altogether due to the same hormonal changes. Study your partner and observe if there’s any shift in her sexual desire. Don’t run away from sex with her because she is pregnant. I know a man who always run to chase another woman anytime the wife became pregnant. She plainly told the wife he can’t have sex with a pregnant woman.

According to medical doctors, sexual intercourse during pregnancy is good for the woman, as it opens her up for safe delivery. Unless her doctors indicated that she should not indulge in sex, have sex with her according to her preference.  If she doesn’t want too much of it, don’t force her. As at the time of writing this post, I interviewed a few pregnant women at a local clinic about their preference for sexual intercourse at this stage of their pregnancies, some indicated once in a week, twice in the month and the rest said once in the month. Your wife would be the best person to tell you what she likes.


Some pregnant women can sleep and sleep plenty times in the day. Don’t be worry when she’s sleeping plenty at this time because she can’t help it. Don’t disturb her when she is sleeping no matter the number of times and hours you’ve seen her sleeping. Don’t brand her as lazy as some men do.

Sleep is good for her health and the condition of the baby. She needs this frequent rest to enable the baby forms properly. Some men get worried when their spouses happen to be sleeping too much. As a matter of fact, there’s no course for alarm.

Now that you have updated your knowledge about what pregnant women go through during the time of conception, through to the various trimesters of the pregnant woman to the time of delivery, you’re in a better position to be a good partner to support your pregnant wife to give birth to a bouncing baby.

Until then,


Emmanuel Toklo

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