Who doesn’t want to be rich and leave in order to leave the life of his or her dream? Women all over the world are attracted rich men with flashy cars and have the means to spend money on their women without counting the cost. So, why should you encourage your husband to be rich?


Yes, I want to be very rich because I have seen what money can do and what it can’t do. I am of the strongest conviction that every man wants to be financially successful so that he can play his role as a good father, a good husband, a good uncle and a responsible citizen.

The fact of the matter is that we live in a material world and everything that exists in the world has a value. Your children as well as your wife including other people who depend on you would always want their needs meant promptly and in most cases these needs are financial needs. Your inability to satisfy these needs and wants would create financial instability in your home if you are married with kids and uncertainty in the lives of those who depend on you.

Your influence as the man of the house would diminish and question. How sad you asked. It is not by mistake that men go all out to command that economic power to position themselves and their family for a brighter future.  “Money they say doesn’t grow on trees”. It means we need to take decisive action as men to become rich no matter the economic you find yourself and what you are going through now. You have no apology for failure. It should not be part of you as a man. As a partner you must encourage your partner to be rich so that he can adequately take care of you and the family.

I grow up to see how money has helped transformed the lives of some families and how easy it was for their children to start earning very decent wages and salaries right after school. I have also seen how successful rich elderly men married young women some of whom they can give birth to. You see why you have no excuse not to become rich, because nobody under the globe would make you rich except you desire to be rich and take action to make things happen in your life.

 Mr. Bill Gates that needs no introduction one time said “If you are born poor it’s not your fault but if you die poor, blame yourself”. If you fail to get rich, your wife could be vulnerable to the influence of rich men, who wants to spend a little extra cash on her because of your inability to satisfy her needs. Don’t pity yourself, but rise and take action as quickly as possible, to become rich.


All women across the globe are looking for financial security from their spouses. Yes, I mean financial security. It means so much to women. The future we all acknowledge is unpredictable and this makes women to be very anxious about the future of their children. A legitimate concern, I guess. That’s why you should encourage him to work hard and smart to become rich.

How much do you save a year for the future? I am not good in finance and can’t give you financial advice financial planning but I know very well we all need to secure our future securely by taking deliberate financial plans. I am taking serious action not only to secure the future but to make the future of my children and wife very comfortable and assist as many people who may need our help.

If you don’t plan to have more money, you can’t plan to save more for the future. The common complains by many poor or below average people have been- we don’t have enough and can’t save for the future. Some of the reasons could be genuine. But you can do something about it since your destiny is in your own hand. I am encouraging you to start doing something now.

When I was growing up, my late mother and father didn’t have enough money to provide what we needed. I grew up among six siblings, four boys and two girls. We were are encouraged to get education and get a good job. I studied hard and went to the university and came out with second class (upper division). But, all my education ended me up in the classroom as a professional graduate teacher, with very low wages to meet the needs of my family.

As I write this post, I started a very strong campaign to challenge all men across the globe to rise up and take practical action to change their financial future and become financially successfully. The good news is that we have a lot of financial websites that teach you how to start and grow a side business. Explore the various options and decides which option resonate with you.

I didn’t want to give example because they are too many to count and list. Just go to www.google.com and enter what financial information you want. Example, “Real side business with low income to start” Evidence proven business to start, Simple online business to start with little money etc


Men value nothing from their wives more than respect. Yes, we want our wives to respect us and honour us as important partners in this noble institution called marriage. Respect is give and take you say but it should be without competition. Women are not to love their wives but husbands must at least from the biblical point of view.

But do you know the opposite is what is prevailing in most homes across the globe because of lack of adequate money in most homes worldwide. Women are now taking more responsibility to provide for their families than most men. Indeed, men in most homes across the globe are not financially empowered to provide the needs of their families.

One woman told me one day that “we don’t eat respect in the home; a man must provide enough for his household” The home is just like a bank that needs liquidity to run its operation, so is the home. So the issue of respect comes with certain conditions that you must meet to merit the respect of your wife and children.

If want you want your spouse to respect you and honour you, you must work very smart and get enough money to provide for the family to run their today-today activities (feeding, clothing, health care, education, paying gas and electricity bill promptly etc)

Your failure to get rich and provide enough for your wife and children, would make your wife (not all women though) influence your own children not to respect you, because you are considered an irresponsible father and husband who doesn’t care about their welfare and future.

It is sad to see yourself in a situation like that.You must quickly act to do something about the situation. It doesn’t matter whether you are in your early 20’s, 30’s, 40’s or even 60’s, you can still do something to change your economic fortune while you are still alive. You have to decide to do something differently. It will be unfortunate on your part to accept the present status and settle with your current financial situation as your full stop.


Don’t be tempted to think money is not everything after all. That was my old way of thinking several years ago until I am faced with the stack reality about what having enough money can help me achieve in life.

In fact, the reality of life is that, society does not care about what you know in your head and how concern you are about changing the world to be a better place until you have enough money to implement your plans. Ha ha ha!

No one really cares about how you started until they begin to see result of your financial transformation.  

My late mother once told the six of us something that took place at a family meeting she attended. The meeting was to discuss plans to put in place to bury a deceased family brother. She suggested a brilliant idea about how to organize a befitting burial at a reduce cost. The rest of the family members agreed to the suggestion and appointed people to take specific roles in executing the plans during the funeral.

But the coming into the meeting a young rich woman changed everything that was discussed because she opposed the plan and was willing to take 80% of the funeral expenses. She told her in the face “we are not talking about brilliant ideas but we are talking about money here” Money Power! My mother had no money to back her ideas and the idea ended up in the bin. May the gentle soul of my late mother, rest in perfect peace’.  

So, you see, no matter how good your idea and plans are, if you don’t have money to back it, your idea will forever remains in your hear and no one will hear of it. The good news is that we are living in a world with so much to learn about finance and how to improve your financial life. Take advantage of these opportunities and change your financial life. You may visit http://www.makingsenseofcents.com. There are interesting articles on the side to teach you how to start a side business. Jessica is doing pretty well in this regards


When we were growing up as young kids, we see rich and successful people’s children brag about what they would become in life in the future. Those of us from poor background don’t know what to do and say because our imagination is limited to what we hear from our parent and what we see around us.

The reality is that; ‘’the have’ and ‘the have not’’ children think differently about money just like their parents. Do you know that your children’s career choices could be greatly influenced by your current financial status? Yes, it would, because, the first thing they would consider in deciding which career to choose is: ‘can dad and mum afford the cost of the tuition’. For this reason many brilliant but needy children are likely to choose low paying careers at the university while the opposite is true for children from average and richhomes. The former children think of high paying careers like medicine, law, engineering etc

These days, most successful rich families want their children to become business men and women like them. Since your financial life affect your children’s financial future, desire and take action like me and influence your kid’s financial future positively.


Abraham Maslow’s theory of self actualization plays a very important role in the life of any individual and should influence you as a man to take action to achieve financial greatness. Nobody wants to accept the status of ‘Mr. Nobody’ when it comes to financial matters and the decision that affect your life, immediate family and others.

The irony in life is that everybody has the potential to achieve something in life and become somebody, but many don’t know how they can make it possible. We live in a world of information and it is not too late to learn about something new, because everything is learnable. I’m still learning, so you can too.

You can’t be your best if you don’t know what you are good at. Sit down at a quite place and take a pen and a paper to ask yourself these questions: 1.What is it that ‘I am’ good at doing? 2. What gives me the greatest satisfaction in life?  3. What do I consider the greatest challenge of the society I live in and what can I do to solve the problem if given all the money required to do it?. 4. What motivates me every day to take action? 

As a matter of fact, you can’t pretend to be fulfilled when you have not achieved all that you dreamt of in life. Nobody will hand over your dream desires, wants and needs to you unless you decided to change the situation yourself. You are the main architect of your life journey and have what it takes to fulfill all your heart desires in life. Don’t stop at nothing until you fulfill all your greatest desire in life.


