Do you know that even though women are different and exhibit different emotional, psychological, intellectual and physical behaviors they all have certain attributes they endorse and expect from their male partners. Yes they all give a thump up when these behaviors are demonstrated with their walk with men. Below are the five things that all women agree with across the globe.
RESPECT! RESPECT! RESPECT!
What is respect? in order to set the ball rolling. According to Merriam Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary (Tenth Edition) a. to consider of high regard (esteem) b. to refrain from interfering with.
When we were growing up in a small town, there was this shirt gate man who always says “Respect is give and take” I didn’t understand the phrase until I completed my first degree in Population and Family Education. I heard others also say that respect is reciprocal.
As a man who is married to a woman with kids, I heard some women lament serious about how their partners disrespect them but demand respect from them as a matter of obligation. My interaction with a lot of women over the years revealed this bad feeling women have about how their partners value their worth and contributions.
Even though this is not a convention, the majority of women respect their partners in a relationship so as to promote mutual co-existence between the two partners involved. You must hold your partner in high regard irrespective of her shortcomings. How do you treat her when she has done something wrong? Most men will shout to register their approval to the wrong action. Do you know that your wife is not your daughter neither your sister but a very important partner in your life journey. I have seen quite a number of men who started disrespecting the spouse as soon as they started doing financially well.
I want men to know that women are beginning to rise up to disrespecting behaviors exhibiting by men towards them. If you really respect and value yourself, then you must do same to your wife. Remember your wife would double the measure of respect you give her. #Give her the respect she deserves
There is admonition in the Holy Bible that the head of the home is the man such as the head of the church is Christ. (Ephesians 5:23 & 1 Corinthians 11:3)
Women expect their husbands to lead a godly live and lead the family through God Christ Jesus. As a man, you should demonstrate this godly leadership for your wife and children to follow.
Some men abandoned the church and stop fellowshipping as soon as the honeymoon is over, leaving the women and the kids the only people to go to church and have fellowship with their maker. Your wife expects you to provide the spiritual guidance and direction to the family. If you fail to instill this spiritual value in your children, you will leave to regret in the future. According to late Dr. Myles Munroe, President and Founder of Bahamas Ministries International (BFMI) and Mules Munroe International (MMI) “If a man doesn’t like the presence of God, … A man may be a business genius, making money left and right, but lack common courtesy, sensitivity” Every man must connect himself first and foremost to the supreme God and make sure the family is covered and protected under the guidance of God. All your wealth and properties would be destroyed in no time if you haven’t instilled hard work, the fear of God, honesty and accountability in your children.
LIVING SEXUALLY CLEAN LIFESTYLES
Another important quote from the bible worth mentioning to make my point can be found in Matthew 12:39a “an evil and adulterous generation seeks after sign, but no sign will be given to it”
The statistics of adultery or infidelity is straggling and continues to soar as many married men and women appear to be dissatisfied with their current partners for one reason or the other. Men are not expected to be having sex with other women left and right because of lustful pleasures that are often short lived. Responsible man stays with one woman and become content with her irrespective of changing physical outlook, brought about by child birth.
Even though we are living in a lustful world, where sex is displayed here and there; a responsible man can be unique and resist all the temptation that comes his way. You must know that some temptations are designed to bring you down and make mockery of your hand earned reputation. Most tragic heroes die as a well of their tragic flaws. Protect your integrity and guard your marriage. Again, the good old book (the Bible) says “we should redeem the time because the days are evil” (Ephesians 5:16)
HEALTHY DIET AND REGULAR EXERCISE
I was told by one smart health physical therapist, Audrey, that “women appreciate the appearance of their husbands as men value the attractive shape of women” Really! All along I thought the look of a man doesn’t matter to women, but I was wrong. They are really concerned about our “pregnant” belly as a result of fat deposit, abnormal weight gain due to inadequate exercise or no exercise and poor diet at our workplaces.
What we eat on daily basis count towards our overall well being as men in the future. We must eat the now for the future.
Unfortunately, most men after sitting behind their desks for 8 hours every day fail to plan for any exercise. I am not the type of guy that easily gets to the gym to exercise but I compensate this with 30 minutes vigorous walking early dawn before taking my bath in the morning. There is plenty of information about exercises and techniques you can adopt on the internet and you should explore them according to your schedules. Pinterest is a remarkable place to check on which exercise is fit for you. You can visit www.pinterest.com/exercise.
You wife want to see you fit and healthy even in the midst of all the challenges you are going through. # Get into exercise now.
SMOKING FREE LIFESTYLE
“Everything is permitted for man but it is not all things that are good for man”. You are not born a smoker from your mother’s womb or an alcoholic. All these are social habits we acquire from our environment or from our parents when growing up.
Many men started as moderate smokers and gradually advance to addiction stage. My father died due to smoking even though his doctors told him he wouldn’t live long if he continues to smoke.
I suffered a backlash of insults when I started free campaign among the youth in my city, Accra sometime ago. Apart from the health risks associated with smoking, your children may also be learning from this bad habit. Your wife wants to see you healthy so that you can both live long to guide and take care of the kids. If you are addicted to any type of drug, kindly seek help from health professionals who will advice you as to what to do to help deal with the addiction. It is not too late to put a way a bad habit. Yes you can because you have a will power to succeed. # Yes you can
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