It is a common fact that our lovely women are better mangers of the home than their male counterparts. These responsibility are better performed and handled by women. There is no controversy about these roles being performed on daily basis by the majority of women across the globe. I have identified these 10 responsibilities of responsible wives.
1. YOU ARE THE ADMINISTRATOR AND ONE OF THE MAIN DECISION MAKERS OF THE HOME
As the first lady of the home, you are the first person to make quick decision about how things should run in the home. You must prepare a budget and present it to your partner for assessment and fine tuning if it becomes necessary. Your duty is to plan how money in the home should be spent, giving attention to details without compromising the important things from the essentials. You ought to decide the menu for the week and changes them from time to time to demonstrate your creativity and cooking skills. Men love their wives food especially if it is prepared according to what the man wants. There comes the very important role of child care.
Planning for the kids is a big challenge that you must take care of without compromising on other essential things in the home. The welfare of the kids lies under your care and control. This is because your children interact with you more than your spouse. Create the home environment in such a way that your kids can grow up responsibly. Don’t neglect these motherly duties to any other person. If you play your role effectively, your kids would not hesitate to recognize you among hardworking mothers. You see why Mother’s day is such a big thing across the globe in recognition of mothers. It is because people like you play your motherly role effectively to warrant recognition and attention.
If you are a wife, are you performing this roles and responsibilities effectively? Are you neglecting something you must rather pay attention to? I am encouraging you to be a model wife to your husband and a model mother for your kids.
2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE DOMESTIC CHORES OF THE HOME
The management of the home lies on the shoulders of the woman. She prepares the best meal not only for the husband but the entire household. As a matter of fact you run all events of the week from your desktop whether playing the role as a mother, a career woman, a wife or a partner. Your domestic responsibilities must be managed in such a way that you are not stressed out by each passing day. Plan what exactly is the schedule of activities for the week and segregate each day with its specific activity. If you have domestic servant, train him or her to follow the schedules while you guide, coordinate and supervise activities of the day. Don’t cluster the household chores. Be specific and assigned time to each activity and the role each household member must play. These responsibilities lie squarely on your shoulder, so play it effectively.
3. SUPPORT THE HUSBAND IN DIFFICULT FINANCIAL TIMES.
In the time past, financial responsibilities rest sorely on the shoulders of men. But things have changed tremendously, making women better place to support their partners. You should give support and encouragement to your husband when he is in financially distressed due to loss of job, ailment, accident etc. Revise and cut down the family budget to enable things to run in the home. Give him assurance that you are with him spiritually and emotionally. Don’t leave him alone when he needs you badly at this crucial moment of his life, when his spirit is low. This is a crucial stage where your real love for him will be tested. Many women run away when the family is going through these challenges. Give an alternative advice for a job or suggest a side business that can later become a full time work for the family. I know it is not easy especially when there is always no money to run the home and your husband seems not to be concerned. Try and always get closer to him and find out what his plans are for a new job and what you are doing to help him out. Do this in love, without complaining as some women do. Please, suggest to him without insisting that your suggestion be taken at all cost.
4. RESPECT HIM AND HONOUR HIM
If you know you can’t respect your husband, why marry him in the first place. You are admonished to respect your husband so that he can also love you and fulfill all obligations toward you. Don’t compete and argue with him. All the sexes have their unique role to play. None is more important than the other. Give the respect that is due him and he will love and cherish you to the end. As a matter of fact, men value and cherish respect than anything else. It does not matter whether you are the daughter of Mr. Bill Gates, President Trump or Carlos Slim, if you fail to respect him; he will surely run away from you some day to come. Love your marriage, because there is no marriage in heaven; at least, says the Holy Bible.
5. BE THE CHIEF CONFIDANTE OF YOUR HUSBAND
You should exhibit enough qualities for your partner to trust you. If your husband cannot trust you, he will be forced to tell his trusted friend other than you about confidential matters & information. Make it possible for your husband to turn to confide in you any secret information, so that, you can advise him if necessary. Lack of trust makes most men to hide some sensitive secrets from their spouses, bad decision, though. Position yourself so well that your man has no other alternative than to tell you what his secret plans and heart desires are. When it comes to information disclosure, men are very sensitive, so you must understand the psychology of men with regards to what information they can reveal. This information applies to your husband as well. So, keep any information disclosed to you by your husband, a secret.
6. YOU SHOULD RECEIVE THE QUESTS OF YOUR HUSBAND AS YOUR OWN GUESTS
Receiving guests into the home is a primary responsibility of a good wife. Your husband may have business partners, colleagues at work or family relations. Create a friendly atmosphere in the home to make your guests form lasting impression about you. Your husband can’t live in an island, so try and create space for occasional guests and visitors. Some of these guests may turn out to be a blessing to the family. Have open arms to receive them.
7. BE YOUR CHILDREN’S MODEL FIRST TEACHER
You should assist your child to transfer what he or she learns from the school to the home and vice versa. You are the first person the child interacts with during the early hours of the day and the remaining hours after school. Help your child to do his or her home work/assignment to encourage him or her in school work. Children sometimes become bored when the learning situation seems to be intimidating. Play your role in a lovely way to provide the needed motivation for him or her to continue to pursue his or her education. Advancement in technology is making some children to lose interest in education and become addicted to computer games. Check what your child does with the IPAD, TABLET, PHONE and COMPUTERS at home. Don’t just look on, hope and pray that everything will be fine. Take decisive action about your child now.
Teach your child also to form the right moral, spiritual and social virtues. If the child internalizes these values, it will be difficult to depart from them when they grow up. Support every aspect of his or her school work as much as possible for easy transfer of learning and a holistic growth in the future.
8. PERFORM ALL YOUR CONJUGAL RESPONSIBILITIES
You are not to deny him of sexual intimacy on any ground. Don’t use sex as a powerful tool to maltreat your husband. If he does something you don’t like, talk it over with him, but don’t deny him sex whatever the reason. Don’t give him the opportunity to commit infidelity by making him to give an excuse. Sex is a powerful force that can drive men crazy like “animals” sometimes. If you continue to deny him sexual gratification, he will be drawn to sex addicted women out there who already have ulterior motives to destroy marriages. I know how it feels like if your spouse continues to give excuses just to refuse having sexual intercourse with you. Sex is emotional thing, that’s why we need to settle conflict as soon as it occurs so as not to force your husband into sexual sin (adultery)
9. BE SUBMISSIVE AND EXHIBIT HUMILITY AT ALL TIMES
Some women go into marriage, full of pride and feel arrogant to submit to their own husbands. They submit to their bosses at work but do the opposite at home. Please demonstrate humility in love and make your husband feel important. Being submissive does not make you a fool but it will make you closer and closer to your husband. One quality of a virtuous woman is her ability to be submissive to the instructions of the husband while making alternative opinions in humility. If you disagree with your husband which is normal in any marriage, the way you approach it will tell him whether it is done in humility or in arrogance. Cut away pride and disrespect and your marriage will travel very far.
10. CREATE A LOVELY AND FRIENDLY ATMOSPHERE IN THE HOME AT ALL TIMES
You are the chief director of the home. Create a friendly atmosphere in the home. Make your husband miss home any moment he has gone out of the house. My wife is a good cook and her cooking alone makes me to miss home when meal time is getting closer. There should be something unique about you that your husband can’t resist no matter how far he has travel outside the home. Do you have something missing in the list? Write to me by sharing your views with me through our e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
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