There was and still is a saying that the “POOR HAS NO FRIEND”. How can it be when he or she has nothing to offer the 7hghgfriends? I think this is a saying the poor used to comfort themselves.

We heard how some of the super rich and the rich give generously toward charitable courses and worthy endeavours they believe in. These donations as we know have helped millions of people across the globe. You might not desire to be super rich like Mr. Bill Gates or Mr. Carlos Slim, but you can be rich enough to support the many people you can identify in your family and neighbourhood.

I guess you have a genuine desire to support people including your nuclear and extended family, but how can you if you don’t have money yourself. Nobody can see your passion and care unless you back them with something concrete they can see.

I am sure you are familiar with the saying that you can’t give what you don’t have. Your family, community and the world is looking up to you to make a change in their lives because they believe in you. Don’t settle for less and assume there is no going forward to get more in life. If you desire more money from the universe, it will be given to you because the universe does not hold anything good or bad from anybody including you.

Do you know that your parents, siblings, in- laws and secret admirers are secretly praying for you to succeed and achieve financial independence, so that you can help them when the need a rises. The responsibilities placed on you as a man, a father, a husband, an uncle, a brother etc. are enormous and you must face it        squarely. Give your comment or write to me through our official email portal info@parentrens.com. I would be glad to hear from you.

Until then

Scout Linsky

Get with me touch through my social media platforms:





Create the future you want for your child

6 T

All over the world, it’s the expectation of every parent to see the child grows up and become a successful person in the future. When we are successful in doing this we tap ourselves at the back and glimpse with smiles. However, this thing comes with some sacrifices in order to make the future of your kids great.

What are these things parents who care for the future of their kids should be doing?

  1. They create an enabling environment in the home

Creating a learning environment for the child’s academic future, provides a fertile ground for the child’s total development.

Children at their formative years need an environment that can help them to play, learn and interact with the natural environment. Parents should ensure there are play things such as toys, colouring books, children’s games, picture books, colourful story books, animation etc. for the child to play and learn on his or her own.

In this type of environment, shouting, screaming and insults do not exist. Because of the sensitive nature of the child at this age, every possible thing should be done to promote the total wellbeing of the child.

  • They complement the teaching learning experience of the child at home.

Providing a supplemental learning activities of the child engages the attention of this type of parents. When children are provided with similar teaching learning materials they use at school in the home, it motivates them to learn and understand.

This puts them  in a better position to apply theoretical concept to real life situation. Find out what learning materials your child’s teacher use at school and try to provide similar learning materials for your child at home.

  • They provide emotional, psychological and physical growth of  their child

Parents from this type of home know how sensitive and fragile children in their formative years are and take steps to protect them. Your child needs your emotional, psychological and physical support to keep him or her emotionally stable and healthy to undertake meaningful learning.

You need to pay close attention to the child to determine what must engage your immediate attention. Your closeness to the child and quick response in addressing issues that confront him or her will guarantee the total health of the child.

  • They assist the child to identify his or her hidden potential early in their formative years.

As I indicated earlier, you need to support the child in this crucial time to enable them know their hidden potential and talents.

Don’t assume the school alone should play this role. The school will give a general knowledge to the children in school and assist them to realize what they can do by themselves.

But as a parent, you are in a better position to assist your child to know what he or she is capable of doing. After all, the child spends about 8 hours at school and spend the rest of the time with you at home. What do you do with the child when he or she comes home? Check and find out what your child takes delight in and help him or her to develop it.

  • They instill good moral upbringing into their children

Parents in this home do not sweep under the carpet wrong behaviours of their children.

They are prompt to ensure that the child picks the right behavior irrespective of the love they have for the child.

Don’t be lukewarm to correct the wrong doings of your child but be proactive in addressing the wrong attitudes and behaviours that do not fit societal acceptable behaviours.

The ancient holy book, the bible says ‘train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6 NKJV). As parent, you have a huge responsibility to train up your children in a changing world, where we are told to leave the issue of molarity for the child to determine. I will say a big No. Your child is given to you to train.

Don’t allow the ‘corrupt’ society we find ourselves train up your child for you. If you instill the right values and behaviours into your child, he will grow up and congratulates you when he or she becomes adult into adulthood

  • They make their children their best friends

Parents in this type of home creates friendly atmosphere around their homes for their children to be their best friend. This is where it is important for parents to break any barrier that will hinder their children from confiding in them. Why do you allow your child’s friend to be his or her confidant?

If we allow our children to approach us easily, they will tell us their fears, worries and ambitions for the future. When we succeed in doing that, we can be in a better position to give good advice without being judgmental about their decisions.

 We need to give your young children listening ears and attention. Your child is exposed to so many things than what you were exposed to in the 70s and 80s and 90s.  We should rise up to the challenge and confront it holistically.

My motivation to start a blog about parenting stems from the fact that I have been confronted with various challenges in helping my four kids adopt appropriate behaviours. I am of the strong view that as a teacher, counsellor and a father of four young kids, I can be helpful to other likeminded parents who are also raising children like you.

Have a blissful week

          Scout Linsky


Ethnicity Diversity Gorup of Kids Friendship Cheerful Concept


The debate for couple to have or not to have a child has been going on across the globe. I think we should state the points and give couples the opportunity to make their own choices. This post is purely for reflection and doesn’t indicate a position by the writer


Procreation is a natural phenomenon where older adults bring forth young offspring (Merriam Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary). These occurrences made it possible for generations after generation to continue to exist, because the creator of the universe makes it so. I don’t know what you believe, but it is acceptable practice for all who believe in the supernatural God or the universe as some may call it to fulfill this divine assignment. Animals, trees, birds, fishes, plants, etc. are still obeying this divine order of procreation since time immemorial. So the question is, ‘where is the missing link for some couples not wanting to reproduce their own kind?

 I counselled a couple some two years ago, who asked ‘whether it is necessary for every couple to give birth’? But this is a choice the individual has to make. My opinion is that unless nature shuts the womb of a woman, where it may be impossible for the woman not to give birth naturally, every couple should decide whether to have or not to have a kid. We have been created in this world for continuous existence.

 However, if you choose not to fulfill this divine order, it is your personal choice. We have been created by a supreme God and not by ourselves. With all the abundance evidence in science, there’s no clear cut scientific findings to indicate that we emerged from other space with no linkage to reproduction

Writing in historical contexts entirely removed from the gay marriage debate, making the case that “the first purpose of matrimony, by the laws of nature and society, is procreation” (that’s a California Supreme Court ruling in 1859), describing the institution of marriage as one “founded in nature, but modified by civil society: the one directing man to continue and multiply his species, the other prescribing the manner in which that natural impulse must be confined and regulated” (that’s William Blackstone), and acknowledging that “it is through children alone that sexual relations become important to society, and worthy to be taken cognizance of by a legal institution” (that’s the well-known reactionary Bertrand Russell).

That brings about my second QUESTION. Why would you like your generation to end at you? If you are the only child of your parent and married but hold the view of not wanting to give birth, I would be interested to know your personal reasons or views. Your exposition of your views would assist me to understand things proper from your perspective. We live in a knowledge society and I am always happy to learn from other’s point of view without sounding judgmental.

