- INVOLVE YOUR KIDS IN FORMULATING THE RULES THAT WILL GOVERN THE HOME
Yes, your kids should be involved in formulating the rules that must guide the conduct and behaviour of the home. Many times, we do not deem it necessary to involve the kids before coming out with the DON’T of the home. I have acknowledged that you are the parent, but the reality is that making rules that do not factor in their inputs are about to fail big time. Involving the kids in making the rules in the home will make them more accountable and responsible in respecting their own rules. Why, because they were part of the people who formulated the sanction that should be applied if any one go contrary in breaking the rules. One of the reasons why our kids break rules in the house is that they see it (RULES) as the formulation of dad and mum to punish them.
- GIVE THEM THE CHANCE TO COME OUT WITH SOME OF THE RULES THAT SHOULD APPLY IN THE HOME
When given the chance in this situation, kids are able to identify some of the things they deliberately do that can be curtailed in the home because they are the first offenders of the home. When they understood, rules are made in the house to check the smooth running of the home, they are better place to know why the TV should be put off when nobody is watching, why the light should be put off when nobody is using it, why the house should be kept clean at all times etc, Even adult breaks rules some of the times because we assume those rules were made by some greedy politicians or legislators without the concerns of the citizenry. In fact, when they play a major role in making the rules, they won’t see them from adults’ perspective but a necessary evil for the survival of the home. Their comprehension about the necessity of rules would make them appreciate the efforts and contributions dad and mum make on their behalf.
- PARENTS SHOULD BE ROLE MODELS OF THE RULES THEY MAKE AT HOME
Yes, of course. Our world needs role models that can influence the next generation positively and not negative. Parents are the first point of contact in the home. You are the first person the child interacts with and you must be the child’s first role model.
Rules are made to be obeyed by both young and old. Once you crafted the rules in the company of your kids, you must get yourself involved in obeying the rules. Most adults are the first to punish a child for disobeying a rule in the home. However, the same parent breaks the rules with impunity because we are adults.
Once you are involved in crafting the rules that must govern the home, both parents should follow the rules. If you agree that no one should leave her shoe in the hall apart from the shoes stand, then, parents must try and set good examples, so that they can enforce the rules in the home. Your child would put spot light on you, to see whether you are also following the rules or disobeying the rules. When they observe that you do otherwise, it would not be long before the rules break down in the home
4. EXPLAIN THE COST OF RUNNING THE HOME
Explain to your kids why certain rules should be part of the general rule. Let them know that you are adding this rule to minimize waste in the family budget. For instance why should the TV be put off when nobody is watching, why the air condition should be switch off when nobody is in the room, why the lights should be off when nobody is using it, why there should be bulk ironing instead of doing it one by one. When they know how much dad and mum is paying for utilities weekly or monthly, they would have appreciation of the rules in the home. Share your view on on the site and let other parents contribute to your opinions. Together we can make rules lovely for the kids to obey. Get in touch through firstname.lastname@example.org
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