4 DEADLY MISTAKES PARENTS SHOULD NOT ENTERTAIN WHEN RAISING KIDS

Your child is given to you by your creator to train and mould so as to adopt an acceptable social behaviour that would make him or her fit into society. Failing to correct these negative behaviours of your kid would go a long way to affect the future prospect of the child. Below is the 4 deadly mistakes most parent make when raising their kids.

 

  1. FAILING TO CORRECT BULLYING BEHAVIOUR OF YOUR KID

Do you know your child’s behaviour is best corrected at early stage between ages 3-6 years when the child is growing up? Kids pick all kinds of behaviours when growing up and this stage is the right time to start correcting bad and deviant behaviour of your child. My 3rd child, Nat started this bullying behaviour at age 4 towards the younger sister, Judith.  He kicks and hits the sister with no tangible reason. It took the intervention of my wife and I to counsel and encourage him to put away this negative behaviour if he wants to be great in the future.

We did that correction in love while motivating him and assuring him that he has the will to do the right thing.  Yes he did. So you kid can also put up the right behaviour. Nathaniel is now calm. Nathaniel is now kind to the sister and other children in the neighbourhood. Don’t leave discipline to the school because of the love you have for your kid but assist him or her to pick up the right behaviour from the onset. When you succeed in doing this, your child would be proud of you as a parent when he or she grows up.

  1. 2. FAILING TO CORRECT RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL BEHAVIOUR

There is a common saying that “behaviour once formed is difficult to correct or change” Our kids imitate all types of negative behaviours from friends in the school including insult and disrespectfulness towards others.

You should be apt to correct your kid if he or she demonstrates rude behaviours towards his or her siblings including other visitors or friends. The first   impression your visitor will get is how your kids behave when they first enter your home. Don’t look on when he or she persistently display such negative behaviours. If you didn’t take quick action to correct him or her, you would be encouraging your kid to continue with the negative behaviour. And the end result is that you would be disgraced or embarrassed when your child grows up with this deviant behaviour and join the bigger society.

  1. 3. FAILING TO CORRECT THIEVERY BEHAVIOUR OF YOUR KID

Theft is a common negative behaviour among kids but this behaviour should not be swept under the carpet but rather must be addressed promptly before it matures with them.

My first son, Edwin is the type who always wants to take money to buy toy guns without informing us the parent. I discussed the negative behaviour with my wife but she didn’t take it serious and concluded he would stop. It was not long when he started picking any idle money from the mother’s bag.  This time round, the mother became alarmed.

It took constant talking and counseling to get him out of this bad habit. No habit of thievery should be entertained on the altar of love for the child.

I witnessed a court proceeding where a judge sentenced a 21 year old university graduate to 10 years imprisonment with hard labour for being involved in armed robbery. But, before the police could whisk him away, he asked permission to speak to the mother, for the last time. When the mother got near to hear what he had to say to her, he bit off the right ear for not correcting him all these years, but always jumping to his defense.

  1. FAILING TO CORRECT A DISORGANIZE BEHAVIOUR

Kids must be allowed to interact with the environment. There is no contrary opinion to that effect especially from the child development psychology point of view.

However, after a child has finished playing with the objects he or she used, you should encouraged them to pack them to wherever they pick them from. If after teaching them to organize things orderly or properly but they persistently fail to adhere to your instructions but continue to scatter things around, you must quickly help them to adopt the right attitude of putting things in the right place in an orderly manner.

Don’t jump to their defense and assumed that they are young and would pick up the right behaviour when they grow up. Indeed change must start when the child learns how to speak. When your kid picks the right behaviour during their infancy, he or she will grow up becoming a well organized person.

# Assist your kid to adopt the right behaviour from childhood.

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Emmanuel Toklo

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