2. It makes the couples feel what other couples feel.

I am very much aware that there are few couples even though there have one or no child; dedicate their time and resources to the welfare of others. EXAMPLES of such couples include Beyonce & Jay-Z. The powerhouse musical pair has wallets as big as their lungs. Beyonce gave her entire $4 million salary from the film Cadillac Records over to Phoenix House, a drug treatment center that has provided treatment and recovery options to men, women, and teens. Over the years, husband Jay-Z has donated plenty of time and money, cutting a check for $1 million for the Katrina relief effort and co-producing a song to benefit earthquake-ravaged Haiti. Courtesy Daily parade

Oprah Winfrey is another personality who spent large sums of money to support charitable course. Condoleezza Rice, a one-time US secretary of state has distinguished herself during her working career

But these individuals are the exceptional ones. When couples have children, they are more assertive to societal growth than non-child bearing couples. They feel what other couples with children go through across the globe. Their responsibility will not only be to their children but to seek the general good of society at large. They are more careful to make decision that will affect the wellbeing of children.

The frequent gun violence in certain part of the US in recent times, caused students to demonstrate against their law makers. Some of them hold placards that show that their legislators are failing their generation. It is clear that some of the legislators are not having children of their own and may not feel deeply the agony and pains families go through if they lost their children to gun violence. The question I have been asking myself quietly is: Is the older generation of America failing the younger generation in terms of arms control? Can’t the American society have legislation to control easy access to gun?


What will come of our beautiful society if our great grandfathers and great grandmothers adopt this lifestyle of convenience and denied Mother Nature her children? You and I of course would not be in existence today. Are you aware that some animals are classified as extinct because they can’t reproduce their young ones to replace them?

These animals are kept in special zoos and research centers for research purpose only. What would you be remembered for after you have left this world and your wealth and money are gone?

Of course whatever you left behind would soon pass away in thin air because you are not available to manage them. However, if you have children, they will continue to reproduce years after years when you are gone to join the invisible world. Share what you think with this view.


Loneliness kills and kills slowly than slow poison. You would not be young forever. Remember we are all growing every day and will be unable to do the things we do easily at our youthful age. The old aged homes are getting over populated because of the decisions some couples took not to have children but to enjoy life with their pets. I love pets, and my pet is a white cat I named after my grandfather. My pet is called Pascard but the children called it Paski. It seems it prefers the paski to Pascard.

There is nothing better than having your own children and grandchildren attending to you at your old age or having them to regularly visit you during your old age. I know there are some good caretakers at some of these homes but your grandchildren want to socialize with you at old age and benefit from your rich experience. Don’t just die with your rich experience without transferring your knowledge to your children and grandchildren. When you make your experiences available, you have contributed to making the world a better place than you came to meet it.


We all know old age is characterized by sicknesses and diseases due to weakening immune system and general body failure. Some of the sicknesses we experience may be due to certain lifestyle we adopted from our youthful age. If you have a child that you brought up properly, he or she should be available when you need him or her to arrange for your medical needs.

I know many of you have planned for these things but it can be better when you children get involve. Send me an e-mail on info@parentrens.com about your view about the post or comment below

Have a fruitful week

Scout Linsky


The ingenuity of 21st Century Woman

It is a common fact that our lovely women are better mangers of the home than their male counterparts. These responsibilities are better performed and handled by women. There is no controversy about these roles being performed on daily basis by the majority of women across the globe.

It’s just amazing to see women performing multiple tasks at the same time without compromising any of the task. They can be steaming a meat, making stew, doing laundry and cleaning all at the same time.

I have identified these 10 multiple tasks 21st Century woman engaged in on daily basis, which are worth mentioning and commending.


As the first ladies of the home, they are the first persons to make quick decision about how things should run in the home. They prepare a budget and present it to their partners for assessment and do fine tuning if it becomes necessary. They plan how money in the home should be spent, giving attention to details without compromising the important things from the essentials.

They decide the menu for the week and changes them from time to time to demonstrate their creativity and cooking skills. Men love their wives food especially if it is prepared according to what the men want.

Planning for the kids is a big challenge but they make this decision every day without compromising on other essential things which ought to be done in the home. The welfare of the kids lies under their care and control. This is because their children interact with them more than their partners.  They create the home environment in such a way that their kids can grow up responsibly.

 They don’t neglect these motherly duties to any other persons. They play their role so effectively that, their kids would not hesitate to recognize their contributions among hardworking mothers. You see why Mother’s day is such a big thing across the globe in recognition of mothers. It is because mothers play their motherly role effectively to warrant recognition and attention.

If you are a wife, are you performing this roles and responsibilities effectively? I am encouraging you to be a model wife to your husband and an example for your kids.


The management of the home lies on their shoulders. They prepare the best meal not only for their husband but the entire household. As a matter of fact they run all events of the week from their desktop whether playing the role as a mother, a career woman, a wife or a partner. Their domestic responsibilities is managed in such a way that they are not easily stressed out by each passing day.

They plan exactly the schedule of activities for the week and segregate each day with its specific activities. If they have domestic servants, they train them to follow the schedules while they guide, coordinate and supervise activities of the day. They don’t cluster the household chores. As a matter of fact, 21st century women are specific and assigned time to each activity and the role each household member must play. These responsibilities lie squarely on their shoulders and they play it effectively.


In the time past, financial responsibilities rest sorely on the shoulders of men. But things have changed tremendously, making women better place to support their partners. Most women now give support and encouragement to their husbands when they are in financially distress due to loss of job, ailments, accident etc.

They revise and cut down the family budget to enable things to run in the home. They give the men assurance that they are with them spiritually and emotionally. They don’t leave them alone when men need them badly at this crucial moment of their life, when their spirit is low. This is a crucial stage where their real love for their husbands are tested. Most of them don’t run away when the family is going through these challenges.

They give an alternative advice for a job or suggest a side business that can later become a full time work for the family. They know it is not easy especially when there is always no money to run the home and some husbands seem not to be concerned. They try and always get closer to them and find out what their plans are for a new job and what they are doing to help things out. They do this in love, without complaining their family values. They make suggestions to them without insisting that their views be taken at all cost.


They know that if they don’t respect their husbands, it will be impossible for peace and harmony to prevail at home. They are admonished to respect their own husband so that they can also love them and fulfill all obligations toward them.

They don’t compete and argue with them unnecessary. They know that all the sexes have their unique roles to play in the family. They know that no one is more important than the other. They give the respect that is due them and they receive love, care and attention in return.

As a matter of fact, women know that men value and cherish respect than anything else. They know that it does not matter whether they are the daughters of Mr. Bill Gates, President Trump or Carlos Slim etc. If they failed to respect their husbands; they will surely run away from them some day to come. They love their marriage, because they know there is no marriage in heaven; at least, says the Holy Bible.


They exhibit enough qualities for their partners to trust them. They are aware If their husbands cannot trust them, they will be forced to tell their trusted friends other than them; their wives with confidential matters & information. They make it possible for their husbands to turn to confide in them with any secret information, so that, they can advise them if necessary. They know trust in marriage can’t be compromised

Women know Lack of trust makes most men to hide some sensitive secrets from their spouses, bad decision, though. They Position themselves so well that their men have no other alternative than to tell them what their secret plans and heart desires are. When it comes to information disclosure, men are very sensitive, so most women understand the psychology of men with regards to what information they can reveal. So, they keep any information disclosed to them by their husbands


Receiving guests into the home, most women know is their primary responsibility as a good wife. They are aware it’s possible their husbands may have business partners, colleagues at work or family relations coming to visit once in a while. They create a friendly atmosphere in the home to make their guests form lasting impression about them. They know their husbands can’t live in an island, so they try and create space for occasional guests and visitors. Some of these guests turn out to be a blessing to the family. 21st century women have open arms to receive guests.


They assist their children to transfer what they learn from the school to the home and vice versa. Because they are the first person the child interacts with during the early hours of the day and the remaining hours after school. They help their children to do their homework/assignment; to complement the teaching learning in school work.

Children sometimes become bored when the learning situation seems to be intimidating. Smart mothers play their roles in a lovely way to provide the needed motivation for them to continue to pursue their education. Advancement in technology is making some children to lose interest in education and become addicted to computer games. So, 21st century women check what their children do with the IPADs, TABLETs, iPhones and computers at home. They don’t just look on, hope and pray that everything will be fine. They take decisive actions about their children right from start.

They teach their child also to form the right moral, spiritual and social virtues. They are very much aware that if their children internalizes these values, it will be difficult to depart from them when they grow up.  So, they support every aspect of their school work as much as possible for easy transfer of learning for their holistic growth in the future.


They don’t deny their men of sexual intimacy on any ground by giving flimsy excuses unless it becomes very necessary to do so. They don’t use sex as a powerful tool to maltreat their husbands. If they do something they don’t like, they talk it over with them because they know talking is better than conflicts in the home, but they don’t deny their husbands sex whatever the reason.

They don’t give their partners the opportunity to commit infidelity by giving them the chance to give excuses. Sex is a powerful force that can drive men crazy like “animals”; most women know about this. They know if they continue to deny them sexual gratification, they will be drawn to sex addicted women out there who already have ulterior motives to destroy marriages. They know how it feels like if their spouses continue to give excuses just to refuse having sexual intercourse with them.

 Sex is emotional thing, that’s why we need to settle conflict as soon as it occurs so as not to force your husbands into sexual sin (adultery)


Women of character don’t go into marriage, full of pride but they learn to be humble to their own husbands. They submit to their bosses at work and do humble themselves at home. They demonstrate humility in love and make their husbands feel proud of them. They know being submissive does not make them a fool but it makes them draw closer and closer to their husbands.

Smart women are aware that one quality of a virtuous woman is her ability to be submissive to the husband while making strong alternative opinions in humility. If they disagree with their husbands, which is normal in any marriage, they approach it diplomatically without appearing arrogant. They cut away pride and disrespect in their marriages because they value peace in marriage.


They know they are the chief directors of the home. They create a friendly atmosphere in their homes. They make their husbands missed home any moment they have gone out of the house. My wife is a good cook and her cooking alone makes me to miss home when meal time is getting closer. There should be something unique about you that your husband can’t resist no matter how far he has travel outside the home.  Do you have something missing in the list? Write to me by sharing your views with me through our e-mail: info@parentrens.com

Watch out for my next post about ten (10) Things 21 century husbands do differently. Don’t miss the conversation

Have a blessed weekend

Scout Linsky



Wait and read this; it will enable you to check the marriage readiness of your partner before you take the decision to move further with the relationship. In fact, many of us fail to do the due diligence necessary about our supposed would be partners before jumping into relationship with them.

The following are to enable you to assess whether you did what you were supposed to do at the time before saying yes to tie the knot. If you are now preparing to go the long haul then this article would assist you to make the right decision through you own observation and by asking the right questions


What is marriage after all, you asked? Even though marriage is described varying from social, legal, cultural and socio-political point of view, for the sake of this post, marriage is described as: The mutual relationship of a husband and wife (wedlock): the institution whereby, men and women are joined in a special kind of social and legal dependence for the purpose of founding and maintaining a family.

Now that we have been able to situate marriage in context, we can now proceed with the discussion. Has your partner been able to start a discussion about marriage; (what plan he or she has in mind about marriage, raising kids, finance or the date and year he or she plans to marry?) If you have been dating for the past two years and nothing of a sort came out of your numerous discussions with your partner, reassess him or her to check about the readiness to start a family with you. May be, you are the free going type and never bothered about settling down, but if you plan to start a family, or possibly raise kids, then this issue must be discussed carefully between you and your partner. But avoiding marriage discussions when you intended to settle down should give you a wake up call

It is common these days to see people dating for more than 5 years without any plan for marriage. Why is marriage being perceived as a monster? One lady told me, ‘’She better date as long she wish, than to be trapped in the name of marriage, with a wedding ring on her figure’’. Surely, she has cataloged a lot of reasons to justify her claims. Everybody is right in the way he or she thinks, but, if you are ready for marriage, then you are the reasons for this post. In fact, many young men and women are scared to enter into this noble institution, because of the wrong perceptions fueled by propaganda by some activists who don’t believe in marriage.  

If you are in a relationship with the intention of settling down and be recognized by your state, then you must engage your partner in discussion about your marriage plan. Every state has its own types of marriage that it’s recognized. Check from your local authority or county to know the types that are available to you. If your partner continues to brush aside marriage discussion, anytime the issue is raised, it is a pointer that he or she is not ready yet for marriage. Don’t force him or her into marriage; it is better to experience a failed or broken relationship than a broken marriage.


I know you might have been dating for quite some time now, that’s great. But, have you yet been introduced to his or her friends that matter to him or her? Try and find out from him or her; those significant friends that matter to him or her. Start from his or her close work colleagues and try to get introduce to them. This introduction is important because, it demonstrates to you that your partner is not dating other ladies or guys secretly behind you. Yes, indeed, our significant friends serve as a check on what we do, because we are social beings. If you‘ve been dating for more than two to three years and yet, you have not been introduced to at least two of his close friends, then, something is missing somewhere.

Anybody who is deeply in love wouldn’t hesitate to introduce his or her partner to his or her friends within a year. People described love as a dynamo that explodes, especially in the initial stage of any relationship. Anyone who loves you would make you known immediately because; he or she would feel proud to introduce you to those who matter to him or her. Don’t accept any excuses not to be introduced; you are not a partner in shadow. You deserve to be publicized.

Give him or her deadline to be introduced, if your partner fails to honour the deadline without any reasonable justification, just walk out please and meet the right person to have you and get the world to know about you. Introduction in a relationship is very crucial if you intend to become Mr. and Mrs. In the future


This stage is very crucial if really you are the dream love of your partner. In fact, after you have been introduced to his close friends, the next level is to test the ‘waters’ by being introduced to the parents. It gives the parent the opportunity to know who has won the heart of their son or daughter and whether or not the right choice has been made.

If he or she is ready to do so, give your partner a thumb up. However, if your partner refuses to do so after a couple of requests, quit, because you are not the right person for him or her. The approval of the parent is so significant because, they will be the main stakeholders who would give their blessings to the marriage, if all things being equal.

Your introduction would make you to know whether you are being accepted through the way you are received. Many good parents would give you a few advice about their son or daughter and what they expect from you. Some of the guys fooled their partners by giving flimsy excuses to delay introduction to their parents. If he refused to introduce you after several attempts, please, don’t hang on, hope and pray that things will change. He is not just ready for you or you are not the best person he or she s looking for, but taking advantage of you to satisfy his or her insatiable sexual desires.


Don’t be surprised if he or she refuses to send you to his or her residence. You can’t date him or her without knowing where your partner’s residence is. If, you usually meet in a guest house, a hotel or a friend’s place, then, you have to be observant and do some background works. Some women don’t know the actually residence of their partners, because their partners are not ready to do so.

Your invitation to the house indicates that he or she is not hiding any secret affair from you, hence their willingness to make you known to their neighbours. I know some of you who come to the house, come in late and leave very early without anybody knowing you. In many relationships, the guys normally try to outsmart their ladies, so, please be observant and keep your eyes wild open. Don’t allow yourself to be taken advantage of as a result of his “sweet talk”. Watch out and advice yourself if he is not ready to introduce you to a few of his neighbours, advice yourself. Some women are equally guilty in outsmarting their partners; because some can date more than one guy at a time.


This is not possible, you probably said. I know many of us can’t wait to be married before allowing the ‘golden apple’ to be eaten. A lot of women allow their parties to be removed too early, only to realize that the guy is not ready for marriage. Sad, isn’t it? I can’t exonerate myself from this regard, because I found myself disappointing someone before meeting my wife. Sexual gratification should not form the basis to determine how good your partner will be in marriage

We had enough sex but no marriage. I apologized to all women who fall victim to this bad behaviour of men. I want women to be careful in order not to equate sex to love. They mean two separate things to men. Sex does not necessarily mean love, from men perspective. When a man found the woman of his heart, he can wait as long as possible to marry her before sex. I know you are adults and seriously in love. That’s nice to hear, but how would you feel if after all these things you are not being married and someone has taken your place. What if you are pregnant? Would you commit abortion and feel guilty for the rest of your life? In one of my earlier post, I strongly opposed to long dating, because of its many associated problems.

Stay blessed!

Scout Linsky


Kids Hate Parents Who Do this thing

Your kid is giving to you to nurture and train so that he or she can become a responsible person in society when he or she grows up to join the adult community. I know this period can with so many challenges and frustrations; that can sometimes make us take decisions that will adversely affect the child.

Parenting is a complex process that parents must learn through patient, dedication, commitment, love, forgiveness and encouragement. Because, during this process, kids exhibit all kids of behaviors as part of their learning process. Be observant and allow them to play around without becoming too restrictive.

Below are the 5 things parents do that make their kids very unhappy

Many children I interviewed when I was about to write this post identified these five things they wish their parents avoid in bring them up.


The first thing they hate about their parent was about the way and manner their parents beat them with the least mistakes they make at home. Subjecting your own child as well as other children to beating is a clear violation to their fundamental human rights. You can discipline your child to live up to an acceptable behavior but do not subject them to beatings. This bad childhood treatment could affect the child to adult life.

 Some children pick these negative behaviors and become bullies and subsequently maltreat their own spouses and children in like manner. Beating could also hinder the child to unearth his or her potential in life. I am not by this post suggesting to you that don’t discipline your child, but don’t beat your child as a way of correcting him or her.


I know many of us are guilty in this regard. Children are very intelligent when it comes to promises we made to them. They will make sure that they hold you accountable to the promise you made to them. What I normally do if I made a promise to my children is to find an alternative gift to replace what I originally promised them if I can’t meet the exact promise I made to them.

Sometimes, our children may make demand outside your planned budget, but you have to explain to them why they can’t get what they want for now. We need to make our communication with our kids very effective, so that they would know what is important and what is essential but not very important. Once a promise is made we have to find a way to fulfill it. I know we can’t give them everything they demanded but let try to find a way to handle this issue with your kids?


‘Protective love’ can sometimes be detrimental to the growth of your child. Children must be made to go out to explore the natural environment outside the home as much as possible. When they are in the company of their parents outside the home, they may discover many new things to add to what they already know. Keeping your children indoors after school always, may take away their creativity that they may need for their total development.

Many children discover themselves when interacting with their physical environment and in the company with other kids. In my case, every school holiday, I managed to take my three grown up kids out to a place outside the city because the last one is too young to join us. Many of the places we visit are not expensive but it exposes the children to the ‘outside world’. You can plan and take your kids outside the home to the nearby park, museum or cultural center etc. There will be definitely a place in your neighborhood or city where you can send your child.


The common English law states that an accused person is deemed innocent until proven in a competent court of jurisdiction. Kids should be given the opportunity to express their views or opinions on any issue, we, adults deemed inappropriate or wrong. A lot of the time, parents are quick to give punishment without taking the time to listen to their side of the story. It is very appropriate to listen to them first, no matter the wrongs they have committed before taking any action against them. I one day disciplined my first son without listening to the side of his story only to be told by the sister that he wasn’t the one responsible for the offence I have accused him of.  We sometimes become judgmental especially when the child is already a ‘naughty child’. Do you sometimes feel guilty of such bladder? We must avoid this negative parental attitudes


       My wife, Lizzy, is guilty of this. She is quick to insult the the if they provoked her. There are many parents out there who also behave in similar manner. Shouting on our kids when they provoked us is a negative behavior that parents must avoid. I know we are human and tempers can sometimes fly through the rooftop but we should endeavor to manage our anger.

I know we are raising children in a challenging times but we need to apply patience and wisdom in nurturing them. Our children learn very fast, but unfortunately, they are also quick to learn about all the negative stuff from their parents. If you want to influence the positive behavior of your kids, try to adopt healthy behaviors that are positive. In this case you can influence them to pick positive behaviors that will not only make them fit into society, but help them contribute meaningfully to society. Share your views about this post and what you think should be added to the list.


Scout Linsky



A parent who fails to pay attention to the holistic wellbeing of the child will live a disappointed life in old age when the odds will be against you because of your inability to pay attention to what matter the most in your child’s formative years.

There’s more to be a parent than making yourself available in the house and confine yourself in self-imposed prison without making yourself available to your children and the family. Be a responsible parent

  1. Create a school-like playing environment for the child in the home.

Yes, gone are the days when everything we need in the school are provided in abundance to the extent that we even brought some of the things we use in the school  home, for us to play with. Every child wants a school like environment in the home for practical demonstration and practice and also to satisfy their insatiable curiosity. Your kid would not stop playing until he or she fulfills all requirements relevant to the growing age. If your kid fails to destroy, dismantle, disorganize and break things around, then something definitely must be wrong somewhere.

Your child mental faculty comes to play when he or she is allowed to play around her immediate environment beyond the school environment. Do you know that your child spends more time at home than at school? Think about that and help him or her develop the right mental faculty formulation for learning in the future. That is the more reason why parents must create a friendly school-like environment in the home. The reality is that the time allocated to the various school subjects as enshrined in the school curriculum is limited and your child may not have enough time to practice and play with whatever she or he has been taught in the school.

Try and use the corner or the porch to create that school-like home environment for your child. Add coloring books, toes, story books on various subject disciplines, picture books, maps and some exercise books. Assist your child to draw a home time table to guide him or her to utilize the time profitably.


Children always want to hear their mum or dad tells them their own fairy tale from their own mouth. In fact, children get excited about this and always look forward for dad or mum to tell them a story. Even if you are not good in storytelling, create one from your childhood time to tell them. Remember what happens at your first day in school, how that bully was punished in the class for the excitement of everybody, a story you have read some years ago or told by a friend.

You can always get something to tell your children if you so wish. Storytelling and reading to your children motivate them to want to do the same. It facilitates the acquisition of literary skills and improves the child’s performance in other subject areas. I don’t know your work schedule, but try to find an hour during the weekend to do so. In my case, I use Saturdays and Sundays to tell the children a story and or read a favorite story to them.

After reading a story to your child or children, ask them to identify some of the characters in the story and what they have learned in the story. When you do this at the early stage, they will grow to love comprehension and English Literature. In fact, if your kids can comprehend a story and retell the story and the roles played by various characters in the story, you should be excited of seeing future scholars in the family.


Yes indeed, your child will be happy to introduce their friends they have been playing with at school. Surprise them to play around and occasionally take part in the activity. Your child can’t live like an island and you should give him or her the opportunity to interact with other children in the neighborhood. Don’t be over protective and deny your child the opportunity from learning something positive from their neighborhood friend.

 Asking your child’s friends to come and play with them, will also give them the opportunity for you to learn about the type of children your child play with at school. Your duty is to guide them in the course of their visit. Don’t be scared but be proactive in your children’s formative years.


As you are already aware, the child’s first learning encounter is the home. According to Sigmund Fred’s theory of learning, the child first learning interaction is the environment. Since the home is the first environment the child interacts with, parents should play active role in that environment to stimulate the learning experience of the child.

If parents take active part in the activity of their children at home, they are motivated to develop their skills and talents early in life. Many of us ride on the platform of no time. I know how life in the city is playing a fast one on all of us. Many of us have time to do other things and relegate this important part of upbringing of our children to day care attendants and nannies. But, you must know that your part in this upbringing can’t be relegated to anybody.


This is the time where the child is allowed to tell an interesting story he or she has learned or heard with the parents. The quite ones would find it difficult to tell a story for the first time, but continuous encouragement will make the child develop the skills to tell his her own story. Many parents are too serious about work, thus creating ‘artificial interactions with their kids. Create an intimate bond and relationship with your kids from the onset.

If you didn’t have time to bond properly with your own child, or children, a time will come when they will not be available when you need them. Why, because you are just an ‘artificial mum’ or ‘artificial dad” but no bond exist between you and your children during their formative years. Most men in the name of chasing money to take care of the home, neglect this very important issue to women. It is not sufficient enough to provide money and pay utility bills but take time to know your children’s likes and dislikes, fears and worries and expectation of you, as a dad. I will be very happy to hear from you. Send me an e-mail through our at e-mail info@parentrens.com.  I will respond and have a fruitful discussion with you.


As a professional teacher with over a decade of teaching, I have observed that pupils who get the support of their children and parents do well and develop interest in academic work. Dear parents, where are you? Your children want you to show interest in their school work. Don’t be too hard on your children because of time. Show interest in their school work and they will reciprocate your good gesture through academic excellence. Don’t provide only their physical needs but be in touch with what they bring home. You might not know anything about the subject because the curriculum keeps changing, but your mere presence will be motivating enough. As a father of four young children, 9, 7, 5 and 3 years, I spend time every day to supervise them daily before going to school the following day. ‘Where there is a will, there is a way’. 

Have relax Sunday and stay blessed in the bosom of the Lord Almighty

Scout Linsky


Are you all out for you’re the relationship or you hanging on and looking for a greener grass at the end of the other side. Some people are not inside the relationship and blame themselves for making the wrong decision, but fail to measure their commitments in growing, nurturing, watering and pruning it to maturity. If you know that you get what you put into your relationship, you will stop handling it anyhow and make total commitment in your relationship.

Read these 5 things we don’t take serious when we enter into relationship

1. Respect Your In-Laws

Your partner is coming from a family. He or she wasn’t living on an island before you met him or her. Take note of the mother and the father. Periodically visit them and give them some gifts. They will appreciate it.

Remember you will not remain the way you are forever. Your child will also grow and get married and leave you one day. When that happens, you also become an in law.

 Do not forget his or her siblings and call them to find out how they are doing. It is very important to build your relationship around these people who matter to him. When problems come up between you and your partner, your in-laws come handy to provide assistance.

They serve as counsellors because they command so much influence in your partner’s life.

Don’t view your in-laws as intruders. They are part and parcel of the relationship. They make the whole relationship or marriage union complete. In some cultures, the in-laws play significant role in the marriage arrangement.

When your in-laws are heavily involved in constituting the marriage, divorces in such marriages are rare. The man or woman will think twice before taking any wrong decision.


2. Avoid Discouraging Words during Difficult Times

We all have ups and downs at certain periods in our journey to success. It can be a very difficult road to travel. Discouragement can set in, leading to frustration and disappointments. This period especially in a man’s journey can be very confusing.

Some men can easily throw in the towel if they lack self-tenacity to continue pressing on. It can make men to easily give up and resort to suicide to end it all. This is the moment you need to encourage him to continue all the good things he has started.

Your encouragement will serve as a morale booster for him. Men need the catalyst from their partners to press on. Even if he fails by not taking your special advice, don’t discourage him in his new adventure. No one knows which of his exploits will succeed.

Successful people are not without failures, but they are people who continue to learn from their mistakes until they finally achieve success. Words are powerful. God formed the earth by his spoken words.

Learn to choose your words carefully. Encourage him with positive words as much as possible. Know that you will be part of his success story. When he fails the whole family has failed and so is when he succeeds the whole family will rejoice.

Men, encourage your partners to achieve their dreams as well. Don’t confine them to the house but encourage them when they are down. She needs your encouragement as well when things are not going well with her. Encourage her to speak out about what is bothering her and in that way, you can assist her. Let your p

3. Don’t Take Your Partner’s Calls for Granted

Taking very important things like calls for granted can create problem for you in the relationship. Don’t tell yourself “after all”, it is Edwards who is calling”. The mere fact that he is your partner does not mean you should take him for granted.

Some people develop strange behaviors after they enter into a relationship. Your inability to pick his call can be interpreted as taking him o for granted and he no longer mean anything to you. If genuinely you missed his call, be courteous to call him back.  It shows how serious you have taken your partner.

Taking his calls for granted is a recipe for disaster in your relationship. You should value how much attention you pay to your partner’s calls. Do unto others what you want them do to you. These are little but important things we take for granted that finally destroy the love in the relationship. Bottom line; never take your partners calls for granted.

4. Stop Assault on Your Partner

What distinguishes us from animals is our ability to control our anger and emotions. You are human and can be angry because we dislike certain behaviors of our partners. You are not alone. I do get mad about certain things that did not go down well in the house.

In the midst of all these things, it never crosses her mind to lay her hand on me or push me. Don’t forget we have women beaters because they are stronger than the men they married. That display of ‘animal like’ behavior belongs to the animal kingdom. Avoid pushing your husband with the least provocation.

 Men are not supposed to beat their partners-so are women. Do not allow your anger to lead you into physical assault on your partner. Learn to control your anger and emotions. You are more rational than animals.

5. Deal with Dissatisfaction Feeling in the Relationship

The journey of marriage is long and demands hard work, perseverance, commitment, patience and “can do” attitude to make it work.

When things are not going well it may seem you have made the wrong decision for marrying him. Hold on and trust your supreme God, who makes all things beautiful at his own time.

Sometimes our negative thought brings about the way we feel and the result we get in our relationship. If you are always thinking of marrying the wrong person, you would ruin any good thing in your partner and you will continue to feel dissatisfy with him.

Most women pack their bags and leave the home when things are very difficult only to realize that their one time broke husbands are now multimillionaires.

Have you created a lovely atmosphere in the home for him to miss home anytime he is out of the house? Something about you might be chasing him out of the house. Do you call him to find out when he will be closing from work? Do you call to tell him you have prepared his favorite meal and want him soon at home? Do you call to tell him you are waiting for his French kiss?

The questions could go on and on. But these questions draw the men home after work. It makes them connect to their partners anytime they are out of the house. Create something unique that will make your partner want to come home after he closes from work. Don’t allow alcohol or other things to be his second partner after work.

How do you handle her weakness? Do you shout at her and treat her like a maid. If you don’t have her back in the relationship, you will always find something wrong with her. My wife has a problem of arranging things orderly. It gets me unhappy initially in our marriage, but having realized this as her weakness, I stopped talking about it and rearranged anything that she has disorganized in the home. You can also do likewise to avoid conflict in your relationship.

Stay Blessed and Happy May Day

Scout Linsky


Your negative attitude can make him go cold


1.Failure to Pamper Him Once In A While

Who tells you men do not like to be pampered once in a while. Men were once boys before they became men. Decide to prepare his delicious food and feed him like a child. Put on top of him when having sex that special day you’ve set aside to pamper him. Instead of him being on top, climb him and be in charge of the process. Clean him nicely after the process and serve him with his favourite wine. Take him out and drive the car. You are the one in charge of everything that special day you set aside. Make him feel like a small boy.

Men love it when women take charge sometimes. Remember if you sow this type of seed into the relationship, you will get a double portion from the man. Unless you are living with an “ungrateful human being” who calls himself a man. About 99% of all men would reciprocate the things I have asked you to practice. I am a man and I know it works magic on men. Practice them and gauge the attitude of your partner towards you.

2.Failure to Respect His Families

Your husband is coming from a family. He wasn’t living on an island before you married him. Take note of his mother and father. Periodically visit them and give them some gifts. They will appreciate it. Remember you will not remain the way you are forever. Your child will also grow and get married one day. When that happens, you also become an in law. Do not forget his siblings and call them to find out how they are doing. It is very important to build your relationship around these people who matter to him. When problems come up between you and your husband, the in-laws come handy to provide assistance.

They serve as counsellors because they command so much influence in his life. Don’t view your in-laws as intruders. They are part and parcel of the relationship. They make the whole marriage union complete. In some cultures, the in-laws play significant role in the marriage arrangement. When in-laws are heavily involved in constituting the marriage, divorces in such marriages are rare. The man will think twice before taking any decision. Modernity in the 21st century has gradually throw this cherished value away. It is nice to recognize the parents. After all, your husband did not come out of the blue. Someone might be responsible for his growing up.

3.Failure to Encourage Him

We all have ups and downs at certain periods in our journey to success. It can be a very difficult road to travel. Discouragement can set in, leading to frustration and disappointment. This period in a man’s journey can be very challenging. Some men can easily throw in the towel if they lack self-tenacity to continue pressing on. This is the moment you need to encourage him to continue all the good things he has started. Your encouragement will serve as a morale booster for him. Men need the catalyst from their partners to press on. Even if he fails by not taking your special advice, don’t discourage him in his new adventure. No one knows which of his exploits will succeed.

Successful people are not without failures, but they are people who continue to learn from their mistakes until they arrive at their final destination. Words are powerful. God formed the earth by his spoken words. Learn to choose your words carefully. Encourage him with positive words as much as possible. Know that you will be part of his success story. When he fails the whole family has failed and so is when he succeeds the whole family will rejoice.

4.Failure to Respond to His Call Promptly

Taking very important things for granted can create problem in the relationship. Don’t tell yourself “after all, it is Sammy who is calling”. The mere fact that he is your husband does not mean you should take him for granted. Some women develop strange behaviours after the marriage. Your inability to pick his call can lead to huge financial loss to him.

If genuinely you’ve missed his call, be courteous to call him back.  It shows how serious you have taken your partner. Taking him for granted is a recipe for disaster in your relationship. We value how much attention you pay to our calls. Do unto others what you want them do to you. These are little but important things we take for granted that finally destroy the spark in the marriage. Bottom line; never take his calls for granted.

5.Failure to Stop Physical Fight With Him

What distinguishes us from animals is our ability to control our anger. You are human and can be angry because we dislike certain behaviours of our partners. You are not alone. I do get mad about certain things that did not go well in the house. But in the midst of all these things, it never crosses my mind to lay my hand on her or push her.

Some women physically assault their husbands, a big shame to these women, because men do not have any right to assault women. Men are not supposed to beat their wives. So are women. Do not allow your anger to lead you into physical assault of your partner. Learn to control your anger and emotions. You are more rational than animals. Do not lower yourself to their level. Don’t give the opportunity for your husband to retaliate by hitting you back.

6.Failure to Make Him Comfortable

Do not create problems at home. Some women have made the home uncomfortable for their husbands to an extent that the man doesn’t even feel like coming home after work. Their attitudes at home makes the men take solace elsewhere than their own homes. If you belong to these groups of women, you have to reflect on your behaviour towards your own husband. Have you created a lovely atmosphere in the home for him to miss home anytime he is out of the house? Something about you might be chasing him out of the house.

Do you call him to find out when he will be closing from work? Do you call to tell him you have prepared his favourite meal and want him soon at home? Do you call to tell him you are waiting for his French kiss? The questions could go on and on. But these questions draw the men home after work. It makes them connect to their partners anytime they are out of the house. Create something unique that will make your husband want to come home after he closes from work. Don’t allow alcohol or other things to be his second partner after work.

Reflect on these 6 failures and you can walk your way back to the arms of your partner

Scout Linsky


Mr. Mark Cuban, an investor, a success America businessman worth celebrating

This is a post from Lifehack I want to share with you my cherish readers. It’s written by one of the successful personal motivational writer, a millionaire, a speaker, a trainer and a success coach. You will definitely pick one thing or the other

Start reading!

Everything that you’ve ever achieved, and want to accomplish comes from you – your mind.

You set the limits and expectations for what you want in life, which is why I mentioned yesterday, that the first step to breaking free from your limitations, is to learn how to control and change your perception of your current situation.

With this in mind, you can now actively take charge of your circumstances to build and create new opportunities.

So how do you begin?

Think of being at the beach, where you can see the tides coming in. When the tide is against you, it feels like an uphill battle. But when the tide is with you, like when you’re surfing, suddenly there’s this invisible force – a momentum that pushes you along and you’re able to ride the waves smoothly, like how that momentum pushes you towards your goal.

So part of taking charge of your circumstances is to systematically turn the tides in your favor.

That means actively and strategically building up momentum for yourself, to propel you where you want to go.

But first, you have to know what you want. You need to know where you’re going in order to set the right goals and the right actions to start getting there, right.

Next, you also need to see things in terms of Trends.

Do you believe that a big change requires some sort of big, dramatic decision?

Well that’s not always the case…

The truth is, that change, especially big change, almost never happens as a sudden, one-off result. They don’t happen in a sudden impulsive decision, because those almost never turn out well.

The outcomes that do succeed, are a result of a build-up of underlying factors that probably started a long time ago.

Think of the last major decision you made. The seeds that culminated in it, were probably planted months or maybe even a year before, am I right?

You can say that those seeds began a new life trend that started gaining momentum as you put more actions into it. And this really is how your life works.

It’s a series of trends. And a trend is a direction of change – it’s always moving forward.

But the thing about trends is that they’re either going up or down, and some are moving faster than others, but they’re always moving.

Another thing about trends is that you don’t notice the change happening at the time. The vast majority of change happens behind the scenes, and builds up over time. It’s not until it passes a critical point when it suddenly becomes apparent.

Real change comes from where your trends are taking you. Because a trend is like a river, once it builds up momentum, it becomes a force of its own, and nothing can stop it from reaching its destination.

So the secret to turning the tides to your favor, is to control your trends.

But a trend doesn’t start with your actions.

Like your limitations, it starts from your perspective – how you see the thing you’re trying to change. So once you change your perspective, believe it or not, you’ve already started creating a new trend.

You’ll start doing things differently, and soon enough it’ll become automatic. Slowly at first, but over time, these will build up into a completely new you in that part of your life.

So since trends are realized over time, this means that it’s important to start now, because big change is like a snowball. It accumulates from lots of consistent actions.

The upside to viewing change in terms of trends, is that you can start enjoying the change immediately. And the change doesn’t stop, as long as the trend keeps building up. It’ll continue to grow and get bigger and bigger…

The biggest difference between those who experience breakthroughs and those who don’t, is that the ones who see breakthroughs go through a total shift in mindset. They realize a need to see things differently, and as a result, they’re able to act differently which leads to successful outcomes.

Once you’ve experienced that shift in perspective, you’re halfway through the journey of breaking free from your current situation.

Tomorrow, I’ll show you how to journey through the second half of your breakthrough.



Share this email with a friend

Lifehack, 90 Church Street #3514, New York, NY 10007, United States


Women know what to do right in their relationship

What we continually do in our everyday undertakings becomes our habits. Knowing what to do and failing not to do it from time to time  and expecting the worse, becomes something sociologist called self-fulfilling prophecy. Look at this way-knowing that something bad could happen to you as a result of your attitudes and behavior toward your partner and when it does happen becomes your own doing.

These are the four things women do to create silence in their relationship.

1. Failure to Engage Your Partner in All Your Undertakings

Once you are blessed to have a partner as your permanent mate, you must be opened and get your partner involved in everything you do. Don’t keep anything you do as private anymore.

Unfortunately, most people in a relationship still keep certain things secret in their engagement with their partners. If your partner finds out that he has been side-lined from some important decision, you should be prepared to deal with mistrust.

Once mistrust has been established, the foundation of the relationship will begin to shake. It is difficult to deal with mistrust and everything should be done to involve your partner in all your doings.  Don’t create silence in your relationship by doing things secretly

 Don’t hide your true financial status and business ventures from your partner. Don’t engage in any secret affair and keep it as a secret from your partner.

2. Create More Surprises

We all get excited when we receive surprise gifts from our lovely partners. These surprises make us feel we are loved and cherished. It connects us the more to our partners and put our mind at rest. It reminds us that your partner thinks of you and wants you to be happy.  Make surprises in your relationship a regular feature.

Occasional buy something for him like (boxer shot, shoes, shirt etc.) and what you think will make him scream when he received them.

Women, do surprise your partner with his favorite food he was not expecting or different sex position. Let him do something naughty he has not done before. You should be able to know what will make your partner happy and get him falling in love with you again and again.

3. Create Humor and Fun

In my two previous books (Secret Men Desires & Hidden Secrets of Women) I have illustrated with clear evidence that relationship should be created every day. What this means is that there is no relationship that can create itself if the partners involved did not take the trouble to make it the way they want it to be.

Many people in a relationship take it like a world cup without any opportunity for fun and humor. You have the creative ability to make your partner laugh as often as possible. Tease him when your partner comes back from work.

Don’t be too serious in your relationship with your partner. Life is like an ice cream; enjoy it when it is caked or you will wait for it to melt away from you. Make it possible for your partner to have fun in the relationship with you

Most men are too strict with their partners without any allowance for fun or humor. Such men turn the relationship into a military academy. That’s why you must calm and entertain him. Make your partner feels at home to play with you and make you his dependable partner and friend.  After all the saying ‘all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy’ should play a center role your relationship.

4. You Aren’t Dating Him Anymore

Do you know that all men were once boys and still have the ‘boys’ in them? Your partner has a boy in him despite his age. Try and woo him every day by some of the stuff you use to tell him when you were seeking hard to get him to bed.

In fact, from my over 15 years of experience in relationship matters, I realized that men also want you to lobby them once in a while. Tell him something nice especially his appearance; how great he looks in her new shirt.

The world of men is so special; so, women ought to school themselves every day to be able to win in their relationship matters with men. If you know how to handle men, you will realize that they are not difficult to please.

‘If you fail to date him again, ‘a naughty lady’ will connect the dots and win him over by flirting with him. Don’t stop dating him again and again by what you do in the relationship. He want to be your best friend, travel with you, and hold your hair gently with his hand

5. Making Him Feel Special

Your partner wants other men to envy you-for having you as his number one partner. He wants to feel special in your arms and will do anything possible to maintain that status around you. In the eyes of the public, he wants to be envied and he cherish it as being lucky to have a great lady like you.

You must endeavor to help him both materially and financially to make him live up to that expectation. The more he feels happy about the relationship, the more he will give out himself out to you.

In fact, do you know how lucky he feels having you as his partner while his friends are still struggling to find suitable partners? Help him to feel truly lucky having you as his partner so as to make her friends ‘envy’ her. Making a man feel happy isnot difficult, it is an art everybody can learn including you.

Today is a special Friday, because Christians all over the world including me are morning the crucifixion of their Jesus Christ on the cross. I want to encourage you to give your life wholly to him- for he cares and love you.

Stay blessed under his protection

Scout Linsky



No more excuses! Do it or don’t do it – don’t make excuses. Your incredible brain to think up elaborate rationalization and justifications for not taking action. Do something. Do anything. Get on with it! Repeat to yourself: “If it’s to be, it’s up to me.” – Brain Tracy

A lot of us think something big should happen in the form of having large sums of money to start a business or a project, connection to “a big political office holder” being born into a rich family or getting educated up to the master’s level to be successful.

It’s a fact that very few people start off with many advantages. But the truth be told. Many people start from nothing and work their way to where they find themselves today. One quality that most philosophers, teachers and experts in the success industry agreed on is the ability of the individual to be self-discipline and take personal initiative

Let examine the 5 reasons why excuse giving only reduces you to live a low life


Many people are still thinking of what decision to take and the ideal time to execute such elaborate decision in their head. Our head is a goldmine- with so many ideas competing in your mind to come out to help others and the world at large. There’s no perfect time and day in the world to start implementing what you strongly feel about to do.

The path of least resistance is what causes people to take the easy way in almost every situation they find themselves. Such people seek to rationalize everything or give excuses for their inability to take the hard path. These type of people arrive at work late, waste a lot of time discussing trivial matters and leave at the first opportunity. They also look for get-rich quick scheme and opportunities.

I wouldn’t be a writer, a blogger, a teacher, a family man and a counselor- if I make excuses my national anthem as many people do on daily basis. There’s no short cut for real progress in life. All successes come from very hard work and those who want to enjoy successful life one day must be prepare to pay the price


When the Sociologist Dr. Edward Banfield of Harvard University conducted a fifty-year study into the reasons for upward socio-economic mobility in America, He concluded that the most important single attribute of people who achieved great in life was long time perspective. He defined time perspective as the amount of time an individual takes into consideration when determining his present action.

Do you have a long term plan as to where you want to go from where you want to be in the years to come, think long term and get out to do something now? Successful people have 5-10 years as to what they want to achieve in the set time, all things being equal. They move into action immediately to get the result they want to see in the days they set for themselves.

How long have you being into your comfort zone and day dream your perfect future? Nothing will be achieved if you failed to go after what you want. In fact, that’s the way the success equation is structured. Stop whining and complaining. You complain about time, money, opportunity, lack of education etc. If success is like eating pizza or pouring milk into coffee, everybody would have been successful.

Your ability to think, plan and work hard in the short-long term and the courage to discipline yourself to do what is right and necessary, before you do what is fun and easy, is the key to creating the kind of future you want for yourself.


The businessman, Herbert Grey conducted a long term study searching for what he called “the common denominator of success” After eleven good years, he concluded that the common denominator of success was that “successful people make a habit of doing the things that unsuccessful people don’t like to do.

Nobody likes to pay the price for success-both the successful and the unsuccessful, but the successful people pay the price all the same. That’s the difference.  If you are not willing to sacrifice your time to pay the price, forget about success. Do you like what you are doing? The inside of you is not happy about what you are doing- so, stop justifying it and stop deceiving your soul that all is well.

Motivational speaker Denis Waitley has said that the top people were those who were more concerned with activities that were “goal achieving whereas average people were more concerned with activities that were tension relieving”


“The first and best victory is to conquer self” (unknown)

The question many people ask every day is: why do some people accomplish so much in their personal and professional lives than others?  This question has occupied some of the very best minds throughout human history. Aristotle opined that the ultimate aim of human life is to be happy. He said the question that each of us must answer is “How shall we live in order to be happy?

When you are able to ask and answer that question correctly for yourself and then follow where the answer leads you-will largely determine whether you achieve your own happiness, and how soon. I am yet to come across anybody who wants to remain in his or her low state of life.  I want to achieve success that will pave the way for me and my family to be happy. I know you want to achieve the same for yourself and family.

Don’t allow anything to hold you back from taking a decisive action. The road to a successful life is a personal determined effort, nothing more, nothing less.


The great oil man, H.L. Hunt, who was at one time richest self-made billionaire in the world, was once asked by a television journalist for his “secret of success”. He replied “There are only three requirements for success. First, decide exactly what it is you want in life. Second, determine the price to pay for success that you are going to have to pay to get the things you want. And third, and this is most important, resolve to pay that price

Most people don’t really know exactly what they want and what they should be doing to get what they want? How are you preparing to pay the price? Is it not time to drop your excuses and do something you have been dreaming about all these years?

Motivational Speaker, Zig Ziglar says, “The elevator to success is out of order, but the stairs are always open” What Ziglar was saying is that there’s no perfect way to success. The road is rough but open to everybody. It’s up to you to turn your path, your own to get the best out of the way.

Stay bless

Scout Linsky

%d bloggers like this: